My soon to be ex husband had an affair for 2 years years with a woman, hes 42 shes 27 He says he loves me yet he's living with this woman with their baby. He left her and we tried again but it didnt work so he went back to her she accused him of sexual assult when he left her and even got him arrested and yet he went back to her, I am divorcing him and he accepts this and agrees so why is he doing this to me. I have told him that Im moving on and he should to but he won't give up. Is he just staying with her for the sake of the baby and cos he cant have me back or what.
he just won't stop texting me and he keeps asking me to meet him which I don't but its doing my head in, I want to move on without him but he's always in the background it's like he can do what he wants but its a different matter for me, I dread to think what would happen if I found sum1 else I think he would text me even more. Should I tell my solicitor about it or just not bother and hope he gets bored with texting
2006-07-18 08:30:19 · 26 answers · asked by moby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you've already given this a second try and it didn't work out, forget it! It seems that he is just keeping you hanging on just in case things don't work out with this other woman. Tell him you are DONE....you are moving on....and you no longer want to hear from him. If he keeps it up, change your phone number and have it unlisted. If he shows up at your house, threaten to call his new woman! That should show him you mean business. Please....don't let any man make a fool of you!
2006-07-18 08:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your husband made a big mistake. He knows it and so do you.
He is still with her either
Because he can't have you and she is better than no-one
or
Because he feels obligated to her and the child
What's curious is that you are asking about him. Why do you care why he is still with her? I don't buy your concern about what will happen if you meet someone else.
Maybe it's about your pride (you don't believe he deserves to have someone after what he did to you) or maybe you are more interested in rekindling than you'd admit to. He must feel like he's got a chance to be so persistant.
Perhaps all those texts are putting a chink in your armour against him. Or maybe you're just getting the divorce equivalent of pre-marriage cold feet
Nothing is set in stone - not marriage so not divorce. If in two weeks, months, years time you suddenly realise you've made a mistake there's nothing to stop you trying again
The only person that matters in all this is you. Forget everyone else's opinion. You have to do what you believe will make you happiest.
The only thing you don't have the right to do, is to deliberately sabotage his new relationship out of bitterness / ego. For no other reason than there's an innocent child at stake.
2006-07-19 00:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by del-d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 14:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a total a**hole! tell him that u don't want to have anything else to do with him because if he really loved u as much as he saids he does then he wouldn't have left u for another woman. go ahead with your divorce because once a cheater always a cheater. contact your lawyer and let him know what's going on before things get worse. i think that he doesn't want to leave his girlfriend because he doesn't want to pay childsupport and he just want's u on the side, it's like he wants his cake and eat it too. i wouldn't give him the time of day he's just not worth it and if u have any kids by this man please make sure that u get everything u can get from him because he needs to be punished for what he's put u through, u deserve so much better so girl get out there and start looking for a new man that will treat u better and leave the a**hole in the past where he belongs! good luck and i wish u the best of luck.
2006-07-18 09:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by christina j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be very possesive toward you since he wants to have you as well as the other woman. But you also seem to care very much about him and that's the reason why you're asking this question. If you make up your mind, whether to stay in the love triangle or to move on, you would stop caring if he texts you or not.. I suppose that he's connected to you and probably feels guilty because he left you because of another woman. On the other hand, he got seriously commited to the other woman, since he has the child with her. It's a tough situation, but it's important that you make up your mind..
2006-07-18 09:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy does not want to let go, some people are like that ..they don't want you anymore but they can't accept that you may be getting along fine without them. I have a friend who had the same happen to her.
She ignored the messages but they kept coming so she sent one back saying she would forward the messages onto the new girlfriend if he did'nt stop. Guess what..no more messages!
2006-07-18 13:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by been there 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He found out the grass is NOT greener on the other side, so he wants to be back in your life. If you don't want to get back together with him, I would block his number from you cell phone. That way you won't receive any calls or text. He will get the hint soon enough. He has made his bed, now he has to lie in it and he doesn't like it.
2006-07-18 09:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this guy is playing you!! he is doing this to you and going on about how much he loves you but remember there IS a reason why he is about to be your EX husband!! This wasn't your fault therefore why should you put your love life on hold for someone who didn't keep his even when he was with you!! @ the end of da day u deserve better now go out there and find a man that will treat you right and how you deserve to be treated!!
God Luck!!
2006-07-18 09:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lipzyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should contact your lawyer about this. If you can think up of a good reason, your lawyer can enforce a law to have your ex-husband stay away from you for a certain distance. You should also change your phone number.
2006-07-18 08:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, good for you for moving on. Second, I dont think he will get Bord of texting you. Tell him to stop. As a matter of fact, text him and tell him to stop. Dont erase the text and when he does it again turn him in for sexual harassment. And then you would have proof.
2006-07-18 08:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by biscuit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋