He works 2 jobs to make "extra money" but I hardly ever see any of the "extra" money going toward our bills. I get sick of setting at home by my self when my kids visit their father and I also take care of his children while he works. He also likes to work late until 10 or 11 at night sometimes. He plays the silent treatment crap alot too. I really love him a lot but I am getting fed up!
2006-07-18 12:44:12 · 10 answers · asked by Lonely A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just paying the bills is doing you no favors. You definitely should find out exactly what he has been up to. By the way it is entirely possible to be "up to" plenty of infidelity-ous crap while at work.
2006-07-18 16:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 him tell him how U feel let him know that U appreciate how hard he works but you need some time(alone) with him & some time 4 your self. Maybe learn something new (Chrochet? that's what I did) 2 keep U busy when ur alone. If he refuses 2 listen or is 2 defenceive I would try the earlier advice & find out if he really is at work. U have 2 cover all ur bases. All it took with my hubby was talking 2 him. Some times men forget that there is more than working 2 provide 4 the family.
2006-07-18 13:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by blueeyedcat28 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want him to take some time off and spend it with you. tell him you are feeling neglected. Tell him you understand why he is working so hard, but you need some personal attention from him or you may be forced to get a man in to satisfy your needs.
my guess is you would not really get a man in. but it would make him stop and think. OK it may cause a row, at least that would prove he loved you enough to get jealous.
seriously all you can do is talk to him. make a point of making time t talk. may be get the kids to the grandparents or a sitters for a few hours while you sit down to a civilised talk.
one thing to domay be to get the grand parents involved on a daily basis, so you and he could go out to work, then he could cut his hours down leaving more time for the both of you to be together.
remeber that all you need to provide for your kids is food, shelter, and a loving family relationship. any and all toys are luxuries so if you are constantly buying the kids new toys, stop and think do they really need this, is it going to be both educational and fun. if yes tehn buy it.
just try adjusting your household budget to cut down on your spending an general then he would not have to work so many hours.
sit down together and come up with a realistic budget and a realistic working schedule that the seven of you can live with and on. that gives the family the most amount of time to spend with each other.
this is just my opinion.
2006-07-18 13:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your hands full!!! Is there any way that you can get out and maybe get yourself a part time job??? (maybe) It might help!!! Do you have any relatives close by that might help you??? It might be worth a try. It also doesn't help that your husband does the silent treatment thing, I feel for you. You don't need that. It is very childish of him. You need some time to take for yourself and not always being at home. Take care.
2006-07-18 12:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know all about being a stepmom, i have been helping my hubby raise his kids,(now mine 2) for almost 6 yrs now and we have 1 lil girl together,soo i understand.well i stay home as well but i have lots of things i do from home,i make and sell homemade candles and candies and go 2 times a week to a rented booth at a flea market to sell my items.i dont make a ton of money but its enough to keep my hubby from workin a 2nd job,sounds to me as if either ur hubby does not wanna be there to deal with the drama of the kids or he might have a lady friend on the side,but the best thing for u to do is stay strong and stand up for ur self and never let him use u or abuse u. we are not doormats for men to wipe their feet onto when the need us.we are mom's sisters and daughters not objects of possescion,we got feeling to and we have dreams as well. so just remember who u are and keep taking care our ur babies and when ur kids go away tell him he needs to be home one of those nights so u can go out!!!! be strong, i know u can do it.good luck and god bless.
2006-07-18 13:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by renee s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with 5 kids, I am surprised he isn't working 90 hours a week.. Be thankful he pays the bills instead of griping about him working to pay them. Perhaps you should take a few moments and read some of the other problems here...I think you might start counting your blessings. Just becasue you don't see the money doesn't mean it isn't used to pay bills...Take a few dollars and invest in birth controll. Good luck.
2006-07-18 13:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
does he work alot because he wants to or because he has to?
2006-07-18 12:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the show CHEATERS. Dont be so trust worthy in this situation.
2006-07-18 12:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TRY BIRTH CONTROL FIRST, THEN FIND OUT WHAT HE IS REALLY DOING!
2006-07-18 12:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by cynthia_armymom 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
GET OUT AND MOVE ON.
2006-07-18 12:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by wolvestears 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋