My husband can make lots of friends, the problem is that all of them are women!?

Question

I had no problems before with it because a trusted him, but lately i feel upset about it. It's not like he's with them all the time because every girl knows me but i also know you can't trust women around a husband that thinks he's the bomb!! Well my friends tell me I'm very beautiful and that any man would like to be my friend. I have given a lot of thinking in paying back time but i don't know why men don't seem intrested. Now my friends tell me that my looks are intimidating and that with out me knowing im sending a signal of already taken.Can someone tell me if this comments are true and should i try to make my husband feel the sameway? I'm very much in love with him but all he tells me that it's not his fault that he his a great guy!!!!

Yes i have spoken to him in various ocasions and he gets pissed at me and tells me that im jealous because i have no friends. I have only co-worker friends because with bills,kids and house chores i don't have time to have friends. But i can say that i respect him a lot and im even afraid of talking to a guy and him finding out he might have an excuse to go party with his "friends".

Answer 1

Well.....he probably is a great guy friend to all those females. I seem to have an easier time talking with females than males. They're not so judgmental and I don't like the way they talk about other women like they're objects. I look at a woman like an equal and give them all my respect that they deserve.
Yes, your comments are true. Some women come off very nice but very untouchable. They send off vibes that they are taken and possibly happy with their lives. You can have minimal words to say to them but you're not going to hang out with them at lunch. Some women can be intimidating at times. Their beauty knocks you on the seat of your pants and are completely untouchable mentally and physically. Then again, to a hand full of men, not a problem.
What's my advice? Open up and find guy friends. Not to get back at your husband. Just because you can. There is nothing wrong with having a friend of the opposite sex. You may find a friend that you can say anything to, and not feel embarrassed.

Good luck

Answer 2

First of all you husband needs to understand where you're coming from. He obviously doesn't by the answer he gives you to why he only has female friends.

Paying him back is the wrong answer. It will only make him and YOU feel bad. It will put a gap between you both.

I think you should sit him down and tell him how uncomfortable it makes you that he has only female friends. If for some reason he still doesn't understand than talking with his female friends would make you feel better. Getting to know his friends will probably make you feel better and make you feel better about your marriage.

I'm positive your husband loves you and there is no reason for indiscretions. There is nothing to worry about! Good luck!

P.s. About your sending signals. It's a good thing. You are taken.

Answer 3

Oh HELL NO He shouldnt even be friends with alot of women anyway! Out of respect for you because he is commited to a MARRIAGE!! I could understand if he was friends with a girl he grew up with still or something of that sort but just randomly, NO. So, I dont think it would be a good idea for you to do the same to him because 2 wrongs dont make a right but I think you should definently, talk to him about your feelings. The fact that you feel some type of way about this dosent mean you dont trust him. Its our ''womenly instinct'' you should be the main woman in his life, he shouldnt be focused on any other ones besides his family regardless!!! Tell him how you feel, IF and only IF he is a good husband, he will understand
good luck :)

Answer 4

He needs to respect your wishes. Female friends are fine as long as his mate has no problem with it. He needs to tell the other women to back off and not mention you in the process. It isn't really a matter of trust but principle. You seem jealous of how other women show him affection and you want that for yourself. Getting other men to pay attention to you is not the answer. You need to get this attention from your husband, and he needs to provide it for you. If he is a man of honor he will respect what you want no questions asked. Good luck.

Answer 5

Maybe your husband does not comfortable hanging out with guys and feels admired and adored and "the man" around these women. But, I really think he needs to respect how his friendships with these women make you feel. I would as a woman myself be leery to just be friends with the husband. Why would you want to be. I mean if you are a casual friend from work or something fine, but to hang out with a married man that you have not known prior to him being married? That just seems like trouble.

Talk to him about your feelings. I wouldn't get back at him because since most guys will just try to hook up with you, and not be friends. Or if they are nice guys they will respect you have a husband and not get to close to you and keep their boundaries.

Answer 6

I know how you feel my gf seems to be the same way with guys. I think that for some reason you have a better connection with the opposite sex sometimes as you there isn't the same sex peer pressure for things, and the "guys" can't bash him for likes, dislikes, and hobbies and the girls will listen and talk. Some guys like to talk alot and gossip etc. My gf always finds the gay guys as friends. Doesn't bother me that much I guess.

Answer 7

I think he has self-esteem issues. A guy who always needs to surround himself with women is looking to constantly get reassurance from women that he is "the man". Either that or he's gay. I think it is normal for men to have some female friends, but all of them???? Most men would want some time just with the guys. I don't know what you can do. Sure, give him some of his own medicine.

Answer 8

You both need serious counseling. Here's a fact. If you're not being intimate with eachother then take turns. On Mon, Wed, and Friday you suggest something to your husband that creates intimacy. Help me put the kids to bed, how about a back rub? etc. On Tues Thur. and Sat he suggests something intimate, How about going to a movie, want to walk down to the corner store, how about we hold eachothers hand on the way. Start out with the simple things. You have lost more than intimacy, its time to start trying harder.

Answer 9

DAMN DOUBLE STANDARDS!!!!!!!! he should drop those Friends cuz i am sure they r waiting 4 u to *** up so one of them can take your man. I think its best if the two of u hang out with other married couples instead. But still keep a close eye on your man and an even closer eye on the females, no matter if there r involved with someone else or not.

Answer 10

First of all, you have not mentioned if you took the time to discuss your feelings with your husband. have you? To plot revenge over something so trivial and so petty does not show you in a very good light. Sounds to me like you have low self esteem and maybe he is looking elswhere for intelligent conversation. To even think of "getting even" for something that is perfectly innocent makes you a raving "female dog" in my opinion. Keep it up and he is going to cheat on you soon, if he hasn't already!