I married for the wrong reasons. I got pregnant young and married. The one i loved left a year b4 to join the military. after my 3rd year of marriage, I wanted out but could not afford to leave. By the 12 th year we had grown apart and i was preparing to leave, but my spouse got sick. so i stayed to take care of him. I saw my old flame not too long ago. and it was as if we never departed. we could not talk because the spouse was there. My body is home, but my heart is somewhere else.
2006-07-18 12:29:21 · 7 answers · asked by ria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no desire to mess up another home. I'm not that selfish. this is where I am in life.
2006-07-19 15:51:40 · update #1
You need to make a very serious choice. Either leave your husband and take your chances or stay in your marriage and be true to your vows. Playing around while still married will only end up causing guilt and pain for many and will not work out in the long run. I really feel that if you are not happy and not in love you should get out and give yourself and your husband the chance to be with people who want to be with them and are in love with them but don't play around and hurt everyone.
2006-07-18 12:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God, why do people always act like kids?
Pay for the consequences of your mistakes. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
You have a child, and a sick husband to take care of. You are yearning for something that you SHOULDN'T have. Stop living in a fantasy world. People always think that they're so helpless when they get knocked up when in the first place, they had the choice to a) use protected sex, and b) not marry the man if they think the guy who got them pregnant was wrong for them.
You say you got married for the wrong reasons, and there is always consequences when you make mistakes. Be an adult and learn how to deal with your life, rather than run away with some old flame you had wondering about the what if's in life. The grass isn't greener on the other side. Cut your ties with the other guy--that's the decent thing to do, if at all you consider yourself to be a decent person.
2006-07-18 12:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad love story. It kind of reminds me of those movies of lost loves. Did you ever have just a long talk with your spouse before? You know, just sit down near him and talked.
I can't tell you to leave your sickly husband or cheat on him for an old flame.
Blow that flame out, because your ill husband needs you.
2006-07-18 12:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a rest. You have more excuses for the life you have. IF you don't like your life, change it...nobody here can. Everyone's body is home, but their heart is somewhere else...so why should you be any different. And what makes you think it would have been any different or better with your old flame. ??? My guess is that it would not be. There just would be different excuses.
2006-07-18 13:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you said "I Do" at your wedding, and you didn't lie when you took your vows, then stay with your husband and forget about the other guy. It could be considered a perversion to think about another man when you are married. Take up a new hobby, do anything but don't wreck someone esle's life just to make yourself more comfortable.
2006-07-18 12:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Richard T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not mess up his marriage because you r unhappy in yours. Make your decisions based on what U need and what is best 4 u. Not on what could happen with this guy.
2006-07-18 12:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by blueeyedcat28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
up and leave
2006-07-18 12:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋