I'm an American and my boyfriend of three years is Arab and he recently asked me to marry him, but refuses to have sex before we get married. I love him,but what if we are incompatible sexually? Is that something to really 'find out" after marriage?
2006-07-18 10:40:04 · 18 answers · asked by consigliere 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WAITING IF YOU REALLY CARE ABOUT THIS PERSON. SOMETIMES GOOD THING COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT. IF HE NOT WHAT YOU EXPECT ,TALK TO HIM A LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU WANT IT , HOW YOU WANT TO BE TOUCH AFTER ALL HE WILL BE YOU HUSBAND , AND YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO BE ABLE TO TALK TO EACH OTHER ABOUT THESE KIND OF THING. SO YES I WOULD MARRY SOMEONE I HAVE NEVER HAD SEX WITH.
2006-07-18 10:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by guestcook06 1 · 18⤊ 4⤋
My husband and I both were virgins up to a week before our wedding date. We decided to go for it to see what the big fuss was. All our friends were no longer virgins. We both were 26.
I think sex is such an intimate action. I couldn't imagine not knowing the other person inside out before we take off our clothes. The awkwardness the first time wasn't horrible, more like trying to see how it works. I wasn't worried about him thinking that I was fat or ugly or other things, guys are just happy to get some. haha, so I hear. anyways, I think if you two connect emotional and are open to conversations about anything, there is no reason why you would not connect sexually. but maybe I'm naive...
2006-07-18 11:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're marrying him only for interest. Doesn't sound like love. My wife and I didn't have sex before marriage. She was a virgin and I had never done it with ia partner (hand only). We had some difficulty getting use to each other at first, but the love we felt for each other made us hold on. If having good sex is the only thing you're worried about, then you might think twice about marrying someone you haven't had a test drive with. It took my marriage over three years to get it running smoothly. Is your love strong enough????????
2006-07-18 11:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. For the exact same reason I wouldn't marry someone I hadn't lived with for six months or longer. To some, it may be morally wrong or against religious preference but to me I feel strongly a lot of divorces are caused by those two things.
To be with someone, no matter how much you love them, you need to connect as closely as possible and a very important connection IS sex. If you don't match, one or both of you will be dissapointed and conciously or subconciously it will drag down your relationship for the same reasons if you marry someone you haven't lived with their *and/or* your living habits will grate on nerves to the point of wreaking a relationship. If you feel the same way, you might want to consider talking to him about this...
2006-07-18 10:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by randompersoness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as you married youthful, It' can ensue it is because it became a lustful love quite than a appealing love. that occurs once you actual pick to change right into a extension of the different individual. you're making the starting up and keenness will persist with. once you detect it you'll inspect LOVE an entire new way, and it is going to very last continually. i became informed by technique of my dad and he became fifty six years previous even as i became born. i imagine he's conscious what he became speaking about.
2016-12-01 21:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by kennebeck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest the Bible says...... not to have Sex until after you are married. But If you love him then do what your heart feels. A relationship isn't always based on Sex. And if it is then you don't really Love that person... you just love what the can do to you.
2006-07-18 10:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by KeKe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In one word, YES!!! Don't have sex until the wedding night and respect him, especially if you love him. That is how it's supposed to work.
You meet, fall in love, decide to get married, get married, THEN have sex. That's the best way, believe me! You will not regret it! No, it may not be perfect on the wedding night, but you have the rest of your lifes to perfect it! Hope this helps!
2006-07-18 10:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not just no, but hell no!! Sex although, should not be the basis of a relationship it is very important. If someone is not capable of satisfying you sexually then there is a greater chance of you being unfaithful... then what's the use? You wanna know that your future is with someone who shares your sexual interest and desires.
2006-07-18 10:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by K. C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big part of marriage but it's not everything.
If you really LOVE him you wouldn't care and you would marry him but I think you're not really sure about your feelings.
You should appreciate the fact that he respects you and respects his beliefs, sounds like a great man to me!
2006-07-18 10:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the absolute minimum, you should try to talk to him about what he wants and expects and what you want and expect.
Personally, I think marrying a serious Muslim is a big mistake unless you are also a serious Muslim. If you two ever have a daughter, you will fight endlessly over how to raise her -- especially when she is a teen.
2006-07-18 10:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u love him? y are u worried? if anything u can teach him, thats what make a relationship work is helping each other, correct? so dont fret teach how to have the freakest sex of his life. my b/f and i have been going out for a year and a half he was a virgin i wasnt ... he sucked... but now hes my sex slave.
2006-07-18 10:45:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋