Hi there I know I am an adult but I had to move back in w/my parents for awhile and my fiance stays close by. We have been togather for 5 years and plan on getting married before this baby comes but my parents are kinda strict because they are Persian and have different culture. How should I handle this? I dont want to lose them I am the only child so its hard.
2006-07-18 12:43:09 · 18 answers · asked by Yassi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You've had a finace for 5 years?? Never married. Well, you two better run off and elope -- FAST! Then come back and tell your parents! What's done is done.
2006-07-18 12:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by i_troll_therefore_i_am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one 26 year old to another, tell your parents. They love you, and you are their only daughter. They may not be happy with you at first, but they'll be even more unhappy if you don't let them know that they're going to be grandparents. I'm sure by now that if you've been in a relationship for 5 years and you're soon to be married that they are aware (or at least suspect) that thses things can happen. Let them know that you respect them enough to tell them, and they will respect you for being honest.
2006-07-18 12:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor your Mother and Father. Tell them. They may be upset, but imagine yourself in their shoes. Would you be more upset if your daughter told you right away, or later? There is going to come a time where you will no longer be able to hide it. You may as well just tell them now and get it over with. Your parents will always love you no matter how angry they get. And your fiance loves you too, so you have him to lean on as well. I know this is hard for you to do. Maybe you could have your fiance with you when you tell them. Mothers are pretty intuitive anyways. You may be surprised to find that she already knew......or suspected it. I pray all goes well and that you have a blessed family together! God bless!!!!
2006-07-18 12:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by little_gardener_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the culture difference and how hard it is.. Can't you get married right now? and then tell your parents about it later. I have a brother who got married and his wife gave a birth 6 months later. My family are also strict, they had to face it but nothing happened, they new something happened but they didn't do anything. They're married now and legal.. so chill out and get married as soon as possible.
2006-07-18 12:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by JoToCo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them, they will find out anyway, right?
Your parents are wiser than you think. They have seen more difficult situations than having a new grandchild. They will be happy for this reason alone eventually.
They would be embarrassed if they were to find out from someone else.
They may be very upset at first, but that's too be expected.
My parents were very strict. It doesn't matter what culture.
2006-07-18 12:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't afraid...they will probably be very happy to know there going to have a grandchild. Don't feel alone. Your going to be married before the baby arrives. This is a blessed time for you and your family. its a time for everyone to come together and count their blessings and wish for the baby to be healthy. We're all only human. i had mine at the age of 14, and not married, but that wasn't as nice a story as yours is. Hope the baby is healthy
2006-07-18 12:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only assume you don't want to tell them because you are not married yet and you are not stable...you are having to move in with them. I don't know your parents so i can't say what their reaction will be. At 26 I don't get the fear thou you have. I had to tell my parents at 17 I felt stupid but, had no fear. They will figure it out at some point. They must be told the sooner the better.
2006-07-18 12:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you afraid? You're an adult and can make your own decisions. Anyway, there's not much they can do about it now. Just let them know that you will not stand for any bad treatment because of your pregnancy. But, you may not even have to worry about that, they may be very excited. They will have a new grandchild!
2006-07-18 12:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by corbeyelise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is face your fear and deal with it. I do not know much of the Persian culture, but a baby is a blessed event. Unconditional love is unconditional. They may disapprove of your behavior, but they still love you. Best of luck! You'll be fine after it is all said and done.
2006-07-18 12:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by allannela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, you're a grown up! You are responsible for yourself AND your baby! You love your boyfriend. He loves you. Your parents love you. TELL THEM.
If they know that you and your bf love each other, and your parents love you, then no problem would be too big. They should accept your decision and be happy they become grandparents soon.
Don't worry, be happy! And congratulations to you and your bf. And to the grandparents
2006-07-18 12:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Maybe YAP again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋