Losing a best friend?

Question

Has there ever been a time when you've lost your best friend, they just sort of turned their back on you and you could never find the answer why? And then you had the HARDEST time moving on from them and the good times you shared? If so, how were you able to move on? Is this a normal thing? I hate to think she's moved on, cuz I haven't and miss her soo much, and I don't want her to forget me or those times that we shared. You know what I mean?

Answer 1

yah i get it, it happens naturally, but try to talk to her about it. if that doesnt work, tell a friend of yours thats also a friend of hers and have them talk to her, if all else fails then just move on, and still be friendly to her

Answer 2

When I was in high school (so many years ago), I had been best friends with a girl named Sandy since grade school. We told people we were sisters and they believed it...because we were just that much alike.

Long story short...she ended up walking away from our friendship. It hurt, but you know what? I managed. There are very few people with whom you will EVER stay friends for years and years and years. Things happen..they move away..they change...they want different things. Funny thing is, I ended up staying friends with a person I was never "best friends" with in high school..and I've made a few of those long-time friends as the years have gone on.

You'll survive this. You'll make new friends. No one will ever be the same to you as she was...but maybe they'll be better. You just have to get on with your life.

By the way, I found smiling and always being pleasant to be the best revenge. She thought that her turning her back on our friendship didn't bother me at all...and it made her nuts for the rest of the time we were in school together.

Answer 3

its called life you and your friends, family, boyfriends will always have times when you just need time away from each other...me and my best friend have drifted apart many times (due to men)
but we always find our way back to each other...if you are meant to be friends then the friendship will come back but if your not meant to be close friends then just remember all the good times you two had together....sometimes people are put in our lives for a short while so we can experience different things same thing when it comes to boyfriends....you keep meeting people until the right people are meant for your life.....keep living life like you always do don't get down in the dumps....things happen for a reason we may not know the reason but we shouldn't question them either so just go with the flow and time heals all wounds....good luck and keep friend hunting

Answer 4

Yes, i've lost a best friend before. But guess what? I got over it as time went on. If i were you, i would cherish the memories that you both shared and get more friends to hang out with. Good luck.

Answer 5

I know exactly how you feel. I am in the process of losing one of the greatest friends I have ever had. I think that you could never truly move on until you and your friend have closure. When you left alone wondering why.... it leaves things messy for you. so I suggest trying you hardest to get your friend back...... or ..... get some closure..... Shake hands and move on. I know this must be real hard for you. best of luck though!!

Answer 6

It is just like being in a relationship with a man.. They will never forget you and the memories you share, somepeople just grow apart, cherish the memories and maybe send her a little note just to let her know you are thinking of her. Good Luck!

Answer 7

if u mean uve lost a friend bcuz they moved or something then in know how u feel. i moved schools and lost some of my best friends i hardly even knew them. i never even got to spend the night once with them.i also had a friend move to a different state.i didnt even get to go to her moving away party.now that im famous i hardly ever get to see my friends anymore but i still keep in touch thru email and myspace and phone and mail if u have any way of contacting him/her then u should.and soon


later dudez-alyson stoner

Answer 8

i had that problem three years ago. Her father had a stomach cancer and was sick in the bed for four months

i was there talking to her supporting to her that her father will be ok

when the father died, i went to her father' wake, i told her i was sorry and i will call uagain


and then..........i haven't hear from her or talk to her and finally, one day........she told me that i was mean to her and was nasty to her......i was like what are u talking about? and she say i not ur friend anymore

it took me a while to move on but i realize that people uses other people to live on.........and i think that is sicky..and her mother see me all of the time and gives me a dirty look(guessing that she tells her mother that i was "mean')...........

Answer 9

I am so sorry for the way you are feeling! This happens to everyone at one point in their life and it is truly a horrible feeling. My friend did this to me so I asked her if we could talk about it. She didn't want to so I wrote her a letter about how I felt and asked her to please tell me what I had done. She contacted me several times but would not talk to me about it. You have to tell her how you feel and then just know time will heal you.

Answer 10

yeah, i understand your feeling exactly. i had my best friend turned away from me when i was in high school because her boyfriend told her that he loved me. well, that was out of my control and i felt so innocent that time. but i did not give up on her and our friendship. i wrote her lots of letters, a card for each holiday and her birthday. she finally was moved and replied me with a sorry card on xmas day and we became best friends again.
so my message to you is - do not give up on the friendship if you feel it is precious to you still.

Answer 11

I do know what you mean.......but they have gone and not left you any choice but to do the same. It hurts and hard to understand and you will miss your friend. It will take time and I know everyone says that , but it is true.