I only meet people who are afraid of falling on the wrong side of those in power / bullies - and therefore suck up to them. And when I don't give in to those bullies, these 'friends' call me difficult and they're afraid to be seen with me.
2006-07-18 09:32:53 · 16 answers · asked by Logan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Without going into extensive and dangerous surgery to prove the matter; I can tell you that they all have spines. Take my word! It is only natural that they have such a key bodily component, afterall, they wouldn't fair too well without one.
Sounds like youv'e been dating victims of bullying. People are bullied because they are physically weaker or mentally 'less self-confident' than the bully. Perhaps a confidence-building/moral-boosting speech or such like may be in order.
Being bullied makes life hell, people will even take their own lives away from themselves because of it. By not helping them avoid the situation, you are siding with the bully in that you exacerbate the situation - but keep trying, if you make 'em feel like crap for being weak then they'll probably do something about it next time! - Get them to take up martial arts classes, these lessons will boost the persons inner confidence in themselves - knowing they could beat the crap out of their bully if they wanted to, but it will also teach them self control.
2006-07-18 09:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by amtghota 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have the same attitude as you, and it often ends me up with few friends. It's human nature to go with the group, so when you're a person who doesn't care for what the group is doing, and you're not leading the group, you often end up left alone.
You basically just have to be patient, and keep having a spine yourself. You may end up without a whole lot of friends for a bit, but you'll keep your dignity and self esteem, which is more than most people can say.
2006-07-18 16:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by extton 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you exercise power against others in power, are you any better than they are? I wouldn't call that having a spine, because sometimes it's not beneficial to do that. There's nothing wrong with taking a stand, but not over pathetic issues, espicially when your job is on the line. When it comes to your boss, he's right if your job is on the line! Unless you want to live in a box, then be my guest.
2006-07-18 16:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by FIONEX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and move in a positive direction...try not to be mean if you can help it but don't let someone else define what mean is either. Our kind tends to find it's own after time...don't settle either..the others will frustrate you and test your patience.
Good luck and use your power for good not evil!!
2006-07-18 16:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cadman1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can I say?
I think I agree with previous posters who say you sound like a troublemaker.
If you can only wet it up for a tough guy, go hang out at the UFC
2006-07-18 16:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by nowyermessingwithasonofabitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new friends, honey. There's no sense in you being the only ballsy one of the bunch.
2006-07-18 16:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between someone with a spine and a troublemaker...which are you?
2006-07-18 16:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and always stick up for what you believe in. Don't let yourself be bullied or someone else change your thoughts.
2006-07-18 16:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by harrgiss2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you see in others what you see in yourself..... be happy w/ yourself first..and let others worry about themselves. Looks lie you are making people wrong for their choices... everyone is perfect...its our judgements that make them wrong.. be accepting
2006-07-18 16:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by jh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're near Minneapolis, call me.
2006-07-18 16:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋