Who believes in spanking a child when they've done something wrong?

Question

I do, because it teaches them that they have to respect authority, who the main authoritative figures are in their life, it teaches them right from wrong so they'll know what to do and what not to do. I've also found that it helps tame those wild, rebellious children. I've always heard that there is a direct line from the butt to the brain in a figurative sense, and it won't kill them either. It will keep them out of prison or winding up dead someday because of the healthy respect they learn. I've seen that they also love you more for caring enough to discipline them in the long-run.

Yes, there is a BIG difference in spanking and beating or abuse.

Answer 1

I do! I do! There's only so much that talking, time out and restriction of privileges can do. Don't get me wrong; I think these are good methods to discipline a child. However, some children need drastic measures sometimes. A good whipping can get a child's attention in ways that talking and time out can't. Too many children know that no real consequences are going to happen to them when they misbehave. Consequently, they learn not to have any fear of adult authority. I'm a teacher and I've had too much experience with some of these little bad *****. Willful and undisciplined children wreak havoc on the classroom, their classmates and later on, society. It is not fair that parents unleash these little brats on the rest of us.

Answer 2

I agree with you, as long as the child is spanked in a responsible manner, it's a time-honored tradition that seems to have fallen out of favor only recently. There is a line that can easily be crossed between spanking and abuse. The spanking should be done when the parent is not angry or upset and the child needs to have an explanation of what they did wrong to warrant the spanking.
Of course, that also depends on the age of the age and whether he/she is capable of understanding the explanation. I feel a small child who is misbehaving after verbal discipline, can receive a quick swat on the hinnie without drastic repercussions to the pysche.
I and all my brothers and sisters were spanked as were (and are) all nieces and nephews, and all are doing perfectly well, physically and mentally.

Answer 3

I don't agree with spankings. It teaches that hitting is ok, so what are you gonna do when your kid goes to school and hits other children? Tell him it's not ok to use violence? If you do, you're a hypocrite. Where do you think he learned it from? He or she probably saw mom and dad get mad and think 'well mom and dad hit my butt when they're mad, so it must be ok to hit other people when I'M mad" sorry, I just don't see the logic there.
I think parents should take some child psychology courses before resorting to spanking their children. It's actually fairly easy to communicate with children and get your point across. You really gotta get to their level, make eye contact with them (children have short attention spans, so you gotta get their attention) and explain to them what they did was wrong, WHY it was wrong, and then offer a CHOICE of other alternatives. Children do wrong things because they're children and they're expressing their autonomy and independence, they WANT choices, they rebel BECAUSE you've put restrictions on them. You can still restrict negative behavior, but do it in a way that the child has a direct role in his own punishment. For example: "Johnny it was not nice to hit your sister. I understand she made you mad, but it's not ok to hit other people when you're mad. You should tell mom or dad. Now, since you hurt your sister and made her cry, you can go say "I'm sorry" and give her a hug and tell her you love her, or you can go sit in the corner by yourself with no tv and think about why you were being bad" it's up to you." See, choices, and you're still getting what you want..instilling respect and courtesy and giving the child a choice in his own punishment. If he refuses both, then tell him those are the only two choices he gets and if he doesn't choose one, you'll chose a different one for him, that he won't like at all, like taking away a favorite toy or prohibiting seeing a friend, things like that.

Answer 4

I don't believe in physical discipline, and I feel that it's child abuse. There are MANY other productive ways to discipline a child, rather than physically hurting them. So, WHY do it? Tell me why you can't ground them, instead of beating them?

You beat those kids, and then those kids grow up, and end up beating THEIR kids more violently. End the cycle now, please.

Instead of sitting with your kid, and talking with them about what they did wrong, and "processing", you take the short way out, and beat them. What are they learning from that? That violence is okay, hence all the schoolyard fights, and violent teenagers.

I'm not going to bother elaborating any further, since it's clearly obvious that "religion" plays a role in this. Unfortunately, some parents don't have a mind of their own, and resort to a book when it comes to discipline.

Answer 5

I believe spanking is discipline just as long as it is done with respect to the child and not over done. I am a mother of two teenage boys and to be honest they know that respect is what any person deserves. My boys have rarely been out spoken and disrespectful to me. Yes, I did slap them in the mouth. I even told them if they wanted to call the cops or who ever they were welcome to. Ya know, a cop did have to come out one night for my oldest son...the cop told him that it was discipline and nothing he could do. Discipline and abuse are different. Many do not believe in spanking or the old fashion discipline with a spanking on the butt or slap in the mouth. I was raised good discipline means respect. I see nothing wrong with it. Yes, I agree in years to come your child(ren) will respect you more for teaching them with proper discipline. I find those children that do not receive discipline either grow up to be less respectful or spoiled rotten. Discipline and not abuse is the key. Do not be afraid to be a good parent.

Answer 6

i think of spanking on the butt or lower back of the legs is advantageous. no longer till they seem to be a definite age in spite of the indisputable fact that. i've got actual study questions approximately right here the place human beings point out spanking their 9 month previous toddler. WHAT?! whilst a toddler is that youthful, they have no theory why mommy or daddy is hitting them. All they be conscious of is that it hurts, so they scream and cry even louder. i think of roughly 3 is a competent age to spank, in case you like. via then, they are many times speaking properly and archives issues thoroughly, and you will reason with them WHY they are getting spanked.

Answer 7

Damn straight, people need to lighten up about that, it teaches them and it's not abuse because it can't cause any damage, at all, it just stings and sends them the message that what they did was bad.

I'd like to think there was a better way because I don't like to hurt things or people (buddhist) but if it's really going to teach them it's much better then letting them get away with it, and sadly sometimes it's all they understand. It may seem wrong but it's worth it in the long run, I don't see how it's worse then getting them circumcised abuse wise.

Answer 8

Damn straight. My child would have broken everything my wife and I own if not. Now all we have to do is use a stern tone and she stops in her tracks. Plus, it really is something that creates a sense of respect. I hope that she turns out for the better, as I was alot of trouble for my parents when I became a teen. My father didn't know how to discipline me properly and I took advantage of this......

Answer 9

Some Parents take it to far by using something other than their hand, or beating their child, but normal spanking I support. And i know that this may sound odd, but i would be the one being spanked, being i'm only 12.(good thing my parents think I'm to old for it!)

Answer 10

me too, but it is a question of severity. a short sharp rap or smack should do (and not some of the belt beatings or canings that you hear about). But somehow being sent to your room where so many kids have CDs, DVDs, tvs, computers, play stations in their rooms is not a punishment but a preference!
I also think children should hear the word 'no' more often and be allowed to be competitive at sport. Sometimes you have to know what it feels like to lose or come second.
I think they call it cruel love.