Whether gay, lesbian, transgendered, transsexual, how did those close to you react?
2006-07-18 09:10:45 · 17 answers · asked by Catherine 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
A family friend got on a bus that I was on and asked how my mom had taken the news, I didn't have clue what she was on about so she told me that another (gay man) family friend had 'outed' me. I went home and luckily my mom's best friend who was sort of a father figure to me was there (also gay, my mom had a big circle of gay friends!), my mom asked me and I told her that I was. She told me that she didn't mind too much as long as I didn't shave my hair off and start wearing Dr martins boots! Her friend told her to tell me her secret and she then told me that she was 5 mths pregnant from this bisexual guy! (she was 35 at the time, I was 16). My mom couldn't really react badly at the time but later she became a bit nasty about the whole thing and ended up losing a lot of her friends by being such a hypocrite. That was 7 yrs ago and now even though I don't have a good relationship with my mom she's OK with it, to be honest she has a better relationship with my GF of 6 yrs then she does with me! ( My nan found out by walking in on me and my gf in bed together!)
2006-07-21 01:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Chez 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother actually confronted me when I was 18 years old! Initially my mother reacted in a violent way as she could not cope with me telling her that yes I was.
There were many mixed emotions that day! I always tell my mother the truth and on a day where I decided it was time to come clean I got the worst reaction possible and landed up black and blue from head to toe! Which please believe me mother regrets very much until this day!
My mother is Roman Catholic and the news I gave her not only disappointed her with religion, it completely changed how she saw my life progress from that moment on!
My mum came round years later after I had done the whole girlfriend thing and even got down on one knee and proposed. Thankfully I decided that was not to go ahead and prevented hurting myself by getting married.
I was very sad at the time though as I did hurt people in the process of me and my fiance breaking up!
My mum is now very good with me being gay it took her almost 7 years but she managed in the end!
2006-07-20 09:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jamesey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum found out by looking for and reading my diary-type-thing, so not a voluntary coming out exactly. She says she's OK with it, but really isn't - lots of little comments and put downs about overly butch lesbians, etc. I haven't told my dad yet - he's less present in my life, so I'm not sure how to bring it up.
The reaction from friends has been more mixed. I came out to a few friends at my all-girls school and it spread pretty quickly - some people were really supportive, others really weren't, as if they thought I was going to jump on them at any moment; at my mixed school only some people knew, but they were perfectly cool about it. A gay friend of mine was really pleased when I told him - it was a relief for both of us to have someone to talk to.
2006-07-18 10:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 20:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by vikas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sub and bi.
My coming-out was not one great occasion.
Only very few people know that I'm sub, but I've never made a secret out of me being interested in men *and* women.
It's not such a big deal that I would consider it very important to tell it everyone. I'm not quiet about it - if I've got a girl-friend I would take her to meet my mother, family and friends, like I do that with a boy-friend.
Luckily, being bisexual isn't considered "unnormal" by my family and friends.
I'm a bit more cautious about telling someone that I'm submissive - but my best friend knows and as long as I do not use the wrong words I can be very open even with my 70-years-old mother.
And - I'm lucky to live in a very open-minded city (Berlin) - even our mayor is a homosexual and brings his boy-friend to formal dinners etc ;-)
2006-07-18 09:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very emotional and hormonal! I was at Secondry School and at 16 realised I was falling for one of my class mates (who I am now very good friends with... and in hignsight it would not of worked! ha ha) one day she asked me over for a DVD evening on our own and I felt nervous because I had decided to tell her how I felt. It was all very new to me! We watched the films my stomach started hurting I was so nervous and 12 o clock came. We went into the Kitchen and I sat down at the Kitchen table and she seemed like there was something she wanted to say but didnt. She ended up going to the loo and I just stayed in the kitchen running over in my head what i should say. She came back and went over to the sink faffing around! Then she turned round and said 'I need to tell you something ... I ve been seeing (for confidentiality sake A) A (our friend -all girls school!) for a year! I felt very sick and just sat there stunned while she went through the story telling me everything. As far as I was concerned and everyone else she was straight and so was the other person she was seeing). Ouch thats got to hurt my reply was ' Ah! Ok! well ive got something to tell you... I loved you for a good six months!' We have gone through ups and downs since then but I eventually got over it. I came out to my parents the very next day and they were fine.
2006-07-20 04:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if this counts but.... i told my family my husband is an arab. in todays society here in america u are looked upon as a terrorist if u are with an arab. lol it is more exceptable to be gay then with an arab in most american people's eyes. so there for i do not have n e family. it is fine by me because i am not going to live my life according to what other people think. if being what ever u are is what makes you comfortable go for it.
2006-07-18 09:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a friend told me she was a gay i was like 'I'm okay with that, coz your still my friend'. she was relieved she didn't tell anyone else for a long time, but she later came out with it and many people have accepted it. sadly i haven't seen her for like a year because we both went to different college's and made alot more new friends, tho i heard that she's got a girlfriend so life for her is going well
2006-07-20 23:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by bluestar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never had the oppertunity to come out to family my ex partners ex girlfriend ( he was str8 at one point) shouted at my mum in supermarket I had stole her man. My mum turned round and said at least he can keep a man and carried on shopping .... think my my is bitchyer then me lol
2006-07-19 00:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by GARETH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I came out as bi, my parents really didn't think anything of it and a few months later they just brushed it off as me going through a phase. As of now I'm comfortable being bi and I feel as long as I'm happy with myself that's all that matters.
2006-07-18 12:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋