the good guy is everything i could ever want but the bad guy is the love of my life. i known the bad guy for 7 yrs and we have been through a lot so i dont want to loose everything we have worked on. he dosent realize what he has yet...i know one day he will see but i know my worth and i know i deserve better. the good guy wants to give me the world but i want to give the bad guy the world. my mind says the good guy but my heart says the bad guy. do i follow my heart or listen to my mind. please help me...xoxo
2006-07-18 14:16:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Darling, listen to your heart and your head will follow. That hardly ever works in reverse. If you feel the bad boy is worth hanging in there for then do it. And if he never comes around, you'll have no one to blame but yourself. Right? Right. If the good guy's trying to offer you the world, and you don't want it no one says you're obligated to take it. But wouldn't it be tragic if one day you looked up and neither of them where there?
My advice: Pick ONE! Don't keep both hanging on. If you don't want the good guy...let him go offer the world to someone else. And if you don't think the bad guy will come around... send him on his way to go under appreciate some other pathetic soul. Whatever you do... don't be selfish. There is more then you involved in this equation.
Best Wishes!
2006-07-18 14:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 17⤊ 2⤋
If you cannot give the good guy 100%, then leave him alone...he doesn't deserve 2nd best. As for the bad guy, 7 years of drama does not a relationship make. If he has not realized by now what he has, then he never will. I have a close girlfriend in her mid-30s who has been waiting 10 years for her boyfriend to realize what he has. He only wants her when he needs her. You deserve more than that.
2006-07-18 21:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't getting out of life what YOU want then you need to make a change, you can't depend on other people to make you happy and if you think that you can do better then I say go for it.
You have to be carefull though, if you don't really know the good guy to well you may find out he could turn into the bad guy. Good luck I hope all goes well.
2006-07-18 21:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~Ronyea Q♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the good guy of course! Love for him will grow, sounds like the other guy is all passion and past experiences that you don't want to let go of, you will make new experiences with the guy who wants to give you everything. I think you know what you should be doing. You just want someone to tell you to stick it out with the 'bad guy' the way you labeled these men in your life gives you the answer you are looking for.
2006-07-18 21:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by bickeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord child...dump the bad boy. They never appreciate what they have...ever...until they stop being bad boys and grow up. If you feel the need to FIX something...buy a house that needs work.
If you've found a good guy...run, don't walk...straight to him and be appreciative.
Most women do the "bad boy" thing at least once in their lives. Just don't be one of the stupid ones who really thinks you can fix them and make them all better.
2006-07-18 21:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart but keep in mind what ou will get with the good guy. Also. don't sit around trying to change someone they will change on their own when the time is right.
2006-07-18 21:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Peache264 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby,
you can't make a relationship work living on HOPE. i hope he'll change? if you are asking yourself that question, you know deep down inside the bad guy is not the one for you! just remember your heart can be blinded by love; but your gut is always right!
2006-07-18 21:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by minibiker22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant help who you like, but just know that if the bad guy hasnt realized all of the wonderful things about you now, than he most likely wont in the future. but also dont force yourself to like the good guy.
2006-07-18 23:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Fasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bad guy
they are bad but sweet like the sour and sweet candies
i adore them
and listen to ur hot not too wa ppl tell u
u wan adventure then do adventure dnt sit around da house respectin every rule
live likes its ur last day
2006-07-18 21:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not going to like this answer. leave the bad guy he isnt good for you. however the good guy deserves a woman who really loves him so leave him too. true love will come.
2006-07-18 21:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by starla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋