the cheating husband?
2006-07-18 12:10:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And the cheating husband isn't a whore?
2006-07-18 12:18:42 · update #1
Because they feel that their husbands are out of control little boys, who are incapable of controling their sexual impulses. they feel that their husbands cannot help what he does.And they feel that the girl is more mature and should know better and stay out of their way.
But some feels that if they blame their husband then he will go away and never come back, so she says nothing to him because she don't want him to leave. Thus she feels if she argues with the other women she may leave and never come back. Never works.
2006-07-18 12:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by vhat40 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You can not blame the other woman/man because the one you have vows with is him. she has nothing to do with it. It took me a long time to realize this myself. It was him that cheated whether he pursued her or not isn't the issue because he could have went the other way. Was a gun held to his head and she made him put it in? No, so the fault lays with him. He needs to admit to his wrong doing and face the music. If counseling is in order, so be it. If not Let go before the wound gets any deeper. Do not be mad at her because he knows he is married and has family and if he is willing to throw that away for a wet a$$. Then let him. You can wet your own A$$ and still be faithful. What are his reasons? Let me guess he was lonely, then he should have come to you his wife to discuss the matter before he sought out someone else. Cause I tell you now no one but you knows who he really is, not even his mother knows him better than you. The other woman only got the fake him. She f=does not wake up to him every morning, cook, clean house, wash his nasty underware, pay bills with him like you do. so do not be mad If it is stilla fresh affair it will take some time to get over the initial shock. Believe me iknow everything you are experiencing plus. Just you stay faithful to your marriage even if you feel like you are in it alone. A marriage can not and will not work when only one person is trying to keep it afloat.
God Bless and keep you.
2006-07-18 12:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't just the other woman's fault. It is mainly the husbands fault for cheating. He is the one betraying his wife. The wife doesn't even know the other woman. The other woman on the other hand if she knows that this man is married should stay away, but you can't control what other people do. Bottom line, it is the husbands fault if he is the one being unfaithful. HE is the one that has to honour his vows and HE is the one that has to face the consequences of his wife, so HE is the one at fault.
2006-07-18 12:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They blame the other woman because, think of it how tacky is it of the other woman, when she knows he is married to get mixed up with him. That does not say alot about the woman's character. I mean they can say that the wife is a *****, etc. but still, if you really are a moral person and have good sense of self and character you would still not get mixed up with a married man or a man in a relationship with someone other than yourself. That is why the wife blames the other woman. They should also blame the husband though, because he is a dog as well.
2006-07-18 12:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by melissa_anne_maison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, I would blame both. It takes two to tango. But at the same time, I would still be angrier at the woman because no matter what you don't know her (speaking most of the time), she was disrespectful enough to come between a married couple. It's more a blow to the ego because it's woman on woman crime. You don't do that to another girl...it's just wrong.
But if my husband cheated, I would never want to see his face ever again. And I would blame him the most because he has self control in my eyes. Straying would not be an option. I don't believe in second chances.
2006-07-18 12:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a cake bake...their are many ingridents....the not so nice woman, your cheating husband (yes he is a whore...remember Forest Gump...stupid is as stupid does) and of course you. All three have some blame to some degree. Please don't elminate the blame from your husband. He's a prime shareholder of blame.
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Good luck
2006-07-18 14:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women who target married men are bitches!!! They know exactly what they are doing. It's a rare thing for a woman to be tricked into an affair by a man that does not disclose he is married. Many women get a power trip out of "stealing" men from other women.
I was raised by a mother like that. She has ruined more lives. She seduced man after man and after the wife found out, she would dump the guy and he would be out his wife and his girlfriend. My mother is screwed up. There are alot of women out there just like her. I've known tons of them.
What's a man to do when a woman pours out all of her charms on him? They can be sitting at the desk at work and the woman grabs the crotch or makes some comment about how much she like to perform oral sex. I've seen it time and time again.
The "non-whore" men are even more likely to fall for these women's tricks because they are nice guys and nice people like to see the good in others. I feel sorry for a nice guy that meets up with one of these bitches.
Each of us has to decided how to deal with the man in these kinds of cases.
As far as the woman goes, I think the best approach is to either leave her alone(because she gets off on screwing up the lives of others)or making up some off the wall comment that will get her thinking. Maybe something like, "I'm not suprised. He's been having affairs ever since I quit sleeping with him after finding him having sex with a guy at his hunting club. I was afraid he might have AIDS or something!". She'll think about that one a while and she will never go near the guy again!
2006-07-18 12:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by JustLookinAround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the cheating husband is a man, and it's always going to try to get laid, it's more than his forces can control...
The other-woman, in the other hand has control but still is using her sexuality to lure the husband. That's why they blame her.
I know you don't like the answer, but it's the true.
2006-07-19 10:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the only way they can deal with this- it is called denial. Also if someone else is at failt they can continue to live with their husband. If they let the man take the fault then as the wife they need to face the issues and take a stand one way or another concerning the cheating.
I would call it a coping mechinism.
2006-07-18 12:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves the husband and despises the whore. He is no better but she has a personal connection with him. The strange whore has no value and is an easy target and what kind of women whould sleep with a married man. hhmm desperate, lonely, no self-esteem or value for herself. a filthy wrotten whore! That is why it is easy to HATE the whore
2006-07-18 12:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by what do you think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋