well im 14 turning 15 next month. well im dationg this guy (he looks like the guy david from simple plan)he's 16. he is the best! we have been dating for about a year and i really love him a lot, but sometimes it seems like puppy love. well yesterday me and him spent some time together. it was like 9 pm and there was some little kids playing baseball so watch them. then i went to his house to get my cellphone then he asked me "THE QUESTION" and i was like no way! then we just watched the news everything was normal but now i feel bad like things arent normal, what should i tell him? should i call i quits, or give it up? come people i need help. i have no one to tell this to. i asked my friends but the were in shock. any older help pleaz?
2006-07-18 12:45:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah he knows im 15, is it normal to feel guilty though i do, but he seems like nothing happened. he called me an hour ago talking normal
2006-07-18 12:59:37 · update #1
Don't do it. You can only give your virginity away once. Sex is suppose to be something special between and your husband. And, no matter how "safe" you are, there is always a chance of you getting pregnant or a disease.
2006-07-18 14:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Gwen 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. Some guys will say ANYTHING to get into a girl's pants. He's only dated you for 3 months and you're 15? He doesn't want you preggo, he just likes the FEEL of sex better without a condom. (Sex feels better without a condom for some men.) He's not worried about you or what you want, he's focused on his own selfish needs. If he gets you pregnant he will probably dump you, ask you to get an abortion or pay you child support without being a real father to your baby. Even if he were the one in a million guy to actually marry you, the likelihood of your marriage lasting is statistically close to zero at your ages. And you would be giving up your own childhood to raise a baby. Also, it would be illegal for the two of you to have sex now with your age differences. He could be arrested for rape, and rightfully so. Say no and if he dumps you know that he has only been dating you in hopes of getting sex and that he's a waste of time. The right man who truly loves you and not just your body will wait to have sex with you until you are ready. And that man is out there if this guy isn't him. :)
2016-03-26 23:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. If he is gonna push you to do something you aren't ready to do then he is not the guy for you. I am 24 and believe me I have been through it. And before you even think it everyone thinks their guy is different. But the truth is young relationships hardly ever last and even if this one does then that is all the more reason to wait. You just need to tell him you aren't ready and don't want to be pushed. Don't let him make you into someone you are not. In the end you will be happy you said no believe me please. You are so young. I had a baby at 17 and though I love her it has been so hard. I really wish I would have waited...
2006-07-18 12:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by vanembryzoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to have sex at the age of 15. The reason I say this is you can't handle the responsibilies that can come by having sex, like pragnancy. And so is your boyfriend. You need to tell him that as well. When you mature and can take care of a child, or a family by yourself, then go for it. But for now, you need to hold on and enjoy your child hood.
2006-07-18 12:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kent N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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He called you an hour ago acting normal, because he was not surprised when you said "no".
He expected that answer.
Now, he is demonstrating that he wants to continue the relationship even without what he asked you for in THE QUESTION.
Could be that he respects your answer, and still wants to be your boyfriend.
I think you are a brave young woman to have voiced your true feelings, without hesitation. You should not EVER feel you have to give-it-up JUST BECAUSE someone else wants you to. That is for you to decide to do WHEN you decide someday in the future.
Kudos
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2006-07-18 13:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to have a baby? That's the first question you should ask yourself. If you are not ready to take on the responsibility of a baby (which is a lot of work for a teenager) then you aren't ready to have sex. No you shouldn't have sex for the sake of having sex. It's not right.
2006-07-18 12:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a little too mature for you, he know that you are only 14 and you need to wait. The both of you need to sit down and talk about the situation and make sure that is what you both want. make sure he ain't in it for just sex. Remember you want your first time to be very special and no regrets!
2006-07-18 12:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Meka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you not to have sex as you'll do what you want to do. All I can say is don't be forced into doing anything you don't want to, you'll know when the time is right and if the guy's right.
And if you do, do it please use precautions such as condoms, there's too many diseases around these days and you don't want your first time marred with bad memories or unable to have children in later years.
Good luck babes and stay safe...x
2006-07-18 12:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez, sis you better think twice before doing it...if that is what your bf want only from you you better quit with that relationship before you find yourself regretting for the rest of your life because of an idiot decisiion making for a an idiot guy like your bf...sex is not the only reason to be happy in a relationship
kra
2006-07-18 12:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by gemini kra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by saying NO.I don't see anything wrong with what you said.I'm glad that you said no.cause that means that you want to wait till you find that special someone.that you want to spend the rest of ur life with.and that you also don't want to have sex till you're married.So don't worry about what you said. if he's mad cause you said No.then he's no the right one for you anyway.
2006-07-18 12:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋