Womens sex drive!!!?

Question

I have a low sex drive, this happened after the birth of my son and I am going crazy trying to fix the problem but it is hard to fix the problem when you don't know what the problem is. This is causing a problem within my marrige my husband thinks I am not attracted to him anymore and that is not the truth. Has anyone else had this problem and what did you do to fix it??? Help Help please

I have been to the doctor and they tell me the problem is all mental. My son is 4

Answer 1

Time for a new doctor. If you were a man with this problem, do you think your doctor would tell you it's all in your head?

Doctors are just people, and they're as prone to errors in judgment as anyone else. If your Dr. isn't taking your health issues seriously, get a different one.

But let's say for argument that you've ruled out any physicial cause. A 4 yr. old is a big workload--how much help are you getting from hubby? And remember that there's both a physicial AND a mental part of raising a kid, and an overload in either can knock out your drive. No one feels sexy when they're wiped out--unless you're 19 and you feel sexy when traffic lights change color.

Answer 2

I hear after a woman gives birth, her hormones get out of wacked. Just like during pregnancy some women have mental breakdowns. I've seen my husband's sister cry and breakdown during her second pregnancy. You'd think second time around would be easier?

I don't know about sex drive but I think it has a lot to do with mental. I mean your body just carried a human and labor cannot be fun. Your body just went through a huge change. I would feel very unattractive too and probably would have a hard time dealing with it and I've never had a kid. Contineu with the vitamins and think happy thoughts, the only advice I could give you...

Answer 3

This is not uncommon after the birth of a child. Your hormones might not be back in balance yet or you could just be overtired with taking care of the child, home etc. Try just having a date night with you and hubby with no children (hire a sitter) with the understanding that there be no pressure for sex just a good evening out or at home , but hey if it happens so be it. Also talk to your doctor about this it could be medical. You are not alone it has happened to a lot of women.

Answer 4

it happens to most women after you have giving birth too a child.
But it really is mental. If you think about it, what is it that makes you not want to have sex with your husband ? Do you feel that since you had your son that you don't feel like you need/want to have sex anymore. I know what it's like to have givin birth and not want to have sex anymore. Well it should pass and I think that you really need to talk to your hubby and try things out. Like maybe add some spice too the sex.

Answer 5

Have you considered the possibility that you are suffering from post-partum depression? Or maybe you are just trying too hard to "fix the problem". How much is your hubby helping you out? I would talk to your doctor again (or possibly get a new one) and try anti-depressants. My sister suffered from post-partum depression and is taking something for it now and is coping much better. Not sure how her sex life is going but I know she's not as unhappy as she was before.

Answer 6

Really go see your OB, they can help determine what the cause is and worrying about it isn't going to do any good without finding a real solution, in order to do that you need to find the cause.

Answer 7

first off, see a doctor. second even if yer not interested, you can give him a BJ to show him you still want him

Answer 8

Go see your medical doctor ASAP.

Answer 9

im srry i cant help, i have too much of a drive