I was married 15 yrs and have been divorced 2 yrs.Is it wrong to have sex once in a while with him
2006-07-18 08:39:19 · 14 answers · asked by runoffpitbulls 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If having sex with him is all that is involved and both of you are currently unattached, then I would say, "Why not?" However, there is one little word that is giving me the alarm, and that's "love." If you still believe that you are in love with your ex, then you are only prolonging the pain of being separated from him. You two couldn't work it out the first time, the chance of you getting back together and making it work a second time is splinter-thin. Having sex with him occasionally is not going to make him suddenly fall back in love with him, it is merely going to make him happy that he's getting some tail.
The other worry is if he is currently in another relationship. Are you willing to be the "other woman"? Can you take the responsibility that you may be breaking up a relationship? I'm not trying to sound harsh here, I don't have enough information or back story to comment about that any further. Not to mention that if he is in another relationship and you both aren't being safe when you have sex, you could be passing all kinds of diseases to each other.
Ultimately, my best advice to you is find someone else to feed your desires in bed. He's a comfortable choice, but probably not the best one. You may find someone else out there that can blow your mind!
2006-07-18 08:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by bibliophile_1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong because how do you ever expect to move on when you are still stuck in the past.You can love him for life inside because there is a history, but you can't keep going back into the sex--you will never get over him at the rate your going.
2006-07-18 08:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by SAMMIE K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with him is making it harder for you to stop loving him in the way you loved him as being married. You really do need to stop having sex with him and move on, finding somebody that will be with you for you and not just for sex. Right now he knows when he needs it, you will give it up. He is using you. He is your EX for a reason. Please stop..tell him you can't be intimate with him any more! Its okay for you to love him but don't let him know that, he can and will use it against you. Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-18 08:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you? He's using you for the sex! Are you comfortable with that? It's a little thread to him that you need to cut free. Good luck.
2006-07-18 09:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it wrong!!! why did you divorce him in the first place.......do you guys love each other, im sure there are feelings involved now is it mutual or one sided ........yes it's wrong,you both have to make up your mind you are only hurting eachother more.....
2006-07-18 08:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. You are married and you made vows. Even though you may not be "hot' for you husband anymore he should be your first consideration ALWAYS. You promised.
2006-07-18 08:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by heidinichole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to love your ex, but it IS wrong to sleep with him occasionally. Don't do it.
2006-07-18 08:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah,Dah!! Why did you get divorced in the first place!!!
2006-07-18 08:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not dating anyone i don't see what the big deal is you know everything about him that's for sure maybe the two you can reunite
2006-07-18 08:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kay D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever works for you.. but it sounds like a bad idea because you are still emotionally attached...
2006-07-18 08:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋