he is just now becoming distant and having health and sleep problems. I have tried about 15 different websites for spouses of vets, many were down or were personal stories. I don't want to contact his counselor because he ( my husband) doesn't like to discuss it with me. CAn anyone help me help him?
2006-07-18 08:16:32 · 5 answers · asked by LukesBB25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is also a vet with PTSD. The best thing that you can do is let him wokr throught things on his own, but don't help him become distant. Tell him that you are there for him if he ever needs or wants to talk about anything. And let him know that you love him no matter what, and that you will not judge him for the things that he has done. And the sleeping problem shouldn't really be a bg deal, just don't laugh about it. I know my husband sometimes wakes me up because he thinks that there is someone in the room. You jsut have to calm him down with out being ocndescending. I really hope that you work things out, and if worst comes to worst talk to his counselor anonymously. I would also recommend going to couples counseling. It really helps. The army has people who are trained to deal iwth problems like this that can help you both cope. Good luck!
2006-07-18 08:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PTSD is not specific to vets. You can do a general search on the subject or go to a bookstore to read up on it. Stay out of his counseling unless the counselor brings you in to talk. All you need to do is be there for him and be supportive. It's a tough one to treat and often comes back later in life.
2006-07-18 08:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still active duty you can contact mental health and make an appointment to talk to a counselor and get information or referr you to a local support group. If he is no longer active duty contact the VA they might be able to help you find a local support group in your area. Even if he is still active duty you might contact the VA also.
2006-07-18 09:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure but did you try goggle? Anyway, sorry I could not help but give him a hug for me "I am not gay" He is a hero in my eyes and I thank him for what he has done and I thank you for the sacrifices you and he have made to keep myself and my family safe.
God bless you and your family. If I come across something I will definitely let you know.
2006-07-18 08:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know of any web sites but i have learnt from my brother being in bosina years ago that he has to help him self. what ever he has seen or did over there, he's gotta let it out. i know me and my family dont know everything about what he saw or went through and after all these years he still has night mares and flash backs.
2006-07-18 08:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋