We met a year ago! Just getting ready to reach our one year mark! The first 3 months were like testing the water. The problem is that lately we argue more then get along. Love is not a question. We are very in love, but for the last 3 months it seems very easy to argue with each other and harder to remember that we love each other....and worse that all pre-marriage kids are here for the summer. Trying not to spoil it for them. We fight over stupid stuff. we cant seem to do anything much and agree.....we just fight. Still deeply in love with him....and know its returned. Is it air of change or on its way out the door? HIS ANSWER? He has looked all his life to find me and the kind of love that he feels, not willing to give up!
2006-07-18 10:24:30 · 8 answers · asked by wondering about this 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Back to basic. Got on dates again. Take time out for your relationship. This should happen all the time for it to work.
2006-07-18 10:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by B D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In reading Yahoo Answers, it is pretty clear that people use love as a crutch to avoid reality of a bad relationship. He beats me, but I love him. We fight but we love each other. He cheated but he loves me. Love is based on mutual respect, which it sounds like neither of you have right now. If you both can acknowledge that you are fighting too much, then come up with a plan to combat it. If you get angry, step away, maybe write down your feelings, and discuss at night in PRIVATE. Sure it takes work, but love is not for free, it takes work. If you aren't willing to do the work, then step away and realize it is over.
2006-07-18 10:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to get too deep here, just look at what You are fighting about. It usually is about something else. Number one cause for stress is Money. I am sure that it is difficult with so much money going to child support. However very needed. Try to plan 30 minutes a day, where You just cuddle, and talk, about anything but problems. Then plan once a week for one hour, to work on problems, and solving them. Once they are solved, no reason to rehash them. If it is truly right, it is worth working on to keep. Just make it happy, make a plan to guide Your love and Lives in that direction.
2006-07-18 10:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take a look at what you are arguing about. What is important to you, and what is important to him? Have a talk and find out what both of you really need from each other. If that doesn't work, then reevaluate the relationship. Arguing will never get you anywhere.
2006-07-18 10:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really in love? I'm suspitious. I vote for you are just now on the edge of falling in love. Sounds like you really like each other--which is great. Love is being willing to form a partnership with someone--that means sharing power. Sounds like you two are a little reluctant to give up any. Power struggles brought down my first marriage--glad I learned my lesson.
2006-07-18 10:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by Pepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest developing some rules for discussions/arguments and try to stop fighting. I would also read some books on male to female relationships and see a counselor.
2006-07-18 10:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So maybe your just going through growing pains. Why not go see a couples counselor to work out the problems your having. Sometimes all you need is a little help.
2006-07-18 10:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to tell you this, babe, but it might be infatuation...especially after the 1st 3 were great and now you're always fighting....maybe he's not Mr. right. for you but he thinks you're right for him...you might want to reconsider the relationship...
2006-07-18 10:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by jonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋