Women...do you think it's o.k. for your husband to look at nudie women online behind your back?

Question

It isn't about looks...Cobe Bryant is married to a gorgeous woman and Christie Brinkley's husband cheated with a young girl that doesn't even come close to Christie's beauty. And how about Halle Berry's ex cheating on her?
It's not about looks.

Answer 1

If he is doing that behind ur back ask yourself what else is he doing behind ur back?

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with looking at porn on the internet...as long as a) he's being respectful of your feelings, and b) you aren't being unreasonable. If the porn starts to replace you as his very willing partner, then you can start to worry. Otherwise, he's just being a horny guy. There's a whole world of bare nekkid boobies to look at out there, and he understandably feels like a kid in a candy store. Honestly, this only means something to your relationship if you allow it to. He couldn't care less about these women. They're just pretty to look at...and think about. The idea of one of these fantasy women (and don't think for a second that they aren't photoshopped!) being attracted to him makes him feel sexy and attractive. It doesn't mean that YOU don't make him feel this way. It just means that they do, too. Because they're women, plain and simple. He likes women. So what?

You can either let this imaginary slight eat away at your self-esteem (because he truly does not want them more than he wants you), or you can be a REAL woman and allow him his fantasies, knowing that those skinny little bimbos with the fake boobs are shallow as puddles, and they can't hold a candle to what you can offer him...which is more than just sex. Sex is all they have to offer. You can offer that, and so much more. So... why are they a threat again? Oh, right...because they're physically perfect [rolling my eyes]. Well. Y'know what...time and gravity catches up with us all, hon. A man that ditches real love for nothing more substantial than a pair of fake boobs and six-pack abs is NOT a man who is worth the trouble of keeping.

Recognize it for what it is: a fantasy. Don't just turn a blind eye. Acknowledge it. Encourage a healthy interest in sex. Making him feel ashamed or that he has hurt you will only drive it deeper underground, and send his habit spiralling out of control. You tell a person - male or female - that they can't have something, and they want it all the more. So...surprise him by accepting his sexuality as-is. He doesn't need to lie to you about this!

Answer 3

this happened to me, it upset me at first, and i tryed to play it off., thennnnn, i got in on his site logged in and found out it wz not so innocent. His best friends widow was on there,, and they had or have been talking back & forth. It broke my heart and has changed the way i look at him. He says he doesn't go there anymore, but i don't believe him. It has changed everything in our marriage, and we have been married 32yrs. I gave him the boot, and he ran & involved our grown children in it, and that is another story. Just to tell you, if it hurts, now, it will hurt more later. I don't trust him, and it shows to everyone that things are not the same. I look at it like this, it wz told to me who is wiser than me, " Lust of the Heart, is the same as the actual act", you have to search your heart, and if you haven't been close in a long time, either counseling, or going to church might help. I shouldn't preach, we live in seperate bedrooms now, and everything else is "NOT". I am dissabled and the best i cope with it, is allot of vodka, and sleep. So good luck!

Answer 4

Honey boys will b boys. Let him have his fun as long as he doesn't cross the line n physically/emotionally cheat then its k. Besides i know u can appreciate a good looking man wen u pass him on the streets r c him on tv u might not say it out loud but it is d same damn thing.

Answer 5

my personal feeling about it no I don't think its OK, but I know he does it when I'm not around. I mean if he's hiding and doing he knows I wouldn't approve or he would do it in front of me.
And another thing, they think those woman are picture perfect on there, they have no idea that over half there picture is digitally finished. I mean yeah some of them are pretty no doubt but , most have had photo touch up.

Answer 6

Come on Gals, give me a break! Men looking at porn on the Internet is not CHEATING, it's only fantasy. What is the problem? You have to be pretty insecure about yourself and your relationship to let something like that disrupt your relationship.

Answer 7

I dont care if that what he wants thats ok with me. Hes a man what do you expect! as long as he isnt cheating he can buy magazines look at porn whatever. And to me it wouldnt be cheating or doing it behind my back because I oked it.
We trust each other and I know he would never cheat. so yeah its ok .

Answer 8

I think it is great when l do it and guess what l am going to keep doing it behind her back or in front of her face as long as it is looking what is the harm. l hate jealous women who think a man is supposed to stop living cause he met you.

Answer 9

No I am not OK with that at all to me that is the same say cheating,if we looking together then that is ok but not behind my back that shows he is hiding something!

Answer 10

Do you think it's ok for you to look at nudie men online behind your husband's back?

Of course it's not ok!

Answer 11

NO, I don't think that it's okay, but guys do it anyways. And think any of the women who do show their stuff online are all just insecure women who need attention. And we women who don't do that live in the real world.