i love my mom but it looks that she dosen't like me i love my mom but i always try to get along with her and she gets mad for everything and starts to curse at me but sometimes she's really nice or sometimes really mean i don't know it's like she's 2 totally different persons please help me
2006-07-18 08:25:30 · 8 answers · asked by lupita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I too never got along with my mom. She didnt see things the way I did. Especially when I was a teen. I knew it all. Not realizing that she was looking out for me. As I got older sheseemed to be worse. When I stop and think about it she didnt want me to make the same mistakes as her..bad marriage...abuse etc. Yes life is a learning experience..Mom was the same way as yours, I wish now that I could of been closer to my mom but now is too late. My mom passed away at 64 years old in March of this year. I never had the chance to tell her that I really do love her. And that I am sorry for the pain that I caused her.
2006-07-18 08:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by landkm 4 · 19⤊ 6⤋
Oh boy. Let me just start by saying I'm sorry, I have grown up with this & know first hand it's abusive. First thing to say is don't take ANY of it personally! It really has NOTHING to do with you. She may have her own problems and end up taking them out on the one she loves (that would be u). My advice is never be alone with her without an escape route out. She could blow at any time & you need to set boundaries & always have a place where she can't get in to hurt you. Get some good people around you who make you feel good..and if she ever puts her hands on you ~ don't wait. Get out THAT DAY. It's a nightmare, but much less upsetting than ultimately being abused physically. I can tell you from experience you NEVER get over this..it hurts even as an adult until she gets over what she's dealing with..just remember not to take it personally..there's nothing wrong with you..remember just because she's your mom doesn't mean she's perfect & over her own issues yet. Hope this helps :)
2006-07-18 15:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by irolag100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom is bi-polar and has never been diagnosed. Have you ever thought that she could be on drugs. Some clues are - being like two different people, not eating right, up for three or more days then sleeping for a couple, spends a lot of time in the bathroom or garage, thinks that someone is always watching or following her, secretive, picks at herself a lot, starting something, not finishing it and starts doing something else, chewing on lips or constantly licking them, and becomes a cleaning maniac. I don't know if she's always been this way or not but maybe you should just sit down and write het a letter telling her of your feelings. It's easier than trying to talk to someone and more things come out. Be brutally honest in your letter. G-Luck.
2006-07-18 15:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is also the same way and i also call it bi-polar disorder she has her good days and she has her bad ones. What it is, is that they can't handle the fact that you are getting older and your spreading your own wings, and also my mom has a problem with being lonely i don't know about yours but if she is that is part of the reason also.I try not to yell back ,But sometimes that doesn't work so what has been working for me is i try to stay out of her way.That way it's less conflict i love my mother, and i know she loves me and it's the same case with you snd your mother it just sometimes you might need to talk things out also.Me and my mom have talked and it resolved things for a little while,But just be patient and try your best to stay out of her way.And your mom does love u never think that she doesn't, she might just have a different way of showing it.
2006-07-18 15:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you ask this. usually it is the other way around, moms asking how to handle daughters.
but i am sure for one thing. Your mom loves you - all the moms of this world love their children, even animals do ;)
In your case, I would say do what your mom suggests and try not to contradict her much, she might be in a difficult personal situation now that has nothing to do with you. But keep in mind that she loves you!
2006-07-18 15:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Amantia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes mothers have problems and issues too. So just be respectful and stay out of her way when shes upset so you won't become the target. When she is in a good mood that is a good time to try to get closer to her. But when she's upset....stay out of her way. I don't know how old you are...but if you're old enough try to find a job...or get involved in something positive that will get you out of the house. Volunteering can sometimes lead to a future job.
2006-07-18 15:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your best to not let it bother you. She might not be responsible for the rudeness, it could be a biological condition. Some people are just that way, they can't help it. Try not to react to it, don't let it get to you.
2006-07-18 15:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is the same way.... i call it bi-polar...
the only thing you can do is try to talk to her and if that doesnt work, just try not to yell back as much, and just wait it out.... you'll be out of that house sooner or later.....
it gets so much better when you dont live with them...... they chill out more, she loves you, its just a weird time for yall - it happens to all of us
2006-07-18 15:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋