there is a fmaily in my church that has an 18 y/o daughter who has been nothing but trouble ever since she became a teenager - such as running away from home, cursing her parents and telling them she hates them, stealing, doing drugs, prostituting , etc... Well today a friend of mine wanted me to look at her profile on my space. while I was on there I started looking at profiles of people I went to High School with! While on there I ran across the 18y/o profile! It has so much on it that her parents do not know! She is sleepimg with other females, doing more drugs, etc.... Let me add this part: she is not a typical 18 y/o. She is mentally delayed and instead of being on an 18y/o level she is running on a 13y/o level. Should I make her parents aware of this vulgar site, or just mind my business! I dont want to seem like a tattle tail , but I dont want her to get hurt! Please help! She has the nicest parents and she is so mean to them!
2006-07-18 09:20:54 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Absolutely let her parents know about it.
Chances are, she is not mentally stable and needs professional help. The parents will thank you later for informing them, because it will help them get her help sooner than later.
2006-07-18 09:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your friend wanted to look at her profile, you knew it was there before you ran across it looking for your high school friends... be honest, you were just checking out her profile. If you are genuinely a nice person and really do care about her well being you can do one of many things. Meet with her parents privately and let them know of your finds, write them an anonymous letter... but keep it private, because you do go to church with them and they are going through a difficult time with her. Honestly though, you sound more like someone who want to get her in trouble rather than help her. Reread what you wrote and see where your story contradicts itself.
2006-07-18 09:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you tell your parents and let THEM tell her parents? Is that possible? I wouldn't want you to get in the middle of something else. If she's prostituting, drugs, etc. she is probably hanging with some rough people. My son is a drug addict (not living here anymore) but I knew who his dealers were (not like personally or anything). I would NOT want to be messing with people like that. She may not be able to hurt you but others can. Just be careful. If you go to church, what about the minister/priest (whatever church you go to). He could say he was looking people up on Myspace as he has heard a lot of bad stuff about it (personally, I think it has it's good points - they just stopped a possible Columbine situation not too long ago BECAUSE of Myspace). But anyway, maybe he would be willing to say something. ???
2006-07-18 09:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As nice as her parents are..... they had a lot to do with how their daughter is..... so they aren't 100% innocent. I would let them know if you think that they will actually help her. But remember, she is 18, so they can't do much other than kick her out of the house.
2006-07-18 09:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by BrownTown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have stated that she is not fully functioning as18 yrs old, therefore she is not capable of knowing what she is doing wrong and someone beside herself has to know,to help her to stop doing such things, and I dont know anyone more qualify do that then the parents.Parents must know whats going on with their daughter I think.
2006-07-18 09:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by songtanmale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she is mentally disabled I think it would be a good idea to let her parents know what is going on with her. Just make sure that you show them where you got your info from
2006-07-18 09:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should know definately, but it makes you wonder how you can fix it by telling them. With her being 18, she will do all those things regardless. But I do think that it would be a good idea to let them know. Maybe they can get her some help.
2006-07-18 09:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by electric_kisses_hugs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you send the myspace link by email to the parents? Maybe use a library computer to send it that way it will be anonymous. Just write a little note saying
"just thought you might want to know" .
2006-07-18 09:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get in another family's business. It may embarass them and make you look like an ars. It could also push this girl into further rebellion. Let her parents find out themselves.
2006-07-18 09:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, u are very nice person to even care about it. you should invite her parents over and tell her she have a website about a horrible thing.
you are not being a tatle tale, there are kids that who hates their parents like that..will murder their parents.
she is 18 right? she can move out of their house, send her to the rehab center, send her to the psycho hospital.....
good luck.........glad that someone cares about other people
2006-07-18 09:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by DivaStar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋