2006-07-18 14:45:32 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hey, I had got pregnant when I was fixing to turn 19 and I was 1 month pregnant when I was 19...She is fixing to be 2 in 3 months and my other one is going to be 1 in 4 months...I love having both of mine....I wouldn't know what to do without them...I am 21 years old, I don't regret having them, they are so fun and I want 3 more...It's hard, but it is so fun!!! Don't wait 2 long if you want a big family!!! Just to let you know....My oldest dad never saw her, the state is still looking for him, he doesn't even know he has a baby...My family was there for me, they help me with her until she was 3 month old then I dated my husband and we got married just before she made 4 month and then I got pregnant for my second...Now I have to wait another year before I can get pregnant again, so we can get a bigger vehicle....Good Luck in any decisions that you make!!! Just be sure that you are ready and willing to give up all your time to be with your lil one!!! It will be all about the baby and no more about you!!!! Oh, they also cost alot, you want the best and u catch yourself buying everything for the baby and nothing for you!!! At least that is what I do anyways!!!
2006-07-18 14:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by afinechic_2000 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I personally believe that it's best to wait at leat a few years. I think that mid to late twenties is an appropriate age.
Usually, with age, we gain maturity and security. Childrearing requires a great deal of patience, effort, time, and so much more. Often times these are harder to focus on at a younger age.
Take a long look at your life and where you are at physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. Please also take marriage into your thoughts if you are not already married.
If you feel that you have parts of your life you want to and need to work on, then maybe waiting to have chidren is best.
Only you will know ultimately if you should have children or not.
Just listen to your head and heart.
One more thing: whatever your decision, do not regret it. Have confidence in your decision making ability.
2006-07-18 15:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by isitlove20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until your financially stable and able to take care of a child. i had my first child at 19 going on 20 and it was a struggle. not saying that everyone has the same similar situation as mines, but i wish i had of waited now i'm 21 and i have a second child and i didn't know that it could be so hard. with all the support one person can have its still hard. so i say wait. wait until your married is even better lol.
2006-07-18 14:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by valerieweathington 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure you're ready, then you're not. Having a child completely changes the rest of your life, and makes you a slave to them for the next 18 years or so. A lot of people have simply decided not to have kids. Don't do it just because you feel like that's what's expected of you. You don't owe your parents grandkids no matter how much they may claim that you do.
2006-07-18 14:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by lenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 more years
2006-07-18 15:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by the_great_melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of at sixteen you in basic terms "think of" you be conscious of what love is. however the sixteen three hundred and sixty 5 days previous puppy love is great so i'm no longer likely to belittle it via asserting you're too youthful, you're no longer. only understand what it somewhat is. Now as for him being 19 AND being long-distance...properly if in basic terms one have been genuine i think of you will have a shot, yet the two jointly concerns me. First he's 19. If he's not a virgin, the probabilities of him no longer needing intercourse - and needing it each and every of the time - are very narrow. adult adult males are at their sexual top between 18-25 so he won't be happy with no longer seeing you each and every of the time. and that i'm assuming he's in college - college ladies placed out. you're able to could desire to be concerned approximately him cheating. long distance relationships are tricky and you're able to desire to have plenty have faith. yet upload in the two your a while, and that i do no longer see it lasting for long. you're youthful, you will discover many different adult adult males you like. And why shouldn't you! Date distinctive adult adult males, have exciting, that's what being 17-18 is all approximately. good luck.
2016-12-10 09:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are comfortable with having children. If you want to wait until you are finished with college or if you want to have them now. As long as you are able to support them on your own and you are mature. There is no magical age to have kids. However I strongly recomend being married before you have kids. Not because I'm some religious fanatic...but because it makes life easier.
2006-07-18 15:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Live a little. Trust me. At 19, you have at least 20 years of time to have a child.
2006-07-18 14:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are married and settled down with a permanent home. You will never be financially ready. Just when you and your husband decide it's best.
2006-07-18 15:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait,as long as possible.Your time to be a mother will come.You need to become financially stable, find a responsible man that is worthy of being the daddy of your child.
2006-07-18 15:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋