help me please..need new friend's....lol
2006-07-18 10:36:55 · 10 answers · asked by itsa 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Oh Wow I am in the same boat. If we were rich and in some snobby country club and we lost that Mercedes or most of our money, well they would ask us to leave. It's the same with our what we thought were our "closest friends" We don't have the same things in common anymore.
Do you go to meetings? You can find friends there, Lots of them but you have to be care ful there too, because there are those who aren't clean at all, those who want to talk about NA or AA
ALL the time. But look for the people who aren't like that, who are objective and are aren't newcomers. People in the middle ground
Listen to how they talk in meetings If they talk AA too much avoid them.
Be really really proud of yourself, your old buddies are in a haze and going nowhere... you are on your way to getting a life.If
you like to hang out at coffeehouses, you can find friends there too
as long as they don't do drugs. People you once thought to be boring have a lot to offer now that you are clean. You are free from the bondage of drug use, please stick with it because I am getting desperate for friends too. Good luck
2006-07-18 10:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Matt M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Recovery is a tough thing for some people, not to go through, but to deal with others going through. Your friends may not know how to act with you and they are probably just scared of the unknown. Make more of an effort with them. Once you show them you are the same you, just without the bad stuff, they should come around in time.
2006-07-18 17:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by happymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you aren't doing the old stuff you used to do-- and that's what they based the relationship on.
Go to 12 step meetings, make friends there.
Volunteer somewhere.
If you are so inclined, attend church or temple.
Take a class at a community college.
Fill your time with productive stuff so you won't be tempted by your addiction and you will make lots of new friends in the process.
2006-07-18 17:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause they don't want to go down the same road as you did. Maybe they think you haven't learned a lesson. You are a product of who you are, your experiences, and the company you keep. a positive times a positive times a negative is a negative... Just a theory. I don't know you so I don't know if you are a bad person, but I'm guessing you aren't. You can always IM me, I don't dump friends even if I should :-)
2006-07-18 17:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if by "recovery" you mean drugs and/or alcohol, it's because you have taken it upon yourself to do something about your addiction, and groups who do these things together resent those that change or stray from the pack ... basic human instinct my friend. You don't need drug buddies anyway ...
2006-07-18 17:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by Blind Lemon Jackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will get better... I was there 5 years ago and I made new friends, through my program, church, going to parks, museums. I wish you the best of luck ! The best thing if they are true friends the will come around.
2006-07-18 17:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Z-Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to hang out with the old crowd. Find uplifting people who encourage your personal growth and support your endeavors at this point in your life. Good luck, and God bless you!
2006-07-18 17:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't want to feel guilty for not having changed as you have. Easier to maintain a group mentality and make you the outcast.
2006-07-18 17:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by Raymond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget them! They need help! Now that you are high off life they have a problem with you. They were never your true friends.
2006-07-18 17:41:13 · answer #9 · answered by meme1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude get up off the computer and go meet some real people
2006-07-18 17:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by C. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋