Is there any women out there being verbally, physically or mentally and if so how do you deal with it.?

Question

abused is what I wanted to know.

Answer 1

I live with a verbally and mentally emotion abuser. It's not easy, people can always tell you to leave,.but i understand i can't either. I'l pray for you

Answer 2

I was verbally and physically abused by my 2nd husband for the last year and half of our 9 years together. I gave an ultimatum either let's get help or I'm done. Well I let him go over 6 years ago and I have a man in my life now that treats me with the love and respect that I deserve. Course after I let him go I got myself a therapist to help me build my selfesteem back up and learned to like/love myself. My boyfriend and I have been happily together for 5 years now. What he's doing to you is so unhealthy and you really need to stop fantasizing on what was or what will be. Cause it's never gonna happen. Leopard never changes his spots. Get out before it's too late.

Answer 3

if you are being verbally, mentally, or physically abused, you need to get out of the relationship ASAP!!!!! You can try to convince yourself otherwise, that you deserve it, or they are doing it "because they love you" but that is the biggest line of crap ever! I am speaking from experience there, I put up with a relationship for over a year where I was verbally & mentally abused, from pretty much day one... and yet I put up with it, because I kept telling myself that he really loved me, and I put up with it for over a year, and I even started convincing myself that I was exactly what he was calling me, I believed I deserved it... and to this day, almost 10 years later, I still don't trust the opposite sex very much, and I am very afraid of being intimate because my very first relationship was so abusive. So word to the wise, get out while you still can!!

Answer 4

I have been there and I got rid of the man and never looked back because all he would have done was tell me everything I wanted to here. Then as soon as I went back to him the abuse would just start all over again. Men like that only love control, they don't love the woman no matter how much they say they do.

Answer 5

I am a survivor and have come away with more strength and courage then I could have ever imagined. It is a long process to healing. I have been out of my ex's prison of a relationship for 6 yrs now and it took me two of those six years to find myself. My kids also had a long hard road to get to where we are.
As far as how you deal with it when I was with him I took it one second at a time you never knew what was going to set him off. It was like walking on egg shells. My biggest thing was a whole lot of praying and wondering when he turned the tables and how I ended up being abused and being scared for my life. It took two years of planning to get me and my kids out and then it fell all apart and I ended up packing what I could in my car and getting out of state and we been healing ever since.

Answer 6

yeah, me, and i know lots of kids/women and even men that go through it.

my dad's an alcoholic-- so that's where it all comes from. but the thing is, i don't know how i really deal with it. i've finally found a good man who's good too me and always there for me, but i also know not EVERYONE has that. before he came along, i always isolated myself from situations that could bring such abuse on. i would also go outside a lot, and just stay outside until it was getting dark. and the obvious-- i confided in CLOSE CLOSE friends, whom i knew wouldn't turn on me. i fought back a lot too though-- once it became physical. i would protect my mom @ every heart beat, and that made him realize a little that the more he keeps pulling this sh*t, the more hurt HE'S going to get. it also gave me a sense of self, because i knew that it was OKAY to fight back, especially against things you knew were so wrong.

i think the one thing that helped me most though was writing in a journal about it. i really needed release my fear and hate and hopes and dreams, about everything. that really...saved me i guess you could say-- and freed me in a sense too. i felt like i no longer had to keep such secrets inside of me forever. it was my way of letting things out. as cheesy as it may sound, it was like, every time i wrote, i could breathe again-- slowly and easier. i was away from all the chaos and having to walk on eggshells and worrying about waking up my father. it sheltered me when i alone most needed it.

idk if you're going through this, but if you are you need to get out. i'm not just saying that to say it, but i'm saying it truly and whole-heartedly. you need to leave. you may think you have no options but you DO. there ARE people that do help people in these situations, and you WILL be okay! i promise....but you recovering and becoming who you are again takes you leaving the situation first. i hope this helped you. good luck sweetie. my best wishes are for you.

Answer 7

Not any more!! I left the S.O.B. over a year ago and haven't looked back since. I now have an awesome fiance that treats me with the love, honesty, respect, and kindness that everyone deserves.

Answer 8

yes, my family is verbally abused. No, we haven't done anything about it.

Answer 9

i feel sorry for him as obviously he has a mental problem,with my guy its because that's how his family is. i usually remind hIm im not his mother and that i wont take his crap,with out a fight, so stop or bring it on.

Answer 10

Not anymore, I moved out and then I divorced him.