My boyfreind has gained weight since we been together and he is very upset about it, I told him Ill back him on what ever it is he wants to do as far as food and excersise. Last night he was depressed about the whole weight issue and told me he wasnt going to have sex with me anymore what should I do I love him regardless and I feel he has taking this to far...He say he is lacking too much energy and the weight is putting a strain on his back so Im cut off from sex.
2006-07-18 10:46:59 · 17 answers · asked by italianprincess_fl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I forgot he has gained 60lbs in the 3 years we been together
2006-07-18 10:51:34 · update #1
The real issue is that he doesn't feel desirable. If you do desire him, say so. Tell him you understand that he doesn't feel good about himself, but that your still horny for him. Tell him you love him and that you're proud that he's your man. Don't cajole him about the weight loss, but be supportive.
2006-07-18 10:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 6⤊ 3⤋
What a baby...anyway, if he's complaining this much what has he done about it? Has he started exercising? Dieting? Or is he just waiting for it to magically melt away? If he's lacking motivation you could just start a diet plan for the both of you, get rid of any junk you have in your house and make him go with you for walks or something. Once he starts feeling a little better about himself I'm sure he'll come around. Maybe you could go to a "toy store" together and he can help you pick something out to "relax" yourself when he's lacking the energy to have fun, betcha he'll be in the mood after that. ;)
2006-07-18 10:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships = weight gain. he thinks ur the cause of it so he's cut you out...that sucks. it's cuz we get lazy when we're in relationships. when we're single, you have more time to work out cuz we're bored. do you keep him on a leash? let him do what he wants. why don't you try going on a diet and exercising with him. all that energy from exercising will definitely stir up some hormones. he's a guy, he's gonna want sex within a couple weeks tops, lol.
2006-07-18 10:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by J-boogy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he say how much weight he'd have to loose for the 2 of you to start having sex again? If it's getting to the point where it's hindering his actions he should start exercising and change his diet. Maybe you should put the 2 of you on a diet- you doing it with him could help him stick to it.
2006-07-18 11:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other positions and let him know that sex is a very good way to lose weight, burns many calories per session. Also tell him that he will not be the only one hurting if he does not have sex with you, the relationship will also be hurt too.
2006-07-18 10:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that sex is an exercise....
Your not the cause of the weight gain....he will have to deal with it better then that...get back into life.
2006-07-18 11:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by wondering about this 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is only your boyfriend and NOT your husband. You haven't "vowed" to do shoot. If he can't do "it" because of 60 pounds, he doesn't want to do it. My Hubby was (at one point) 70+ pounds over weight and we still managed quite frequently. It's a pity party for chubby and he's going to make you pay. Here's a good clue for the future if you marry this man. It only gets worse.
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2016-11-02 07:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much weight are we talking? Sounds like he is cheating, babe. Unless it is a couple hundred pounds, men don't cut you off because they have gained weight.
2006-07-18 10:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure heis not gay???
I have never hear of a man saying he won't have sex with his partner because he is fat.
Anyways tell him to stop eating junk and start running and he should start losing weight quickly
2006-07-18 10:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his worthless carcass. Sex is a vital part of any real relationship.
2006-07-18 10:52:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋