2006-07-18 10:25:41 · 19 answers · asked by Jujeaux 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I am a stay at home mom of a 1.5 year old. I used to be a corporate gal--traveling the country, visiting spine surgeons and converting new business, coming up with new products, training reps, etc. The point being was I was very active. I'm a very social person, so when I had to stay at home with my baby I felt my world go into a tail spin--life really started to "suck". I began to ask myself why I felt this way? It was because I was losing a part of myself--my identity. You see, Iarge part of who I was was wrapped up in my work--my identity as a person. My work isn't all that I am, but it was a part of me that I lost. Additionally, I was now alone with the baby so I lost the social interaction I once had with adults. So little by little I felt life was unraveling. I additionally had less time to do the things I wanted to do on my own without a baby to take care of (certain freedoms you have when you don't have a kid and you don't appreciate until you have a kid).
As the dust began to settle and I realized what I was missing by asking myself why I was so miserable, I started to do something about it. Seeing as all these things causing so much stress in my life was causing me to really feel physically bad too. The best thing I did for myself was to join a gym that had daycare and release stress. I began feeling better mentally and physically. Now the world didn't seem to "suck" as much anymore. Things were looking up. The next thing I did was plan playdates (meeting other people in my situation I can relate to--in this case other moms with kids) and hanging out with them--go to the park, beach, etc.
The main thing is to take care of yourself first (or you are no good to anyone else). If it means mentally, physically, spiritually, then I recommend it highly--be around people who will lift you up and not bring you down. Negative people will bring you down. Be around positive influences, successful people, people in your situation that have pulled out of what you are currently in (not those who are still in what you are in and stuck there--they will drag you down if they don't want to get better). Oh! And being in the dark and sleeping away your day only makes you more depressed, secluded and alone. It defeats the purpose of getting out, and being motivated to change for the better which.
Even doing what you are doing by writing this question is a beautiful start. Hang on to hope and know that you will make it through the darkest of times if you continue to stand when you can stand no more, press through, and do things to make the situation better (it won't get better until you do something about it). Trust me, I wanted my situation to get better and complained all the while. It didn't change until I started to take steps to change.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-18 11:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the great truths about life is that "Life is difficult" that is not a pessimistic view its just realistic. There are ups and downs in life, but overall its difficult. Do a little bit of research on the meaning of life, you need to look at the spiritual aspect of it. There are tons of book, read, I found lots of answers when I was feeling like that and I began searching in different religions or esoteric teachings. Right now when I read Buddhism books it really helps me, It makes so much sense. Try it.
Find out why you think life sucks, you actually have the power to change it all a bit. Maybe you need a change, change its good. The answers are really in you, be in silence, by yourself, close your eyes and listen to your inner voice, I swear it helps.
2006-07-18 18:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find out why it's sucking? Does it just suck on certain days? Is it continuously sucking? What prevents you from controlling the "Suck" in life? Time? Money?
2006-07-18 17:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide it you want to allow it to bring you down and step back and decide how you can turn things around. You have "will" and only you can allow life to suck. That doesn't mean that sometimes life hands us a bum hand - but it does mean that you have the choice to accept that crummy hand and let it control you or you take over control and turn things around. Many of the top successful people in the daily limelight were given raw deals along the way but they turned things around and became even stronger and more successful because of them. (Oprah Winfrey is a prime example)
2006-07-18 17:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by dddanse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, you don't ask the question here because most people are born idiots and you will only receive stupid answers. Here is a suggestion:
Continue to do what you would have done if life did not suck.
2006-07-18 17:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do all of the above. And remember there are tons of people who are much worse off than you are. Imagine what it would be like to be homeless for example. Or to be living in Iraq or Isreal. It kind of puts your problems in a different light.
2006-07-18 17:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I know this one!
1. Buy a big tub of ice cream
2. Eat it.
OR
1. Find your fav song
2. Dance to it.
OR
1. Go Shopping
Need more ideas? Got Tons!
2006-07-18 17:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by armwrestlemania 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hand over my carpeting to get cleaned. It works better than a vacuum cleaner.
2006-07-20 15:24:27 · answer #8 · answered by MojoMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a vacuum cleaner business.
2006-07-18 20:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get closer to people, pray for guidance, go slower or faster, keep showing up, hang on
2006-07-18 17:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋