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I am 40 years old and prefer to date someone close to my age for practical reasons but think that extended my age requirements I might have better luck. I think 54 is a cut off point for me. I worry however that since I would like to have a second child that the guys that are older don't want to have children. I have a daughter almost grown but always wanted to have 2 kids but have never found anyone in all these years that wanted to get married and settle down even when they were in their 30's or late 20's (this was of course when I was in that age group too)) What are the chances of a man in his 50's changing his mind about children or should I just give up on having another child someday? It seems like a man has always made the decision on whether I should have a child or not. I am not interested in becoming a single mother so that is out and my family has a high fertility rate in their 40's. My grandma had 3 in her mid to late 40's.

2006-07-18 14:37:29 · 13 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Try a match maker site like Harmony.com. They hook you up with someone who is your polar opposite. Just kidding.

2006-07-18 14:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by ticklefoot 4 · 0 0

don't go anymore then 5 to 6 years. Don't age yourself more by dating an older older man. That way you guys can be on the same level about things. Good luck. You might try dating a younger man. Like a year or two younger then you. Then he might want children. He would be younger and have entergy to take care of you.

2006-07-18 14:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by fabgirl 2 · 0 0

Jeremiah.....LOL.....gads man.


I think it's hard to put an age limit on that. I think you will have to take this on a case by case basis. Meet someone, get to know them a little and sort of feel them out on things and go from there.

I'd met 2 women with kids........near that age range, but younger by some years, and the kids and I got along great. The women were insane tho and the relationships were a train wreck.

Now I don't think I want to meet anyone with kids anymore for that reason. That may be a possibility for some of these guys out there. They have good intentions, and a good heart, love the kids, and vica versa, but get trampled on and end up going for women that are less of a threat to their feelings by trying to find those without kids.

I know that doesn't help you much, but I thought it might be a perspective that might help you weed thru things.

The willingness to be a father to someone else's kids isn't age, it's history, and maturity.

Good luck to you.

2006-07-18 14:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't believe in putting age restrictions on relationships. You never know you may meet a guy that is older or younger than you by 20 or 30 years and he may be the best guy you have ever met. I know from experience that age doesn't make a difference in relationships. I am 20 and my bf is 38. This is the best relationship I have ever been in in my life.

2006-07-19 04:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by babybro35 6 · 0 0

I think it's going to be hard for you to find a man that is close to your age in that age bracket that is going to want more children.. most men that are that age are divorced and are or have already raised their children.. but there is always a chance that you find a man your age taht has never been married..

2006-07-18 14:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I thinking a man in his 50's will most likely be thinking of retiring not burping babies. Think young. Did you ever try to date men a little younger then you? Like 35? Don't rule it out. Keep your options open and I'm sure you'll find someone but I would start looking and not wait for them to come to you.

2006-07-18 14:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by nm 3 · 0 0

I am two years younger and in the same position. My cut off is 55 if they are a "young" 55. I don't want any old men. I for sure would go no younger than 30 and that is really pushing it for me.

2006-07-18 14:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by Unknown 2 · 0 0

THEIR ARE MEN OUT THERE IN THEIR LATE 40'S AND EARLY 50'S WHO WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN BECAUSE EITHER THEY NEVER HAD ANY OR LIKE YOU THEY WANT ANOTHER. SO YOU JUST HAVE TO KEEP LOOKING BECAUSE TRUST ME THEIR ARE YOUNGER MEN WHO INSIST THAT THEY NEVER WANT ANY CHILDREN

2006-07-18 14:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by pepse23 2 · 0 0

i think go for what makes you happy. you are probably a magnificent woman and deserve any man you can get so go for a man, not an age!!

2006-07-18 14:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by summer(real name) 1 · 0 0

He can be 100 as long as he can still pitch a tent!

2006-07-18 14:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremiah 3 · 0 0

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