we started fighting over this problem yet she is so obssed that she stays till 1 or2 in the morning week days and all night on week ends she told me she choose yahoo answers over me what can i do
2006-07-18 14:28:02 · 15 answers · asked by smiley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get her into rehab asap
2006-07-18 14:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What else does she like? Does she like to go to the show? Why don't you plan a nice date with her this weekend. Make reservations for dinner and a movie. Bring her flowers. Let her know you love her. Before long, she will be spending more time with you. She's your wife. Think how you would miss her if you didn't have her any more? I think you'll agree that the effort is so worth it in the long run.
2006-07-18 21:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by AMELIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is rather addictive. I would stay up that long on here too if I didn't need my sleep, and I didn't have others in the house that also use the computer. We have 3 people in this house using the computer (soon to be 5). How we handle it is:
1. this is the computer that my dad bought for me so everyone in the house knows that I choose who gets to use it, when, and for how long, and if I want it or need it, then they need to get off within a certain amount of time that we discuss at that time.
2. When my fiance gets home, he checks his e-mail and eBay, then plays some solitaire, then is done. The 19 year old is allowed to stay on here until midnight (later if I let him; I had to set a time limit with him as he would be on here all night then not be up all day the next day).
As for you, the two of you need to sit down and discuss--both of you talking, not just you or just her--what your feelings are, why she wants to be on the computer rather than spend time with you, asking her what she wants from you/for you to do for her, etc. It sounds as if there are some deep feelings that she hasn't dealt with and the computer is her way to 'escape' from them. If discussing all of this doesn't work out, then maybe the two of you need some marriage counseling. While the two of you are discussing everything (I mean discussing calmly, not yelling or bringing up things from the past, etc, just staying on that one subject), the two of you can set up a schedule of how long would be good for her to be on the computer every night. We have done that in our home (I even make sure that I am off the computer at a certain time so I can go to bed, get errands and housework done, etc.). Otherwise, no one would get anything done around here.
I wish you luck. I do believe that discussing things (each others feelings about each other, the computer usage, etc) would help. The sooner you do this, the sooner you can get to the bottom of things. While discussing things, find out some things she would like to do, too, and then do them with her even if you don't like to do them so she feels like you are thinking of her rather than just yourself (we women tend to think men think of only themselves due to them not wanting to do things we like to do with us).
2006-07-18 21:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her for being there with you and not out running around. It is prolly just a phase. It will get boring and slow down after awhile. Just let her know you love her and continue doing what you normally do. Eventually she will realize on her own that she is being selfish. And she will prolly regret not spending time with you.
2006-07-18 21:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares! As long as she is home, and enjoying herself. You cant expect her to quit just because you dont like it. You can probably talk her into spending less time on it. But you know the more you complain about it, it just drives her to do it more.
2006-07-18 22:17:03 · answer #5 · answered by h0w U liK3 m3 n0w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull the fuse out of the computer and tell her you can't afford to fix it but don't let her find out what you have done
she might divorce you for the computer
2006-07-18 21:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just back off and ignore it. the obsession will end. maybe she's lonely. see if she wants to do something else. suggest something you think she'll enjoy even if you don't. she may be depressed.
2006-07-18 21:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by orangesensational 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do it she'll burn out in a matter of time. No nee for fighting over that.
2006-07-18 21:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by thresher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just start using it my self and so far I cant stop.... dont know what I will do when I get home....LOL
2006-07-18 21:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by sparky657 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know she is hurting your feelings by not wanting to be with you. tell her to find other times to do this and not for a long time. let her know you want to lay with her.
2006-07-18 21:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol cause alot of drama in your life to satisfy her need to have to fix your problems lol..
2006-07-18 21:31:48 · answer #11 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋