What should a man that supports his family expect from his wife?

Question

If a woman stays home to "take care of the home and family" but does neither...does this man have any recourse?...He tries to keep up with the cleaning but he works, She can tell him every tv show on at any given moment and she has more virual friends than IRL friends. The kids are mostly clean and well kept but don't have nice clothes and have been known to throw the main breaker in the house to get her off the puter when tired of being ignored.
I would really like to get the ladies opinions if possible but men you chime in too please

Thanks

Answer 1

you should definately expect her to keep up with the daily "chores", but, everybody in the house should also have some responsibilities too (such as picking up their own trash, putting their laundry into baskets, clearing their own plates from the table, etc...) otherwise, she might feel like a maid rather than a stay at home mom. if the computer is the issue, cancel the internet, you pay the bills! i am pretty much a stay at home mom, and i admit that at times all of the work is overwhelming...i'm a chauffer, receptionist, chef, maid, wife, mother and being available all of time to your family is exhausting. i do think that if my house was a disaster and my family had to fight the computer for my attention that my man would insist that i take my *** out into the workforce.

Answer 2

She needs to be thankful that she has the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. There is no excuse for a messy environment at home if you have no job. She should be teaching the children their chores so that her load is not so big. And if she's not spending quality time with them, then what is the point of being a stay at home mom. This opinion comes from a working divorced mother of three. I long for a good husband who would be willing to work so that I could be a stay at home MOTHER and WIFE. What a load that would be off of my shoulders!!! Some women just don't realize how fortunate they are. BUT, don't be too hard on her, because sometimes I've seen allot of stay at home moms become lazy (not on purpose). Maybe she just needs a good boost. A day at the spa and some reminders of some things she could be doing with the children instead of being on the computer or watching TV.

Answer 3

OKAY!!!! Stay at home Mom here...
I have such a difficult time believing that a man really does as much as he thinks he does. That being said...
If the children are being ignored/neglected you must put a stop to it.
Why don't you put a hidden camera up where she and the children spend most of their time. You can show her with irrefutable evidence that she is being a bad mother...or at least have evidence in a custody battle.
Children shouldn't have access to a main breaker- hello- electrocution???
Your recourse is to show her your proof of neglect, threaten to take the kids, if this fails- leave her.
Really the house isn't the priority ( unless, we're talking the health dept needs to be called) the children , their safety, and their well-being are at risk. BTW you are aware of the conditions, and if you do not resolve this situation, you are a party to the neglect.

Answer 4

I am a stay at home mom during the day and I also work about 16 hours a week away from home. One suggestion I have is to get rid of the Internet. I can say we had the Internet but got rid of it cause it was too expensive.. but i can say I am sure i would be on it alot if we had it sometimes people are cut out to stay at home alone she might need people to talk to during the day.... or if you want to keep it you can set a password for it so she can't get on it. maybe make a list of thing s you want to have done before you get home and ask her if she could please get these things done by the time you get there.. Hope this helps.. tell her your marriage or relationship is on the line..

Answer 5

Stop putting up with it. Try to determine why she is doing what she is doing, is she just lazy or is she perhaps depressed and feeling like her life has no meaning? Some people just aren't good at staying home. Me personally if i have 1000 things to get done in a day i'll get pretty close, if i have 2 i have trouble getting motivated. Until you find out what the underlying cause is you won't have much luck solving the problem.

Answer 6

Sounds like you are not getting the respect you deserve. If you're not getting the lovin' you deserve you had better have a heart to heart with her before you get to the point of no return. Keep a good eye on her. Someone that spends that much time on the puter is being exposed to a lot of stuff that is not healthy for a marriage. She is your partner. Try to get her to take care of her part of the partnership. If she won't prepare yourself for the inevitable conclusion.

Answer 7

God created the woman to be a helper for the man and she should respect him but in turn, he should also be deserving of respect by leading his household spiritually, physically and mentally. If you feel that you are doing all these things, consider sitting her down and talking with her calmly about what you hope to have happen in your lives together. Then, listen and consider carefully what she says. Perhaps then you will understand how to help her to fix things and keep your marriage together. If not, consider a marriage councelor.

Answer 8

I do think it's the womans responsibility to clean the house and take care of the children if the man works. I she isn't going to do any of it then tell her to get a job, so you can afford to pay someone to do what she's not doing.

Answer 9

If she is a stay at home mom, then by all means, she should clean. If she is able to, that is. Yes, it's fun to watch tv, but too much tv is not good. Her family and house comes first, or it should. Hope this helps.

Answer 10

I was a stay at home mom for two years. I have three kids and it sounds like you have a lazy wife. She is either lazy, or she's not happy. Her responsibility is the household, that is her job. That means meals, cleaning, laundry, bathing the kiddos, organizing, running arrands, getting things ready for school, etc.