HELP i found out a guy was cheating on his wife, there in there 60's do i tell her???

Question

Hi well I found out a guy that i dont really know all that well has been buying prostitutes for a while now, he is 60 and his wife i believe is 59-60 also, i called last night to tell her but hang up because she sounded so sweet on the phone.

i dont know what to do, id hate to tell her and ruin ther emarriage because ther eold, but then again i think i should tell her because maybe this is a sign to tell her because he isnt the onf or her and she may have someone else waiting to be with her

anyways, i know for a fact the guy has been doing this for a while now.
what would you do? i duno if i was the old lady i wouldnt wanna know but then again i would , what about you??
i dont even know this women should i tell her?
should i ruin there marriage?

Answer 1

h*ll yeah i would tell her because she has every right in the world to know. i mean what if this guy brought back some kind of deadly disease and transmitted it to his wife that wouldn't be good at all so i would defiantly tell her and don't be scared be brave and just come on out with it i mean put your self in her situation would u want to know that your man was doing the same thing i know i would that a way when he got his a** home his sh** would be sitting on the front lawn, h*ll i would even go as far as calling him a cab just to get that a**hole out of my house so yes defiantly tell her. good luck.

Answer 2

I commend you for being person-pleasant. in case you've been fascinated in 220 you may have marred a 220 lb female no longer a one hundred thirty 5 lb female. Gaining some pounds in the time of marriage is widespread yet starting to be overweight is somewhat a lot. Having toddlers will placed weight on each and every female and some are fortunate to lose each and every pound. some ought to workout habitual and workout habitual better sturdy to lose one pound. the undeniable reality that you've been letting her understand how you felt discourage her and made her devour and devour. She likely became attempting and he or she may have lost an entire pound and instead of you noticing it you be conscious some thing else and that led to her to attain better weight. Now that she is a lot out of your detrimental suggestion she is dropping weight and he or she is only going to get smaller and he or she will be in a position to likely finally end up with the guy that favored her at 220. be careful what you ask for and how you ask for it.

Answer 3

First you would not be ruining their marriage - it's already ruined and you haven't done a thing....
Second, how do you "know for a fact" he is cheating? Do you have proof?
Third, in case none of you have been reading the news and/or watching courttv recently - people are MURDERED over things like this out of fear of exposure. DO NOT confront this man. Writing an anonymous letter and providing as much proof as possible sounds like a good plan. Allow her to contact you by email for her own sanity or in case you leave something out. Her health is at stake here....don't wait too long.

Answer 4

If you tell her, you are caught in the middle, is that where you want to be? Write her an anonymous letter. Give her times and places. If you can get pictures, take them and send to her as further proof. They may have some sort of "arrangement" between the two of them, you never know what goes on in any ones house. Don't say who you are when you do write. Good luck.

Answer 5

From my experienced my X husband cheated 2 times I knew he was cheating both times so my guess is she probably suspects it but don't really want to know if its been going on for a longtime I am sure she has to have some idea. I don't think you should tell her but what concerned me is maybe hes got a addiction even though he may love his wife. Maybe you need to confront him first and see what he replies. Anyways its hard to know what to do when your dealing in other peoples lives good luck.

Answer 6

It sounds as though you feel you have an obligation to tell this woman about her husband. I agree with you, that what he is doing is very wrong, but on the other hand I don't believe that just because you are aware of what he's doing that it suddenly places some responsiblity on your shoulders to tell his wife. You should not have to deal with the guilt of telling her and ruining a marriage, or not telling her and feeling as though you are allowing him to get away with something. It sounds as though you do not know this woman personally, so I don't believe this is your burden to carry.

Answer 7

As hard as it may be you should probably tell her. I don't know if you should just call her and tell her. Perhaps you could call her and invite her to your place for coffee or tea and tell her that there is something she should know. I don't even know if that is a good suggestion, but she may not believe it if some stranger calls her and tells her something like that over the phone.

Answer 8

TELL Her. But remember breaking the news gently. Tell her what you saw and know in details. The way you approach is very important as she might have a heart problem or something, but I think it is important for her to know

Answer 9

I wouldn't want to know. I would want to go to my grave believing he was the man for me. If you think she's in any danger of contracting an STD, you should definitely tell her. I think you should keep quiet and remember it's none of your business. God bless and good luck!!

Answer 10

I say it is none of your business unless you know then better. Besides, who to say she does not allow it. She may no longer want anything to do with sex and given him permission to seek non-emotional sex from prostitutes. You might tell her and she'd laugh at you and tell you keep your nose in your own trough.