You're right about the discrimination with one exception: it seems to be socially acceptable to discriminate against others based on weight and looks. I have been thin and also (because of a thyroid condition) also heavy. I can tell you that people definateley treat you differently as a heavy person. Most people assume that just because you're heavy you must be lazy, dirty, unorganized and just generally a slob... in reality this is no more true of heavy people than of thin ones. This is one issue that still carries a double standard based on gender as well... it seems to be totally socially acceptable for a thin pretty woman to date/marry a heavy less attractive male yet most men, no matter how average, would never dream of dating/marrying a heavy woman. Even funnier is that most heavy men lead the charge in discriminating against heavy women... go figure! I DO think that heavy women feel pressured to overachieve in other areas of their life as a way to "make up" for the fact that their not petite. From my own experience I can tell you that I work with about 60 men and have been asked out or pursued on a regular basis... the interesting thing is that these are men who KNOW me. They have gotten to know me through talking to me and laughing with me and over a long period of time (six years). I also regularly go "out" with friends and not one time in the past year has a man hit on me.( I might add here that although I'm heavy, I feel I am more than average looking.) I guess the moral of the story is that true love and great friendships are sometimes found in people and places you would never expect... so dont close any doors until you've gone through them. And by the way, I'll take that hug! lol...
2006-07-18 13:05:55
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answered by ? 2
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Probably because most guys think with whats between their legs rather then think with what really counts.
Of couse noone wants to take the time to get to know a bigger person for the fact that they are big and might ruin the reputation but most "good looking a.k.a "hot and sexy" girls, have the shittest attitudes and think they are better then everyone else most of the time. Come on now, who wants that? Only the guys wanting sex!
Seriously some people need to open up their eyes, beauty doesn't last forever but your inner beauty will always shine through.
2006-07-18 13:09:09
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answered by Anonymous
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"Do Fat/ugly girls have Deeper nicer personalities than pretty girls?"
No, but the perception is that "pretty girls" do. Mankind has a tendency to look at physical beauty as a window to the soul, so when we see a pretty girl or a handsome guy we automatically, on an unconscious level, think they are cooler, smarter, richer...etc, more worthy of our attention and praise. It's unfortunate, but true. Even infants respond to beauty and pay closer attention to that which is aesthetically pleasing to the eye (This is documented).
Anyway, perhaps the circumstances that come with looking a certain way play a great deal into one's personality, but ultimately who one really is inside always shines through....and we are all the same: Different.
2006-07-18 13:01:20
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answered by Flyleaf 5
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ok call me a hater... I'm 23 year old size 16 mother... i don't have blond hair it's more of a brownish/blond with a hint of red my eyes are not blue they are hazel/green I'd like to lose 60 lbs,so i could look like all the girls on t.v just because it seems that is what is socially exceptable.
my hips are wide my as$ is a little small i don't care to wear a tone of make up .... my breast are nice at a 36D they are somtimes the only think to catch a guys eyes... people are cruel, i hate being around all the mob of 100lb/blue eyed/blond haired clones in public they get all the attenton and are so rude and stuck up at times.
i love my body , it get's me wwhat i want and need i'm married , and have been in other extra marital relationships, and I still get flirted with, but alot of the times it's after a guy has talked to me and relized that I am beautiful!
i've learn't this about guys too... the really sexy ones are not always the beautiful ones once you get to know them. althought i think both my husbands and my "friends " are sexy & have inner beauty.
then I think maybe it's better that way...i'm not a fashion model clone... everytime I see "one of those girls" i give them a number 'look there goes clone # 3,789 and 5,709,it makes me laugh and humor is always a good thing!!
2006-07-18 12:58:14
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answered by JeNe 4
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I think that is a reasonable idea. It makes sense, unattractive people would need to have better personalities to attract friends and mates. I do know alot of mean, ugly people though. I suppose some people just don't care if they are liked. I think you sound kind and I aggree that ugly people are treated as less worthy of everything than pretty people. I think that is obvious just from the way people talk to others here on answers.
2006-07-18 12:53:30
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answered by danac210 5
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Like you say, its discrimination to think that fat/ugly girls have a better personality than say hot girls. But I think it really just depends on the person. See, I met this girl once. The most popuar girl in high school. She was friends with my crush... Any way.. I tried to befriend her to have a link to my crush. Turns out this girl is the nicest girl ever. Beautiful and blonde but with a brain (another steryotype: dumb blonde:) So I think getting to know a person is best. But some people just weigh it : does her hottness surpass her un funniness or does her personality surpass the fact that she's as ugly as my grandpas dick? It's all just a question of who you are. See people change. So do ourselves and our views in people change. I think that we should just end it.
2006-07-18 13:15:03
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answered by Suarz 2
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The majority of women are happy with themselves - inside and out - because we know that the average person does not fall head over heels for Hollywood's idea of "attractive." Therefore, we walk around with the knowledge that there are a great number of people who believe we are attractive bodies and personalities and that men love it when they can get both in one package.
The idea that Barbie with her plastic hour glass figure is the image of feminine perfection was melted in the microwave decades ago.
Now, my question to you, is why do guys limit themselves and their relationship to Hollywood's idea of "attractive"?
2006-07-18 12:53:05
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answered by moonguardianluna 3
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some times
2006-07-18 12:48:44
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answered by Baby 6
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Opinions Vary
2006-07-18 12:47:30
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answered by ₦âħí»€G 6
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I know a lot of fat, ugly girls and most of them seem to be quite pissy/moody. I think it's because they ARE fat and ugly. Fat and ugly are one of the worse fates a woman can face because of the horrible, cruel society that expect to see women all look like those beauties on Desparate Housewives. That is not reality, but most women do put a lot of pressure on themselves to achieve that goal. Plucking, shaving, dying hair, ironing hair to straighten, padded bras, high heeled shoes, etc. It totally sucks! Thank God I am married now and it doesn't matter anymore. JUST KIDDING!!!
2006-07-18 12:55:37
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answered by Sugar_Mama 3
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