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The cliche goes "Just be happy with yourself, and that's what's important; your inner beauty naturally shines" as if pull-string Barbie herself said it with her perfect plastic face.

The truth is that inner beauty is very often compleately/partially ignored if the girl is not attractive on the outside.

They are treated differently even if they "Do everything right".

And this is DISCRIMINATION. Why can't our society acknowlege this hypocracy?

And how do you relate to something that doesn't respect you, that discriminates against you?...Hate??...I feel so bad for this group of girls. The evil that the African Americans championed against was not eradicated-and never will be. The evil simply found other expressions, other victims. It is the responsibility of us all to acknowlege the discrimination that we all practice (me too sometimes).

And too you Fat/Ugly girls out there if there're any reading this...I would give you a great big hug if I could.

God bless you.

2006-07-18 12:43:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Other - Cultures & Groups

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HUGZ!!! I agree with you !

I'm somewhere in between, but I've been fatter, and thinner, so I know the different way people treat you based on weight alone. (I get WAY more smiles when I'm thin.) I never hated anyone for being prejudiced against me, but it does hurt. I always just wanted people to stop and think about the fact that I'm a person, regardless of what size my dresses are. Even my own family (some, not all) tends to be less accepting of me when I've gained the weight.

Here's the rule of thumb you are looking for - don't judge a book by its cover. Or a human being....

But the same applies to thin, pretty girls (and guys too!!) - some may be just plain evil, but some have hearts of gold - and people who are fat/ugly/whatever can be judgemental in reverse - assuming that all thin/pretty/whatever people are mean and horrible. (BTW - ugly is a bad term, it is all in the eyes of the beholder). The reverse prejudice is all over, and in every society. It applies between every race, every religion, every body type, and every attitude.

There are always good and bad people in the world, and their looks have very little to do with how they are on the inside.
The inside person isn't size, color, creed, religion, or ANYTHING visible - just keep listening to your heart, and in those times that you find yourself slipping into the discrimination that comes so easily in our fallible human nature, just step back and reevaluate. If everyone did that, and genuinely TRIED to keep their own prejudices from coming out (yes - we DO ALL have them, even the best of us) we would find the world a lot nicer place to live.

Bless you for acknowledging reality.

2006-07-18 13:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by 99 1 · 3 2

Hug, huh? Would you marry one?

You are right about discrimination and how fat people are commonly treated far differently than those not fat. You are correct that this is blatantly wrong.

On the other hand, while everyone has issues and some worse than others, most fat people have issues so serious that they have begun a long-term attempt at self-destruction all in the name of feeling good for the moment. Now many of us do this, so you cannot just zero in on fat people and say that they are somehow worse, because they are not.

However, when you're driving up the road and you see no warning signs, there still might be a big hole in the road -- this is the issues many people have: hidden, not so obvious, easy to ignore. But when you are driving up the road and you see a big warning sign that says, "Big Hole in Road Ahead," this is fat people -- they have a SIGN that says, "I've got big emotional problems -- so big that I cannot help myself."

I say this being married to someone overweight and having two sisters and parents that are morbidly obese. I have problems the same as they do, but their problems are evident from a block away and in turn, they get treated as if they have problems, because it's obvious they do. I am not down on fat people; I am only making the point that their problems are self-evident and thus they cannot pretend that no one will notice and not treat them differently.

Rebecca
http://www.ipowergrfx.com

2006-07-18 20:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0 0

Probably because most guys think with whats between their legs rather then think with what really counts.

Of couse noone wants to take the time to get to know a bigger person for the fact that they are big and might ruin the reputation but most "good looking a.k.a "hot and sexy" girls, have the shittest attitudes and think they are better then everyone else most of the time. Come on now, who wants that? Only the guys wanting sex!

Seriously some people need to open up their eyes, beauty doesn't last forever but your inner beauty will always shine through.

2006-07-18 19:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

*The truth is that inner beauty is very often compleately/partially ignored if the girl is not attractive on the outside.*

(i agree with this 100%!!!) unattractive people are discriminated against because of the MEDIA, you have to be really skinny with big boobs, or big as.s and a pretty face, perfect everything but not everyone is like that.... so they are seen as not normal or outcasts... me, i have a nice personality, im friendly, helpful. funny. a little bit arrogant when im annoyed.... im not fat or ugly.... i think that fat/ugly people do have nice personalities, expertially when they have self esteem like "i am beautiful and i do respect myself" you dont have to be fat/ugly to have a deep personality. it just depends on what you go through... if everyone had self confidence and esteem, then the world would be a better place... beauty is in the eye of the beholder, thats a person with self confidence and respects themself)

2006-07-18 19:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by rice puppy 4 · 0 0

I am so perplexed by your question. You seem sensitive to the "plight" of woman to be perfect in this superficial society. However, you are using words like "discrimination" which is really ridiculous. When girls are in school they might be picked on if they are overweight or deemed "ugly", but kids can be cruel. When we grow up and have careers this sort of nonsense doesn't exist. I am an RN- and let me tell you- the way I or other nurses look means NOTHING to our patients. My husband is a pharmacist- his patients DO NOT care how he looks. What I am trying to say is that in the real world- not Hollywood, not the dance club- in the REAL WORLD we are judged on our work performance, on our personalities, on our integrity. I don't know how old you are, or what stage in life you are in, but you are fixating on the unfortunate treatment of some by insecure fools that no one would want to be friends with anyways! I am a little overweight- not morbidly so- but certainly would be described by some as "fat", but if I was the nurse for one of these idiots, I really don't think they would even notice what I look like. Am I ignored or not noticed by some? I am sure I am! You know who doesn't ignore me? My husband, my friends and everyone who is important in my life. You can keep your hugs.

2006-07-18 20:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

hahaha do you live in a small town/city, (under 150,000) if so its understandable as to why you ask this question. ok ive known some girls who were incredibly fine, and with wonderful personalities, and i've known not so pretty girls (fat/ugly as you put it) who have terrible personalities and vice versa. the reason for the small town / city comment is because in bigger cities everyone can find a place, in a more cultural area you find that alot of blacks an mexicans like the bigger girls, i have a friend for instance who is in shape a good looking guy and his girl is pretty big 250lbs maybe more and shes only like 5'7". now just a curiosity are you one of those not so pretty people and you just feel bad about, if so i sympathise with you, what your saying is true, but by no means is it 100%

2006-07-18 20:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by johnperry_rydz 2 · 0 0

I am average girl with average looks and I make up over half of the population in the US. Discrimination is what it is it is its a crime but some people do not see it that way. In the 1960's our government passed segregation laws to end discrimination. Has it happened, no. It has gotten better but I think as Americans we sometimes look for ways to make ourselves better than then next person. Isn't that what our culturalization tells us to do? You need to be better than the next person. It's better to be a boy than a girl in order to get paid better, so on and so on. But I am particle to old adage pretty in pretty out as far a people are concerned.

2006-07-18 19:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Evangelina R 1 · 0 0

yea, but u shouldnt call them fat ugly girls....thats just wrong. everyone has feelings. we all bleed the same and we all cry over life...so relax and think of a nicer way to talk. the not hot hot girls have to b nice cuz we feel its the only way someone will take the time to get to know us. were hot on the inside if u really want a good girl that will treat u like theres no other..

2006-07-18 19:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by mazzygirl83 6 · 0 0

For Your Information, NOT ALL "fat/ugly girls have deeper/nicer personalities"! As much as the thin pretty ones...there's trash or ghetto in every look, culture, and race! NOT ALL thin pretty ones are b*tches either.
This is not a form of hate or discrimination...I pity you for underestimating who you consider fat and ugly.
NOT ALL "fat/ugly girls" are nice just to make up for what society considers as their shortcomings. Some are nice because they truly are.

2006-07-18 20:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by carolina 3 · 1 0

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". What you feel is ugly may not be to someone else, but I do understand what you are talking about. Society is very hypocritical. We seem to embrace the fact that ppl should love themselves, have self esteem and not conform to the perfect "hollywood image". But at the same time we worship the celebrities that are considered beautiful and strive to be like them.

2006-07-18 22:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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