my mom and dad r devorced so my mom now goes out with my exbest friends dad. so i have to c my exbest friend all the time. my mom is so happy i dont what her to brake up with her bf cause of me. but i cant be friends with my exfriend again cause of what she did to me. what do i do?
2006-07-18 11:45:45 · 13 answers · asked by dancingpanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't have to be freinds. Just ignore here. If your forced to be around her just be ever so slightly nice and polite, but nothing more...just treat her as a stranger.
2006-07-18 11:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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First, tell your Mom how you feel. It will be easier on both of you, and then she will know why you are tense with the situation, that it has nothing to do with her, her dating someone, or her new boyfriend.
Second, imagine you are Bill Clinton and the world has just learned that you were sticking your p*enis into the mouth of a 21 year old intern. Imagine that you are about to do a press conference about that. Imagine it. THAT would be something that was very hard to face. Think about that level of difficulty and crisis, then, when YOU have your times with the friend, just smile and perform as if you were in front of a camera, that it was important for your entire life to make a good appearance. Your ex-friend can't hurt you again. Forget about what she might think. Just make the appearance look good, forget how you feel, and think about how happy your mother is.
Good luck.
2006-07-18 11:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one! You are doing the right thing by supporting your mom. Just continue to be there for her. Make sure to be polite to his daughter (your ex best friend). Holding grudges will hurt you in the end. Don't let her get the best of you! :) Just be civil, you may one day be family. That doesn't mean you have to choose her to go out with, or be a part of her crowd of friends. Take it one day at a time, and put it in God's hands...That's all you can do.
2006-07-18 12:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your guns and easily let all of them understand that no remember what they say or do, there is no way that you will be his gf back, the love is lengthy gone and as quickly because it is lengthy gone, there is no longer some thing better which will be finished. sit down including your mom, one on one, without interruptions and clarify to her, that if she quite needs what's healthier for you as her daughter, then to provide up making you experience like she is better of an effective chum on your ex-boyfriend's mom, than a mom to you... tell her that a mom is assume to also be a chum to a daughter and he or she isn't doing that today... clarify to her how she is not purely hurting you yet she is likewise disappointing you as a mom and also you quite felt issues were compared to that between you too... make her experience to blame...
2016-12-01 21:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very sweet that you want your mother to be happy. Does she know how you feel about her bf's daughter? Maybe if she did, she would try to arrange her dates in a way that you don't have to be around her too much; if things get serious with them though then there will be no avoiding her. Be polite to her for your mother's sake. Maybe someday you will be able to work things out, but in the meantime, just hang out with your other friends and tolerate your exbf. Good luck.
2006-07-18 11:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for your mom. You're not obliged to be friends with your ex-friend, but you could try and be civil to keep the peace.
Just be sure to talk to your mom about it and explain to her that you like the BF, just not your ex-friend, so she'll understand if you want to duck out of social events that will include the ex-friend (and she won't worry that it's the BF).
2006-07-18 11:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand what your ex-best friend did to you like its your mom dating her /his Dad.Is it because she's not making her Dad's life hell and attempting to get him to break up with your Mom? But you say you don't want your Mom to break up because she is so happy with your ex-friends Dad. I'm confused and maybe you are even more. If I were you I would start thinking of your Mom's relationship as being her own and really has nothing to do with you and you ex-best friend and then I'd call your ex-best friend and talk about your feelings for bet she/he is hurt and confused and doesn't deserve your anger. You sure you're not taking the anger you really feel at your Mom out on her/him? Safer than getting your Mom upset or even mad at you. Maybe you need to talk your feelings with your Mom too for bet she'd understand as would your ex-best friend. Parents divorce for reasons all their own and not fault of the children(NEVER). Be kind to yourself and your ex friend and start accepting your Mom's relationship for real.
2006-07-18 11:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess i know ur feeling really hard to find the man that was ur bestfriend betrayin u and datin with ur ex..so i totally agree with u in makin them to break up so here is the way u can't make that happen now..first u must pretend to be his friend and ur mom must see that..then slowly start to screw it up...tell her that he is a gay..or he is cheatin on her..anythin u will say after she saw u became friendz may help to make it break up
2006-07-18 12:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by A S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just because your mom is dating this guy does not mean you have to be friends with her just remember your mom is happy again and that is a good thing good luck
2006-07-18 11:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by jeannette_burnard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try to avoid her and wish your mom happiness! You can tell your mom that you don't like her.
2006-07-18 11:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋