I have been in a relationship for six year and haven't got a marriage proposal. We have a 4 year old child and seem to have a good relationship. I just told him to stop calling me his fiancee since he hasn't proposed to me. Is six years to long? Should I be more patient?
2006-07-18 09:08:33 · 14 answers · asked by jellybean7980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him: i want to get married. to YOU. i'm not waiting anymore. i'm not happy without a wedding and a ceremony to celebrate your commitment.
why do women always think that means they have to wait for a proposal? let him know that is what you are working towards in the relationship. if he didn't want it, he should've gotten out long time ago. the only reason a woman should dump him after that long is if the answer is HE doesn't want to get married...and why would u want to keep waiting around for someone who doesn't want to marry you?
if he says "no, what's wrong w/ our relationship?": kick him to the curb, cuz he's not willing to give u the commitment and stability that you want.
if he says "yes, but let's wait": well, listen to his reasons. if they make sense, i guess give him some time (like 2 months.. 4 years is time enough!). but if he doesn't make sense, kick him to the curb. i know ur thinking about your child, but if he is lacking in his ability to satisfy you, you need to find someone who WILL.
2006-07-18 09:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he has all that comes with marriage but doesn't want to make it official.
Yes six years is way to long. It sounds like he thinks of you as a fiancee but just doesn't want to commit to it. Once he does he knows he will be married before he knows it.
Sit him down, stand him up, or roll him over and ask him, are we going to get married and when? There is no predicting what he will say. But if he puts you off somehow you have your answer.
There is a saying that may fit this situation, even though I hate it, "If you can have the milk for free why buy the cow".
Yea! Not nice but I have heard men say that allot.
Don't let him get away with this any longer. You will find one day that one of two things will happen. He will be gone, or you will be old and still not married.
Don't let that happen. Not an easy situation for you I know. There is no question you love him to put up with this for this long.
2006-07-18 09:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes marriage makes all the difference in two people. He should, however, stop calling you his fiance since he doesn't have the balls to propose to you. Six years is a long time, girl. I wouldn't dump him or anything. Just try your best to understand why he doesn't want to do it right now. Flat out, ask him if he ever plans on getting married to ya.
2006-07-18 09:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to face the facts. Why should he get married if he has all the benefits without the legal paperwork. You've made it too easy, though in another year, if you live together, you have almost the same legal rights anyways.
As far as being patient, your amazing to have lasted that long, but don't expect it soon unless you stop being so convenient and the ring is on your finger.
2006-07-18 09:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by fortuitousoppty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you women sit around and wait and wait. Of course he's never going to ask you, why should he, he gains nothing, he's already got a devoted woman who will apparently wait forever for him, he's got the family, and he has the ability to drop it all without penalty if something better comes along. To him, it is the perfect setup. Tell him you are planning a wedding 1 year from now, he can either be part of it or not, his decision.
2006-07-18 09:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always try the untraditional way, and just ask him yourself. If he is referring to you as his fiance, then he obviously sees you two eventually getting married.
While some people are together much longer before they get married, if you and he are both ready, I think you should pop the question!
2006-07-18 09:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by sara_busa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god i have a 1 y/o and ive been waiting 3 years, weve been together 3 years and no propasal.
i am gettin angry wow 6 years...
have you talked about it? talk about it, he doesnt have to propose ya know, if he wants to get married then you can.
-Maria
2006-07-18 09:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 6 years is too long. No, you shouldn't be patient.
2006-07-18 09:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by mye77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has there been any trust issues? I think the other girls are right, just ask him about it, or propose.
2006-07-18 09:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too dam long not to been proposed to. If he refers to you as his finacee then he needs to put a ring on your hand!
2006-07-18 09:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by SAMMIE K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋