My ex and I broke up a few months ago. I dumped him, but I think it was all a setup because I later found out he was dating this other girl. Anyways, he and I were in love. We were together for nearly three years, until this female came into the picture. After that, I was still all over him and I was trying to get him to come back with me. I couldn't even let him be, because my feelings for him were quite strong! Well, they aren't together anymore, but they are still friends (not with benefits; just hang out a lot); and he and I are just friends. Well, lately I have been letting him be. I have been giving him his space and I don't stalk him or blow up his phone. When he ignores my texts or calls, I don't cuss him out like before. I don't know if he sees it, though. I feel like he is taking advantage of it and because I don't push him to communicate with me, he doesn't at ALL! What should I do? Will he ever find himself running back to me in the future, if I keep letting him be? HELP ME
2006-07-18 12:55:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe if you lay off he will...in most relationships problems get worst with one pursuing hard.
Give him space if he cares he will.
If he don't it was never meant to be.
2006-07-18 12:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to toss your cards on the table and then step back and see what he's going to do. If he KNOWS what your feelings are, and then you step back and give him space and time to process it, you will get a better result than trying to force him into hurrying up and making a decision. I'm not going to say it's not going to be frustrating, or that it absolutely will pay off, but it should get you the truest resolution.
But it also depends on how deep your feelings run and how much patience you can muster. Good luck!
2006-07-18 13:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a long life ahead of you. You will make many choices along the way which will affect your life. The decisions will make you who you are. If this guy means that much to you then it will work itself out. If it wasnt meant to be then you will both move on and find someone else at some point who will mean just as much to you. Take care of your self before you pursue anybody else.
2006-07-18 13:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard to take, but you need it. This guy is not interested in you any more. If you left him strictly alone, even crossing the street when he came down the sidewalk, it would give him a chance to think about the relationship. But really, if you juist ignore him, you may find that your life is complete wtihout him. Then, all you have to do is decide whether you still want him or not.
2006-07-18 13:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Delora Gloria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tiem will tell and you should never ever ever chase any guy. Let them come after you. if you keep calling him he knows he has you like a fish on a hook and he's just keeping you dangling in the water until he gets board and will use you for awhile. there is someone out there you will respect you for who you are and not leave you hanging in the breeze
2006-07-18 13:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by what do you think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Have more respect for yourself! Don't sit around waiting for some guy who was possibly cheating on you. Find someone who will treat you like a real man treats a woman... with love and respect.
2006-07-18 13:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off you dumped him! second off he gave you a damn good reason he was dating another girl Finally, this jerk doesnt sound like he is dating material. YOu should just move on there are plenty of men out there trust me something similar happened to me . it not fair to you.
2006-07-18 13:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater.He cheated on you before so he is probably cheating again. Find a guy who wants you and only you. You deserve someone who will be true.
2006-07-18 13:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell!!! It sounds like you are giving him space though. That might help. Keep working on it. Good Luck.
2006-07-18 12:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth your time. Why do you want him back? He cheated on you before, and that's only the time you know about. He'll just cheat on you again and end up leaving again.
2006-07-18 13:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋