My husband is great, he doesn't cheat or beat me, but he likes porn. Should I be offened?

Answer 1

yes - it is foul. just because he doesn't treat you badly in other ways that many other women suffer - it doesn't mean you can turn a blind eye to this - it obviously makes you feel bad because you asked this question.
You also started out this question trying to justify his behaviour.
Stop trying to rationalise it in your mind... if it makes you feel bad then it is an issue

Answer 2

No. Although the not cheating and beating should go with out saying, if he is a great guy, chances are it will not hurt your relationship for him to look at pornography. This is, provided, of course, he is not looking at children or women being degraded (above and beyond the usual that goes with porn). You may also be concerned if he is looking at men together on a regular basis.

Perhaps at some point you will feel comfortable exploring with him what he finds erotic. You may want to share some of the porn with him and, at times, incorporate it into your existent sex life. This will serve to reduce or eliminate any threat that you are feeling while reducing or eliminating any guilt that he is feeling about "sneaking" it. Any way, give it a try and see if it doesn't enhance your sex life and your marriage.

If you have never looked at porn before, prepare for an initial shock. One more thing, porn is a fantasy and a much more healthy outlet than having an affair. Also, I don't think there are very many men who don't look at any pornography.

Relax.

Answer 3

No you should not be offended. He could just watch and have a fantasy that he knows you would not want to go along with, he could act them out with another woman but he chooses to have you.

So what if he dose this, he could pick up some things that you and he can share that will make the nights better for the two of you.
I learned to give oral stimulation to my wife of 20 years, I can now bring her to climax in 5 / 8 mins.
The first 15 years she maybe had 15 / 20 orgasms, now she can have them any time she wants.
As a couple we have explored many new things, some we liked some we did not. As individuals we have found things we enjoy and not so much. but without the variation that porn has brought to us I think we could very well have been divorced now.

Answer 4

well i would say no dont be offened get more involved, some people just dont like porn and that is ok to, but if you and him like it toghter i see nuttin wrong with that, now if your in your bed and he is on the computer or watching a movie then i would be upset becuase i think he should have come to me first to plesae and id i didnt want to then i would be ok with the porn thing, porn can be gros but i think it can also teach a thing or 2 about what each other likes, to me sex should be open for discuisson anytime becusae i think there are to many out there that think talking about will offened your partner when actually they love nuttin more but to here and try different things with the one you love, and i do believe that if you dont keep your man saisfied then someon else will and that nots good for either of you

Answer 5

heck no girl! Watch it with him and then use it as a chance to give him pointers....

See for some reason majority of guys will watch porn and think everything that is being done on there actually feel extremely good, because those girls like it right? Well, that may or may not be the case...so watch it with him then when you see something you like you can say..Oh yea, I like that...or if you see the guy doing just a horrible job at a certain task, you can say..man, He really has no clue down there....

All these things are telling your man what you do and do not like..as everyone style is different. So Don't be offended, all men like to watch other ppl screw. and a lot of women for that much.... just use it to you're advantage.

Answer 6

My husband would download porn , it didn't bother me at first hell I would watch it too , but then I seen that it was alot of it on my computer , big a*** or tig o bitties , so I said something about how much of it and why , and he said he would not do so much but still when I come in from work I see a movie being dowloaded , whatever I say , I will not say anything to him , every man has dog in them . Sometimes you have strays - the ones who cheat sleep with anyone, or you have a house trained I have a house trained. So in other words watch a little yourself you might learn something , that might be what he is doing. you said it good man who doesn't cheat , let him be

Answer 7

If he's spending time getting hot that way...then getting relief from you- you're just getting used as a vessel. He should be getting excited from looking at you and communicating with you. You could do better but I guess if you don't mind, live with it.

I think most porn movies are not created for couples. They focus too much on the guy and I find the stuff really boring and repetitive. Nothing can be learned from lame pornos. They're hardly instructional.

Answer 8

My wife was offended when we where first married in fact she threw out all of my porn not that I had a lot but there was more than one tape..but now after 11 years we have watch some porn together for fun and to find things to make fun of or try...

Answer 9

Most men like porn!. It does'nt mean they are perverted,it's just their nature. Men are "Visual". They look at a woman's outer-self,then judge their inner-self,after meeting. Women get offended when men look at porn,because women simply think the man is making comparisons,with her and the woman on screen. As long as you know he does it,and it's not some secret,then that's ok. How about looking at a movie with him?. You may see something different!. Let your fellings about the movie come out,and that way he'll understand if it's ok for him to watch with you,or without. If he would rather watch without you,then don't let it bother you. Just as long as he's not going out looking!

Answer 10

First ur question is "WRONG" your husband is cheating , just not in the physical sense of the word, he's cheating on you emotionally.. Any spouse that needs to fufill his or her emotional/sexual/personal desires with anyone or anything other then their spouse is cheating..

Ok for those that think im wrong think about it.. with most HUMANS.. we always want more in life.. so right now he's substituting his wife for porn.. then what? whats the next level when that gets old.....???? if you allow your man to indulge in acts that arent "appropriate" to their vows/marriage then they will eventually explore the next level...

You have every right to feel offended he's getting sexually turned on by other females although they are one dimentional they still arent you..

Answer 11

If it consumes his every waking hour, then yes. Otherwise, no. Men are visual, long time ago they have been totally transfixed on girlie magazines, now the internet. Let him look, it is fine, nothing against you and you need to be secure enough to let him. It wouldn't be any different if you looked a nice man with a great butt in a tight pair of jeans or like watching a favorite actor. If it interfers with your life, then time to step up and say something.