if a female to male was gay and was hitting on you at the club and you were not aware of anatomy if you took them home with you would you be able to follow through or would you be angry at the trans person?
2006-07-18 13:31:56 · 17 answers · asked by lady heather 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I actually had this happen to me! And, though he was honest before any clothing came off, I just couldn't bring myself to go through with it. It was unintentional, but my attraction for him dried up straight away.
Oh, and, no, I was not angry. Just dissapointed.
2006-07-18 17:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by eljonez 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel compelled to answer this even though I am not a gay man. I hope I don't offend by choosing to answer.
I think that there are a couple of questions, one, how much did you like him? I mean, do you see this going somewhere or was it just sex? YOu were attracted to him originally, right?
Because, if you see it going somewhere, then personality MIGHT mean more than anatomy.
However, if you are totally turned off by the anatomy and that would make it so you couldn't take it to the next level (relationship wise or sex wise) then again, move on.
It must be so hard to be looking for a relationship or even just sex and hope that whomever you pick up or wind up with will be understanding. There must be so much fear of rejection. Do you feel like you were lied to?
Shoot man, it is so hard today to find people to connect with and to have a relationship with, that if you found someone who you could connect with is anatomy that important?
For me, I suppose I would be upset that they hadn't been upfront with me. But then again, maybe they were "feeling" me out to determine whether it was safe. (no pun intended)
IF the guy wasn't for me, then I would tell him that I would have preferred that he were honest with me before we went home together and then I would forgive and move on.
Hope my 2 cents was worth something. Wish you all the best.
2006-07-18 13:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by swankyandsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, in the first place, i cant understand why a female to male would be hitting on a guy, considering if they were into guys, they should have stayed female, even tho i am aware of the "right church, wrong pew" thing. seems like the f-m would be hitting on the women, in order to be "straight".
now, that you have asked this question, i in turn have a question, regarding, how many transgendered people, were gay AFTER they had the surgery?
2006-07-18 13:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by daddysboicub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The transsexuals I know do not hit on people -- I also don't pick up at clubs -- I've been with the same partner for 15 years almost. I don't know that I would be able to perform -- or want to however.
Angry? No. Hurt that they'd deceived me -- yes. There are lots of people who they could have had who want them as they are. I'm not one.
Reyn
2006-07-18 14:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why should I be?
Is the F to M pre-op or post-op?
Anyway I'm bi and I like sex with all adult human beings.
In reply to previous poster's question Lots of transsexuals retain their original sexual preference even post-op. So quite a lot of M to Fs become lesbian and F to Ms are often gay.
2006-07-18 13:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect trannies and they should be happy and all that, but I don't want to have sex with one. I'd be pissed. But not because they are trannies, but because of the deception. Plus, as good as the surgery and hormonal treatments are, I doubt I would find a FTM that was butch enough for me to take them home in the first place.
2006-07-19 03:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angry? I don't know. But maybe it appeals to you and maybe it doesn't. You have to decide that for yourself. It would have been better if he had been honest up front....but put yourself in his shoes...he probably had a better chance with you one on one than he would have by telling you before you left the bar together.
2006-07-18 15:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be angry that they decieved me. i wouldnt be all that angry but i would be slightly. and i wouldnt be able to go through with it.
if a male was to cross dress as a women and pick up a str8 guy do you really think he would go through with it?? why would you expect different results with gay ones?
2006-07-18 13:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by yusiko y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. dont even imagine that. if thats who you want and respect who cares what each and every individual else thinks you understand? If thats what you want thats all that concerns lol. in my view i love that music. yet im also a lady ha(: yet nevertheless its no longer gay. its good to have a comfortable aspect.
2016-12-01 21:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt I'd be able to go through with it but I'm not sure if I'd necessarily be angry...
2006-07-18 14:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by musikurt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋