Most older people i know are predicting that I will be divorced in no less than 5 years. Not only is that rude but untrue! Young people know what love is don't they?
2006-07-18 12:13:05 · 27 answers · asked by Saul3 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I don't know what love is.....I am 53. If they know what love is....have them tell you. Very few people can predict the future with much success. I hope you and your wife remain in love forever and wish you the best
2006-07-18 12:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bear Naked 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was married at 17 years old because I got my 16 year old girlfriend pregnant. I am now 29 and am still married to the same woman. I can tell you from personal experience and from the experience of two sisters-in-law, my niece, my nephew, and a friend that the meaning of love for a young person is not the same as the meaning of love for a person who is above 25 or so.
There are multiple reasons for this.
One: The logic centers of the brain are not fully formed until the age of 25.
Two: Teens and college age people tend to be extremely selfish. Even when they act nice to another, it is usually so that the other person will act nice back. If a younger person KNOWS 100% that another person will act in a mean way toward them, it is highly unlikely that the younger person will act nicely toward that person.
Three: Younger people have generally not been through very much adversity. Even if their parents were mean and said or did mean things to them, there usually wasn't a question of whether or not there would be a roof over their head or food on the table. Even if their parents didn't or wouldn't provide, almost every teen has a few friends who will help them out on a regular basis with necessities. This is not the case for adults.
Love is not the same for any two people. However, I have learned that love is a choice, and that unselfish love is the very best kind. I have been almost divorced twice, but I learned through those experiences that commitment is what is says, forever, and real love doesn't give up until the other person severs the ties completely. If you learned anything from what I have said, remember that if you ever even begin to consider that divorce is an option, your marriage's days are numbered. Nothing can guarantee that your spouse will stay, but your own attitude can make all the difference in the world.
One last word for those in difficult marriages: I highly recommend "Love must be Tough" by Dr. James Dobson for those with wayward spouses. It is very hard being walked on by a loved one, but keep your chin up. No one can take away your dignity but yourself.
2006-07-18 19:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by nhzero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you know what love is. I got married at 17 and people said we would not make it a year, well, we have made it 4 years and things are still great, and we have gone through a lot of hard times also but made it fine. I think when you meet the right person you just know it. You feel like you can not be away from them for a second and want to do everything with them. Why does it matter if you find that person when you are 20 or 40?? Just be happy and thankful you found them so early in life so you can spend a lot of time with them. Thankfully I was that lucky.
2006-07-18 19:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by LuckyWife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely know what love is otherwise you would not of married your husband.
I have been married for 41 years & I don't think I know anymore about loving my husband at this point than you do, but during life together things are constantly changing & some days you make new discoveries about each other. I can honestly tell you that in 41 years every day wasn't always bliss but we still make it a point to spend quality time together & "TALK". That is so important to any relationship. We still fight like we are going kill each other but the making up is still the best part. AND YES ! Old people still rock ! At least we do ! I am 59 years old & we have a great time together. God Bless you & your bride on a wonderful life & many loving years to come !
2006-07-18 19:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by day by day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope!
statistics prove it dude....
young people are not fully grown and not even the same person they are at 20 when they are 30 wake up to reality, and what attracts two 20 year olds to marry is most likely shallow superficial crap i mean hey what if she got into a horrible accident with her face half burnt would you still "love" her or would you want to leave her? would she stay with you if lost the use of your legs? love is total commitment its you giving full 100% even when she doesnt! is she going to stay with you when you put on a little more weight as a older man or you with her, after babies she may not be as physically appealing so my friend no young people no little about love but a lot about being really connected to hangin with a certain dude or dudette and havin fun with them so much why not get married and hang out all the time. what about when kids come in and you cant have sex alot as much as you want cause they need constant attention what then? this is love when that dont matter
2006-07-18 19:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because they were older when they found love. I was married at 22 and I am in it for the long haul.
Predicting your divorce is rude, and narrow-minded. Just be aware that you will both go through changes that will stress your relationship, but you must make a committment to work together to get through it. Watch out for the 2 year mark - things often get tough around then, but you'll get through it and your marriage will be stronger.
2006-07-18 19:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Nitris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you that you aren't in love or don't know what it is - because each person and each couple is different. They are stereotyping you with the masses of young people that think marriage is "fun" and "easy" because you are "in love."
The older people might just be referring to the fact that you are young and you don't realize all the trials and hardships that marriage can have and probably will have through the course of your life. Marriage isn't easy and it takes a lot of hard work and committment, as well as an extreme unconditional love for your partner. Good luck and don't listen to those people telling you that your marriage won't last.
2006-07-18 19:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you do...maybe you just don't have any idea what you're in for. Just for fun, buy a notebook and write down all the great things you love about being married to your spouse, keep a semi-daily record for the first year of your marriage... then look back over it on your thirtieth birthday... I bet you'll be amazed how much perspective ten years can give you.
2006-07-18 19:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by eggman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know what love is, but because some older people have possibly went through this when they were younger, they think that you probably got married for sex, and they don't want to see you make the same mistake. But if that's not the case, and you truly love and accept your wife for who she is (and not only for what she'll give you), then their opinions don't matter. There's no harm in listening (and ignore if you have to), but stick to your guns. Congrats to you both!
2006-07-18 19:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young people know the good parts, but not the really bad. But, whether you're still together in 5 years is up to you guys, not them. They are very rude to say crap like that. Rude, and bitter.
2006-07-18 19:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude of them to predict a divorce in 5 years. Love is a choice. You chose to love that one person for the rest of your life, stick to it. Who cares what they think? Prove them wrong.
God bless.
2006-07-18 19:17:20 · answer #11 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋