I did know that i was pregnant and i just found out like three weeks and i got abortion my boyfriend mad at me and i'm just a teenager my mom told me to have abortion he have not call me in along time but i told him that i was going to get the abortion!
Help Me!!!!!
2006-07-18 08:35:27 · 18 answers · asked by ~BabyGirl~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I personally had an abortion a few days before I turned 18. I talked it through with my boyfriend beforehand and we both agreed that it was the best option to take as we were both young and had lots of ambition. It sounds to me like you guys didn't really talk things through very well and perhaps he feels like you've gone against what he wants. It takes 2 to make a baby...he should have a say in what happens when it comes to his child. Your mother shouldn't have the right to tell you what to do, it's not her child it's yours. I appreciate that your mother was probably just trying to look out for you, but sometimes it just makes things worse for yourself. Abortion is harder than people think...I know that I thought that I'd be fine...but you later realise what you've done and the guilt follows...hard! I think that you should talk to your boyfriend, explain why you had the abortion to him and then maybe he will understand...if not then I don't think your relationship with him is going anyway...as harsh as that sounds. I wish you luck for the future anyway. All the best, Laura.
2006-07-18 09:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Gurl what you did does not make you a bad person or nothing, i guess the reason your mom made you do the abortion is just to make you have a better future b/c you werent ready for a baby, and your b/f needs to understand that, b/c you would have had to drop out of school to have your baby, while your b/f, he can still go to school and finish getting his education, so he would not have anything to worry about except supporting the baby, if he would have even done that, he would not have to get up at night the feed the baby and all, so screw him, he have been fine, but you would have had the baby to worry about 24/7.
Now that you are no longer pregnant you need to stick to your books, you got another chance dont blow it this time.
2006-07-18 08:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you have to make that decision, that you are the one who lives with the consequesnces, explain that you didn't know what to do, that you would like to have talked to him but you were scared.
This is what I just emailed to another answerer who talked about murder and killing when a vunerable and confused child asked about abortions, I am writing it to anyone who does the same.
Do you know anything about foetal devlopment? Have you any understanding of how the brain recieves and interprets pain? Read a book or two and then base your answers accordingly when talking to scared and vunerable children in difficult situations please.
I have no problem with you being anti abortion, just a problem with the way you deliver your message.
You could have listed the plus points of adoption such as making a childess family happy etc, or said that in your opinion you didn't think that abortion was the right choice. Instead you went down the hate and anger route, upsetting me and probably a lot of others, why?
2006-07-18 08:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was upset because this was HIS baby too! You didnt even give him the chance to go thru it WITH you! You simply took care of it without asking him or telling him how u felt! Or finding out how he felt! I have a 15 year old son and I can honestly tell u if his girlfriend got pregnant I would take care of that baby forever before I would want to get rid of it! You really should have made him a part of the decsision. Talk to him. Beg for his understanding. Let him know how scared and alone u felt- and your mom made you do it! He may be hurting for awhile- so he may need space to heal- but keep trying and let him know u love him and your sorry you didnt make him a part of the decision
2006-07-18 08:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me abortion is NOT the option at all. It does seem like you did get it because your mom told you to. He does have a reason to be mad at you, it was his baby also.
2006-07-18 09:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him. he did not call you when you were going through this ordeal. your mom was the only one beside you. your boyfriend should have called you no matter where he was. just ignore him and move on. dont feel sad about the abortion. you are too young to have a baby and what you did was very brave. you will have many chances to have your own baby one day. pray to god and study well. by the grace of god you will shine in life.
2006-07-18 08:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound mean but he was the other parent of that baby. And believe that he had 50% say so in that abortion. I believe that you mothers was out of line for denying your boyfriend a chance to love and be a father to that child. Also for denying that child a chance to live a life. She encouraged you to stop one of God's creations. I believe the best thing for you to do is let him cool off because maybe time away from may give him a chance to forgive but certainly don't expect him to forget.
2006-07-18 08:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Frankie D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You may want to try to be more understanding. Even though you told him, it doesn't sound like you discussed it with him. It sounds to me like you two weren't ready to be having sex in the first place. He probably needs some time and space to deal with this situation. If/when he is ever ready to talk to you, try to see things from his point of view - it was his child too. Most importantly - STOP HAVING SEX!!!!!! You are clearly NOT ready for the consequenses!
2006-07-18 08:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE CAN TELL YOU ALL DAY WHAT TO DO BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU NEED TO DO YOU!AND WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND WHATS BEST FOR YOU IN THE END JUST A FACT MOST TEENAGE MOTHERS ARE NOT WITH THEIR BABY DADDYS AND OVER HALF OF TEENAGE DADS TURN OUT NOT INVOLVED AT ALL SO YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT THAT AND IF THAT WAS SOMETHING YOU WOULDVE WANTED TO DO TO YOURSELF AND UNBORN BABY SOMETIMES WHAT SEEMS WRONG IS WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU
2006-07-18 08:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by DAT CHIC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't worth your time. Tell him that his behavior is proof that if he can't support your decision to abort your pregnancy (which I applaud), he wouldn't have supported your child either.
I know it sounds harsh, but you need to find a man that will be behind you 100%... even when times get rough.
2006-07-18 08:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by bettalover 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋