Trust him to sleep at the home of his baby mother??????

Question

Ladies and men please give your first gut response or tell me if you have had a similar experience.My boyfriend of ten months left three days ago to spend some time with his two year old daughter who lives in another state! He doesnt see her very often. However he is staying in the guest room in his baby moms home. It made me very uncomfortable, coupled with the fact that he was texting me from her home instead of calling. He kept teeling me to have faith in him etc... etc...I broke up with him because it is too much for me to handle. I feel like I was disrespected and my feelings were neglected.Was I wrong???????What do you think?????

The baby's mom lives with her parents,but she did when they made that baby too! He tried to use that to further his point that nothing was going to happen between him and his daughters mom.

p.p.s I believe children should always be placed first,and I encourage him to spend time with her.But there could have been a better way to go about this.

1-718-810-6557-would some of you tell him that lol

Answer 1

What is his financial situation? Would it have been a great burden (or impossible) for him to have afforded to stay in a motel during his visit? Men and women can cohabitate without anything inappropriate going on...and they can be friends without anything inappropriate going on...however you know him better than we, and you know if due to his past behavior there might be reason to believe he's not being faithful to you.

The situation straight up imo isn't anything to automatically assume he's not being faithful...however if he's cheated before, if he's still carrying a torch for his child's mother, if y'all were not in each other's good graces when he left for the trip then maybe you have cause for concern.

Without trust a relationship cannot survive long, so it sounds like you did what you felt was necessary because you did not trust him...but other than the situation as you explained it above, were there other reasons for mistrust or did you just get angry and jump the gun?

Answer 2

pay interest, there are some jerks of the international in this web site answering your question. Please pay no interest to them. they receives theirs. next. certain, your question is a hair lengthy yet its ok. i'm getting the point. Your mom is an finished a hollow. i'm so sorry that you're trapped in this example, meaning, having to stay mutually with her. i do not in any respect agree mutually with her terrible suggestion and that i imagine she is a finished tyrant. And abusive. you do not ought to have an abortion. and that i imagine also its somewhat previous due for that. 5 months? An abortion is for the first trimester. you're interior the 2d. that is someone already, ok? Have the child. only have it! And tell your mom that. what's she going to do, beat you up? If that takes position, she's a newborn abuser and also you may want to no longer be residing mutually with her. imagine about giving this infant up for adoption. also, in a tremendous kind of states all someone has to do is drop off a infant interior the emergency room waiting room of a medical institution and then walk about. they at the prompt aren't to any extent further obligated to guard the child. this can be a very last motel yet is an determination, so see what the rules of your state are. a minimum of this undesirable infant may have a existence!

Answer 3

You did the right thing by leaving this guy, he used you and then was disrespecting you, you could have been invited and stayed in a hotel and had his baby's mom drop her off at the hotel so that he could visit and you could meet the child, Him and the mom could have met 1/2 way with you in the car and he could have gotten his child and brought her home for a few days so that the whole family could have seen her,,,,, he played you and he thought he was playing a fiddle until you showed him otherwise... I am proud of you and you did the right thing!!!! go girl.

Answer 4

There's always a possibility that he could be with her. Then again there's a possibility that he is being faithful. If you broke up with him, then it's apparent that you didn't trust him enough. If you felt disrespected and neglected, then maybe you could've discussed it with him. It was kinda shady for him to text you instead of calling you. But he did ask you to have faith in him. A man doesn't usually say "have faith in me." I'm not telling you to be naive about the situation, but more communication was needed. So now the questions are: Do you really want him back? Do you care about him enough to call him and try to work it out? Do you even want him enough to call him and try to work it out?

The ball's in your court lady!

Good luck to you

Answer 5

I think you should have given him some benefit of the doubt. I would do anything to see my kids if I were separated from them. It may look bad, but now you will never know how trustworthy he is. I must admit though, it would have been better if he had a place to stay other than the mothers house. (Maybe a hotel would be worse) Just remember, not all men cheat. If I were him, I wouldn't take you back.

Answer 6

You are right to have suspicions. I am a single parent and frequently have to pick up my boys from my ex. When I enter there home I do not even sit down let alone the thought of spending the night there. That isnt because my ex and I are not cool, we are very cool and friendly. It is the point that we are split up and in being split up I respect her privacy and home and she respects mine. There are hotels or motels he could visit with his child. It is disrespectful to you his current woman to sleep at another womans home... I would bet if the roles were reversed he would have a problem with you spending the night at your ex's house. You did the right thing.

Answer 7

If he can't be trusted then it doesn't really matter where he spends the night at...he could just as easily have the ex over at the no-tell motel...This situation really tests your faith in your relationship..if it bothered you that much...you did the right thing ...because your faith must be stronger than this to have a serious relationship with him....its one of the harder things about dating a guy/girl who has a child with another.

Answer 8

If he doesn't see how weird this whole situation is then he will never be the right guy for you. What's next, are they all going to Disney World together ? By the way, does he know that hotels and motels exist ? You did the right thing breaking up with him. Just imagine what you will have to put up with in the years to come.

Answer 9

Baby girl let me tell you! I had a boy friend for four years (lived together for one) and after we broke up we were still messing around. Not just having sex but hanging out and conversation and all. We're like best friends! He and I did not have a baby together or any thing but from what I hear it makes the bond even stronger. Besides if they made that baby in her parents house there's nothing stopping them from fooling around and reliving some great memories.

Answer 10

~*~ Don't trust him... If he was a real man he'd be staying at a hotel or someone else's house.. Why is he afraid to call you from his baby's mamas house? Sending text messages saying for you to have faith in him says that obviously he feels guilty and feels that you are stupid enough to believe him.. Obviously this man has alot to hide.. Thing is that he doesn't lie very well... I think you just need to get away from this drama before you get caught up in it.. I'm sure you're a nice woman that can find a real man that will treat you right and not get you caught up in drama.. goodluck..~*~