I'm 16 years old and pregnant, me and my boyfriend which is 17 planned to have a baby, is this a bad thing?

Question

Me and my boyfriend has been together for two years we love each with all our hearts both of us has jobs and can clearly support our child. he was my first for everything first person i kissed, first to have sex with, my first love man the list goes on i know he will never leave me, we just made for each other.

Answer 1

Having a child is not a bad thing, is a wonderful thing.However, it is a great responsibility. If you guys made the conscious decision to have this baby I don't think is wrong. I assumed you thought this through, and that you realized the changes you're about to go through.The day you have a child, your life does not belong to you anymore, it belongs to your child. You time, your energy, your effort, your money, your future. If you made the choice, now you're accountable for your actions. If you're willing to make the sacrifices, and face the challenges the future is going to bring without jeopardizing the wellness and future of your children, I think you're fine. If you're willing to provide the support system this little human being needs, you're fine. If you want more info, go to websites specialized on teen pregnancies, and parenting. Also, there are organization that support young parents, they might be a good source of support.

Answer 2

Well your going to lose most of your life. No hanging out with friends that much. And when you get older you cant go to clubs or anything like that because your going to have a 5 year old on your leg all the time. You have to make sure about your boyfriend too. Make sure he won't leave you stranded with a baby. Also what can you give that baby right now except for love? A lot of people have had kids when teens but a lot say that they would change it.

Answer 3

You 2 PLANNED to have a baby? You 2 are still babies yourselves! What the hell were you thinking? How are you going to support this child? What about school? Is one of you going to drop out to get a job to pay for the baby or to stay home while the other goes to school or work?

*deep breath*While every child is a blessing, I really don't think the 2 of you truly understand what you were getting yourselves into. I had my first child at 22 and I didn't really know what I was getting myself into! I hope like crazy that you 2 have a strong support system in your families because you're going to need it.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Yes it is a bad thing!!!! you are 16 years old, which means that hopefully you are still in school and hopefully he's still in school too. it doesn't matter if you both have jobs, there is no possible way you could ever make enough money to begin to support a baby. babies come with alot of expenses, medical bills, food, clothes, diapers, crib, car seat, all that stuff. if you have a baby now, you'll never go to college which means you'll get stuck at some job that you don't get crap for pay...that should be the last thing you'd want to do to a baby.... i think you seriously need to think this over before you do anything drastic like get pregnant.....and anymore, even though you think you're gonna be together forever.... do you know how uncommon that is anymore....even married couples that are supposed to be together til death..........seriously think it over....maybe even try taking care of a newborn for a couple days.... you'll sick of it believe me

Answer 5

It will be a bad thing if one or both of you don't finish school, neglect the child, or come to resent each other later for your decision. You are so very young and unfortunately too far to turn back. Just realize for the rest of your life, you will be someone's mother. Play adult games and sometimes you have to become and adult whether you want to or not. I just pray that when you do have the child and if you decide that it was a bad decision and you were not ready after all that the child doesn't suffer for your mistake. You have both decided to be parents and you have a responsibility to that child to be parents, the best ones you can be.

Answer 6

No it's not a bad thing, but you need to make that decision based on what will be best for the baby. Don't do it just because you think it will make you unborn child father stay with you forever. Raising a child in this world can be very difficult. So pray about and the answer will come to you. Good Luck

Answer 7

of course it isnt a bad thing if you have a steady job,married,and can support 3 people and if you dont like to have many friends or a social life and you dont plan on staying in school and going to college to get an education.i hope your parents are sooo rich that they can support ya'll.obviously you have NO common sense or you would know not to get knocked up.your boyfriend may tell you he loves you but did you ever think your just an easy piece of ***? this is a huge mistake and i know you may think im being mean but later in life you will agree that you threw away your childhood.not saying your a child, you just threw away the best years of your life.and if you really know how hard it is to have a baby,you would have never done it.you get morning sickness and the epidural hurts like a MOFO!!!!!!!!!you can hear it crunching thru your back.instead of studying or partying you get no sleep at all and you stay up all night.there is also a higher risk of you and your baby dying or something serious like that.you may think your body is mature but it can only take so much.and having a baby that early is dangerous for you both. i think you are kinda selfish for wanting to do this.maybe you did it b/c u wanted 2 stay close 2 your bf. but it doesnt just affect your life,it affects tha babys,yours,your family,your bf,and his family.you will know what i mean in a few years when you grow up. p.s. since u r 16 u r mor than likely to still be in school.that gives you a bad reputation as a slutty whore who threw her life away.good luck with that!!!!!! P.S.S. if your parents wanted to thay could send your baby daddy to jail for stachatory RAPE!!!!!! you are barly legal to drive!y have a baby????u r stupid.

Answer 8

I know what you mean. Should've probably waited a while though, but I feel the same way. There's some part of me that wants a baby so bad and wishing I could just be older to be able to have one. I'm not irresponsible or thinking too immaturely about the situation but I am young (15 just to let you know). Planning it isn't that great by that age. Couldn't have waited atleast 5 more years? When you're out of college?

Answer 9

It is a bad thing mainly because the two of you are so young. I'm 22 and my boyfriend and I are pregnant and it was not at all planned and we are barely surviving right now.

Not only are your parent's most likely going to be extreamly mad at the both of you but how do you know that your boyfriend is not going to leave you during your pregnancy or even after your baby is born?!

I just wish you the best of luck because you are going to need it.

Answer 10

It depends on how you are as a parent. Truthfully, though, you're most likely not in a place where you can support yourself let alone a child. You say you planned this with your boyfriend. You have no guarantee that he'll be with you in 18 days, let alone in 18 years when the child comes to maturity.

I wish you the best, but you've signed up for a much harder job than I believe you realize.