Do you think it's bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding?

Question

I'm getting married in August and I have always thought the bride and groom should be seperated before her walk down the aisle. But, I seem to be the only one with those old fashioned views. The photographer has tried to convince me and my Fiance that we should have alot of the photos taken before the wedding. He says that almost all the couples do it that way now b/c it gives more time during the ceremony and reception. Although my Fiance promises he will still be breathless when I walk down the aisle I still feel like it would kinda be spoiled..........So do I do economical or superstitious???????

Answer 1

It's like sending him out to find hot water when your busy delivering the baby. It gives him something to do. In the case of the wedding, it's a last chance for all the girls to be together as they've always known each other. Otherwise, can you imagine guys hanging out while your doing your makeup and adjusting your bra, and your girlfriend is trying to have one last "attached at the hip" moment with her single girlfriend.

Yup bad luck alright!

Answer 2

First part of your question is do I think it is bad luck for the groom to see you before the wedding and the answer is no just like you said it is nothing but folk lore. So now the second part do you go economical or superstitious and I have to say that this is your wedding day is your special day and you should follow you heart. If the person taking the pictures can not see it that way then you must find someone else I am sure their are a lot who will do as you want seeing you are the one footing the bill. My wife agrees with you about not wanting him to see you and she says that him seeing you for the first time in your wedding dress should take his breath away.

Answer 3

I was with my husband for the whole day, we had an evening wedding 13 years ago!!!!! BUT once it came to 3-4 hours before the wedding we separated to different homes and got dressed and finished getting ready for the big nite.

This was great, I still had that satisfaction of seeing his face light up and eyes bulge out when he saw me coming down the isle, and also had him with me for the day to get all the finishing touches done. We have been married for 13 wonderful years with 3 beautiful children. We did all of our pictures after the ceremony and at the reception and the church. Good Luck and go with ur heart!!!!!

Answer 4

My daughter got married last summer. The photographer also gave her and her fiance the option of doing photos prior to the ceremony but they were both old fashioned enough that they decided not to go that route.

You do what makes you happy on your special day. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing what "almost all" couples do... and for the record, I don't believe that the majority of couples do it that way these days.

I don't think it's superstition as much as tradition.

Best of luck.

Answer 5

it's an old wives tale anyway,.... do what u really want to make your day special for you, but you really would save yourself alot of hassle if the wedding party does the pic taking before the ceremony. you'll be able to enjoy your reception and your guests much more. i've been in 4 weddings in the past 5 yrs or so and that's how they all did it. you're going to be very stressed that day, hoping everything about the ceremony goes ok, and having most of the photos taken already will relieve you of that burden on your mind. congrats!

Answer 6

my neighbour got married a few weeks back and she was telling me that she was going to see her hubby for the pictures before the wedding. well, ME, i just let my eyes bug out of my head and said "what? youre not suppose to!" and she agreed, but again, photographer.. blah blah.. and actually, what they did instead was have them on either side of a wall, and took a picture of them together, but not seeing eachother. I thought that was an EXCELLENT idea.

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Stick to tradition.. i think there's a good theory behind it with all that shock value and awe when you do come down the aisle and he sees you.. :D

Answer 7

In keeping with tradition, they say that it is bad luck. Everyone knows this. Good example would be Prince Charles and Lady Diana.

Now, if you believe that, then i have swamp land to sell you in florida, and in canada.

It is up to you whether you believe it or not.

Personally, i don't believe in anything that is folklore or a wild fib like most people are lead to believe. There are so many of these sayings out there too. Notice how they always predict doom and gloom if you do or don't? Funny how that is.

Answer 8

Well, how long are the pictures going to be? If you want to do them after then make sure you have a place for your guest to go... see if you can extend your cocktail hour or add one. Most brides try to make the cocktail hour but the point of it is to give the guest something to do (drink and eat snacks) while they wait for your pics to be done. if your guest are being taken care of then have your pics done after. Maybe you should also talk to a different photographer if you don't like what he is telling you... all of them work differently.

Answer 9

i think it's rather silly for you two not to see each other before the wedding, but in the end, it's really up to you which way you want to do it. if you feel for comfortable not seeing him till you walk down the aisle, then go for it!! and congratulations. hope you have an awesomely happy marriage

Answer 10

I dont think that you should see him...not being superstitious or n e thing, but he just might not be breathless when you walk down that asile...Taking pictures after the wedding isnt going to take that long.