I'm aprehensive (excited yet nervous) about having sex but im not sure if im gonna know what im doing....seein dat im still a virgin. What if shes not a virgin and i dont...uhhh how do i say it....give her what shes expecting. OH YEAH 1 MORE QUESTION. when i DO have sex....how do i know when 2 put on the condom...kuz i dont wanna have 2 get up and ruin the moment.
2006-07-18 13:19:54 · 16 answers · asked by x_royal_t_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i was only 15 when I first had sex. i won't say i wish i had waited but it is better to becase you are more knowledgable and less emotional. plus i look at what would have happened to my life had I gotten pregnant at that age. it is something to think aobut. and don['t have sex just becuae "everyone else is doing it"
2006-07-18 13:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by googirl77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, wait wait wait.
Wait.
It's like a tattoo, once you do this you can never go back and virginity is not something to throw away. Please wait until you find someone who is special enough to give this gift to. AND make sure she knows your a virgin. If she is special enough, sharing this with her will only bring you closer. Find a girl who will respect you. 14 may seem like you are old enough to have sex but I am telling you that if you do it too soon you will regret it. If you are "fooling around" already, keep it to that only. Seriously. You get the same effect but you get to keep your virginity. Just wait a few more years. Plus, you can get serious and I mean serious situations resulting from sex...pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, etc. Easily. Pregnancy happens easily...just one time of unprotected (gee, I didn't want to interrupt the moment) kind of sex and you will be a father FOREVER. Same goes with Herpes, Clamidia, Gonnorhea, Hepatitus and of course HIV, just to mention a few.
Sex is great but intercourse isn't the only way to enjoy yourself and your partner. Find a girl who is respectable and can honor you and then wait until the time is right...you will KNOW when it is right if it is the right girl. IF you are asking now, whether it is right or not, then it isn't the right time.
I wish you the very best in life.
2006-07-18 13:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by swankyandsweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say you were 14????? When I was 14 I still thought boys had cooties.
You are mature enough to be asking for advice, and sound like you want to act responsibly, so I am going to think of you as a young man instead of a boy.
My advice is do educate yourself on the subject. Even if you are not ready, knowing what to do will ease your mind.
Please though, there are a lot of horrid diseases out there, lots of girls who like to mess up a guys mind, do not do the sex act until you have more years in your dish and are in a solid relationship.
Sad smile. Lots of my high school friends thought smoking made them look cool. Thought they could quit anytime they wanted to. They couldn't, and several are dead now due to lung cancer.
Drinking was cool too. I know people who became alcoholics and lost their families their, jobs,and their self-respect.
What I am trying to say badly, is things which can appear cool to teenagers, can bite their butt later on. Do your future self a favor, and don't do anything you are not ready for...because if you don't feel ready, you are not ready. Doing things you are not ready for can cause lasting damage to your psyche.
There, now I will get off my soap box :)
2006-07-18 13:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Matilda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
losing ur virginity is not an achievement that should not even be on your mind (14) hello but if its really on your mind to lose is be prepared cause 9 out of 10 times the person u are losing it to is not a virgin and he will be more concerned about being your first than makin u feel satisfied so either way u will be unfullfilled.do me a favor lil sis,take your time u only a virgin once .and the condom thing it should beput on b4 any insertion into a hole mouth anal or vagina. i feel very uncomfortable talking to you about this i have a daughter 1 yr older than you ,please don't act hasty about sex and to be sure please talk to an older member of your family. they are more understanding than you think.keep your mind on them books and good luck sorry thought this was a girl but it still applies though just figure out the terminology and apply it to manspeak sorry
2006-07-18 13:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the first guy said... you should be more worried about Kool-aid flavors. Most people are still virgins at 14. Wait a few years and then think about it again.
2006-07-18 13:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok stud. You are too young to worry about sex. Go to the playground and swing or something. Don't worry about girls at all until you are 16 or so. Then wait until you are 21 or so to have sex.
2006-07-18 13:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by swaman33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i changed into 13 I beleive it is countless years later and that i nonetheless communicate with the youngster i presumed he changed into my soul mate yet we both went diverse techniques and that i'm now engaged to the 2d man or woman I had sex with :) besides the actuality that i does no longer advize that being 13 is too immature i did not comprehend any extra proper and thank god i did not get pregnant
2016-10-14 22:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be thinking about sex and dating.
Enjoy your teens years now. When you get older, you will wish that you had.
2006-07-18 13:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude you're 14 what the hell do you mean you don't want to wait too long you're still young wait until you're in the middle of high school at least.
2006-07-18 13:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 14 dont worry about it the time will come and you'll know when your ready and as for the condom the box has intructions
2006-07-18 13:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by rose05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋