am 17 and my girlfrend is 15 and she wants a baby at 16 and a half?

Question

its all happend after my 16yo couson had a baby now she wants one what do i do

we have been together for a year and she has helped with her sisterinlaws kids since yhay were born so she can cope but i dont know what to do i love her too bits but not ready for a baby plus ma dad would kill me

thanks everyone for helping but if u have more keep going i need as much advice as i can get once again thanks

Answer 1

certainly DON'T listen to " D T's " answer, you will still be held responsible for maintenance payments for 18 years!!! .your girlfreind is in love some kind of romantic idea of having a baby!!no disrespect but she really doesn't have any idea what a HUGE commitment and responsibility it is!! she isn't mature enough and neither are YOU!!. sweetheart you have your whole life in front of you , don't tie yourselves down far too early. Young people are supposed to be having FUN not playing house. i can't stress it enough, your playing with fire here and there's no way you could avoid getting burnt! and what if you did have a child? is it really fair on the baby to have parents who are so inexperienced in life?? no darlin think again, please!! i really hope iv'e helped you. so what ever you do keep your SENSIBLE head on!!! bye for now.

Answer 2

Ask her why she wants one and what makes her think she's ready (and tell her that she can't expect mommy and daddy to raise it for her when she realizes she can't handle it). It's most likely her just seeing her cousin having one and being jealous and thinking she wants one. She could spend the day with her cousin and the baby and (hopefully) realize that she's nowhere near ready for that responsibility. Babies aren't all cute and cuddly all the time and she can't just say she's tired of it after a few hours...or days, or whatever it takes. It's a life FOR LIFE!! Get her one of the dolls that mimics a newborn (cries randomly 24/7, you have to feed it, change it, etc. and it won't stop crying until it thinks it's soothed and sometimes continues even after you've done everything you can think of to try to soothe it - something that real babies do a LOT of!). That would help her realize she's not ready! And not to offend anyone, but tell her that a baby deserves more. Tell her she needs a job, a home, an education so that she can provide for the baby. She needs to concentrate on finishing school. All babies deserve that (sure, they don't all get it, but they deserve it!).

Answer 3

Don't do it. This is a lifetime commitment. Do u both have jobs? Where are u going to live? Are u ready to give up your freedom and share time? What if u to brake up u will always have to deal with each other because of the baby and she sounds like she has issues? Babies are very demanding, get sick , and need all your time attention and more. Talk to someone your age with children and even other people. Are u willing to do everything on your own, everything your parents have done for you. What kind of life do u want for yourself? How will a child affect your future? What do u have to offer a child? Do u feel you have lived enough to teach and guide a new life?????

Answer 4

That may or may not be the right time for her but is it the right time for you? Ideally you should be able to support the baby financially as well as emotionally and still be able to lead a happy life not dictated by the hassle of parenting.
Speaking from a perspective of someone who has been in the same position as you, I would advise you both to discuss whether you know each other well enough and could be happy together raising a child at such a young age for 18 years. The child will need a stable home environment so its best if you two KNOW that you could be together for so long to be good parents. To be honest, it very rarely happens, but you may be one of the rare couples.

Answer 5

I am a wee bit older now (36) but when I was 14 15 16, I loved the idea of having kids, thankfully, I never did ( probably due to not having lost my viginity till I was 19!!lol) but seriously, I have, really have, seen the world travelled, and fun and mad times, found TRUE love (I know you think you are in love at 17) love changes, suddenly you realise it IS forever, and a child really IS FOREVER too. Even now, my child is 4 years old, I am 36 and I still feel too young!!

Answer 6

when i was 16 i t hought the same thing. i thought i was ready. but after talking with a few girls in my school about how they are doing with there kids i realized i dont want to give up all my freedom just yet. now im 22 and i have a 3 yr daughter.i got pregnant at 18. i wish i would have waited longer. You need to let ur gf talk to ur cousin about how hard it is getting up every couple hours to feed, and change the baby. kids are not cheap. if your not ready for all the responsabilitys of having a baby so young you really need to let her now. she still has lotz of life to live. she has prom, homecoming, graduation, with a kid she has none of that. your kids come first before all the fun.

Answer 7

All I'm going to say is sit down and talk it over for real because it's hard than you may think. I'm not going to discourage you but you both need to have a plan first, like jobs finishing school first, housing, because I don't think you want to say with parents or even if they are accepting of that. But you need to have a plan that baby is going to need a lot of things in life.

diapers
food
clothing
cribs
toddler bed
medicine, etc and the list goes on.

Think long about that before you make a decision on having a baby.

Answer 8

Wooooa

DO NOT GET HER PREGANT YOU ARE WAY TOOOOO YOUNG AND YOU WILL RUIN YOUR LIVES...


You are just starting your love and sex lives... you want many years doing this before you have kids as when you do kiss it and your social life goodby.


no more friends, parties, gigs, nightclubs, uni, hanging with mates or anything...

She is broody... Very bad...

DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER WHEN LIKE THIS AS MAY DO SOMETHING DUMB LIKE PUT A PIN THROUGH YOUR CONDOMS OR LIE SAYING ON THE PILL...


If she gets pregnant it wont be funny no more.


Look she needs the flowering baby vision wiped out... get her looking after someone elses baby 24 hours, 7 days a week for a month...


No sleep, cant go out or anything


Plus the nappies, no money no life



Note this is from Mr open about sex mate not some nutty relgious freak saying no sex before marrage... you should have shed loads but with till she is a little older, not into babies and on the depro injection and Id go with he and make sure she takes it

Answer 9

Dont do it, why mess your life up. IF she wants a child so bad then let it be with another. Ya'll are way to young for kids. Have some fun and enjoy life before you have your children. Alot of responsiblity comes with being a parent, and if it dont work out your looking at child support. And if your not really prepared like you think you will be then you will be in for a rude awaking. Good Luck

Answer 10

Don't be silly!!!!!
Life changes a thousand fold througout a lifefime. The time to have babies is around 23 to 28yrs old for a good mum. At that age you have the patience to nurture a child and have fun puddle jumping, rock-pooling by lantern light, playing at snow angels, bug hunting under stones. Please enjoy your young years with each other.

Hormones and love stuff clouds your brain at your ages. I know, was there, had the poop that goes with it.

Now almost 50yrs old I am having the time of my life--ride motorcycles--attend huge rallies and parties---look exeptional beside the 21yr olds with bad skin and fat.

Being a mum was the best years in the past-raised my daughters on my own.....

Leave the babies till you are able to support them mentally, finacially and with the patience for all the support they need to grow into fulfilled adults in their own right.

Answer 11

Find someone who's had a baby young (who's older now) and have them talk to her about how hard it is. Having a baby before you are mature enough and can afford to pay for it on your own is crazy. Talk to her about how much it costs (did you know that babies cost over $10,000 in their first year of life to care for?- formula, clothes, cribs, diapers, toys, etc... and when you think you're done, they outgrow their clothes and you have to buy more!) Do you think she'd be able to have a baby, get a job and finish school?!? Not without going on state support for the baby... And going to college, you'd have to have a clone of yourself to have time to sleep... getting a nice home when you're older? No, cause you've not been able to save money while having a baby to buy clothes for.