How can I get over obsessing over teenage memories & guilt ?

Question

I did some cowardly things & cannot forgive myself.I blame those things for how my life turned out.

Answer 1

What prevents you from forgiving yourself? Is there someone you feel you owe amends to? Someone to whom you need to confess? If you blame your past deeds for how your life has turned out, then perhaps you have paid your dues.

I did some pretty awful things when I was young and stupid, too. But I forgave myself mostly by recognizing that I had indeed learned the lesson, was not going to do any of that again (there were several things), and had long since done enough to make good to the people who were directly harmed. Those indirectly harmed I must leave to the fates.

Perhaps you have blown your crimes out of proportion. When people are young, they do stupid things. That's one of the reasons why we have juvenile laws separate from adult laws.

Answer 2

We're not supposed to be perfect. We're supposed to learn, grow and improve. Everyone does things along the way that we're not proud of. The sin is in repeating them. If you're a better person now you're on the right track. Just as you're supposed to forgive others for their mistakes, you must also forgive yourself and move on.

Answer 3

Same thing that is happening to me but I think is the opposite. I was bullied around, I was disrespected and harassed in high school. I am in college and I am still angry at those times and I wish I had defended myself better.

Answer 4

You are probably the only one who even remembers what you did. Let it go, try to do better in the future. Forgive yourself and forget it.

Answer 5

try sitting down & writing down all the things that greive you, then take that paper,find a nice fire & burn it,go on with your life & quit living in the past !!!! maybe see a pastor!!!

Answer 6

Look for inspiration, you dont realize how much there is out there.