I want to get a place of my own. But there are some complications.?

Question

I'm diabetic and i'd have to get my own medical insurance. I'm 20, but my parents treat me like i'm 16. I get threats all the time at my house now.

Answer 1

I know plenty of people who live a very normal life with diabetes, and your parents will come around eventually they just care and are scared for you, insurance," where there's a will there is a way". Now threats, I am confused about this. Good luck.

Answer 2

threats? like what sort of threats? That's not good. Just call the police or stay with a friend if it ever happens again. I'm sorry to hear any misfortunes you have, and I am going through the same situation. I'm 22. However, you must think (at least in my case, that's what I did) about where you are going to live, how you are going to pay the rent? your food, laundry, clothes, school expenses? there are so much things to think about...first of do you have a job? if you do, that's a start, but so many people are moving back to their parent's house for a while until they can get up for themselves again. Everything is so much more expensive than before, so it would help if you had a full time job and you weren't going to school. but if you are, I'd stay there. I'm sure things aren't as bad as they seem, though I don't know you well enough to say that. If you have your own computer, that's how you can tell (I think). Call up a friend, and ask them if they would like to share an apartment or condo with you.

Answer 3

I doubt very seriously that your parents will deprive you of medical insurance on the account that you move out. So if your condition is under control, I'd say go for the move and take a chance on your parents keeping your medical benefits. Although, if you are quite sure they will deny you the medical insurance if you move, if you're employed and your employer doesn't offer medical benefits or you can't afford the benefits your employer does offer, you are eligible for state assistance because of your condition.
However, if your condition isn't under control, you may need to hang in there with your parents for your health's sake; or even resort to finding someone helpful to become a roommate with. Whatever you decide, try to remember that you will always be your parents little girl and they don't want any harm or danger to come to you. With this in mind, every now and again try providing your parents with a little more reassurance about how you'd continue to maintain your health on your own.

Answer 4

If you have a full time job, you should be able to get medical insurance through them and have enough money to get a place of your own (or with a roommate). You don't give many details, but you need to figure out why they are treating you like a child - how are you acting?? As far as threats, what kind of threats? If they are threatening your life, you should go to a shelter and get out of there ASAP!

Answer 5

My Son is one year older than You. I would LOVE for Him to do what needs to be done, and the right thing, because it is right. But He only responds to threats. Not life threatening threats, but taking something away that He cares about. I don't like having to do it. He is always telling Me His age, when He wants to do something, but never when He needs something. Your Parents love You. I know I love My Children. Perhaps there is a compromise, that way You can All be happy, You can further Your education, save Your money, and start out, on Your own, in a better situation, than You would be in if You had to leave now.

Answer 6

just because you are a diabetic does't mean you can't grow up and support your self.
Your parents treat you like you are 16 probably because you act like you are 16. We tend to teach people how to treat us. If you arean't acting like a young adult, then you are still a kid.

Get education. Get a job, or two. Eat better so your blood sugar is under comtrol.

Sit down with your parents and tell them that you are ready to start moving out on your own and ask them to help you plan this. Talk niecly and if they yell just you don't get in to the rage too. It is time for everyone to grow up in this family.

OH I see you added you are at your own house now. Sounds like you got out of the house. Tell your parents you want to prove to them that you want to start acting like an adult and you need their help in changing how you commicate with each other. If they continue to treat you like you are 16 after you have proven that you are a young adult, then tell them that you really can't hang around with dysfunction. I have a feeling that when you go home you ask for money or help or food. They need to see you stand on their own.
I applaude you for getting this far.

Answer 7

Diabetic persons can lead a very normal life if they maintain check on diet,exercises and lifestyle.Even if you decide to stay away from your parents you will have to make some adjustments with other members of society. Why not try to make adjustments with your own relatives rather than outsiders. They will understand you better . They know your needs. They know your nature and surely they will give you best of advice if you need one. Parents always feel that their children are small.My daughter who is now 40 years tells me many times "Dad I am not a kid anymore". Think of it. Make your family happy and be yourself happy.

Answer 8

Gert a job , that has insurance then think about moving out. Didn't say what kind of threats you were getting

Answer 9

Time to find a bf, who'll take care of you and will treat you right. And if you think all guys are the same, and care only bout sex, you're wrong. Sex is always second, harmony (commitment, honesty, love, ability to find a mutual agreement) is always first. Not all guys are deep a--holes, and i'm pretty sure there's one, who will understand your unhealthyness and always will be able to deal with it no matter what. Well...that's, offcourse, my point of view.

Answer 10

Princess...change your name to Servant. You are experiencing what is commonly known as "Life." My recommendation is that you get used to it. You want your own place? Get a job, with medical insurance, and pay your own way.