In a past relationship, i have been verbally, mentally and physically abused. Now, everytime a relationship with a guy gets anywhere being more serious than a strong freiendship, i find myself pushing them away. How can i learn to trust when I've been hurt so bad?
2006-07-18 08:01:46 · 17 answers · asked by reicharua 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We all have a past where in one point of our lives we have been hurt but not every man is the same so you shouldn't take that pain out on the next man who might treat you like gold don't rush it take it one day at a time if you still feel the same way maybe you should seek counseling to help you deal with your insecurities from being abused never give up on a good man who could be out there waiting for you stay strong
2006-07-18 08:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by kizzme1017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a precious thing and is not to be offered lightly. To learn to give it again - after being hurt - may take some time, but it can really be worth the effort. Please do not miss out on life's joys and wonders, because of not being able to extend your trust.
But you can regain peoples' trust in small increments (not that there may still be those out there who will abuse it). You must learn to identify the negative signals, before you open your heart and soul. You must first show respect for yourself. If a person is a true friend (or has the potential to be one), it is all right to discuss your concerns and apprehensions, for that is one characteristic of a true friendship. And a deeper friendship can eventually lead to love and partnership. For it is love, honesty, and respect that will heal and nurture you for a lifetime.
Good luck . . . be happy . . . be well!
2006-07-18 15:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by alchemist0750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to express your concerns with your new partner. They will either tell you to get over it or they will help you get over it.
If they help you get over it then you know they are committed to you and since they don't want to see you hurting, chances are they would never dream of inflicting any kind of hurt upon you.
Until you are ready to be in a relationship I think you should take time for yourself and allow yourself to become mentally, physically and emotionally stronger so that you can once again become the person you once were. Keep your chin up and remember that not all men are the same.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-18 15:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the relationship slow and remember all men are not the same. I use to be in past relationships with guys who broke my heart and when my boyfriend came along i pushed him away because i was scared of being hurt, But he taught me to not to put him in the same category as the other dudes who broke my heart and as time went on i did see that he was different and i let my guard down and stopped pushing him away and now we have been 2gether for 3 years and he hasn't broke my heart once.
2006-07-18 15:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow and let the guy know about your situation and that you are afraid of being hurt again. Trust is going to take time to build with anyone since you were hurt so bad.Instead of pushing them away try taking some time for yourself first and think about the situation, because you might be hurting him when pushing him away
2006-07-18 15:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by rubettalace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times you need step out of the shell.Explan that you've been hurt and want to take it slow.Don't step back on every guy that comes your way if you do you might walk away from the love of your life and not evan know it.We all have instinks with other people if you get an uneasy feeling with some of the guys that come your way don't go for them.Always trust your instinks on how you feel with people.I say step out of your shell slowly cause
if you do it to fast you'll get hurt again.
2006-07-18 15:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by ilbillie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek a therapist and they will teach you tools and new ways of thinking to help you trust again. Your body has built natural defenses about getting hurt like that again. But you will, in the end, have to take that leap of faith and trust, a little at a time, and see again that you can trust somebody.
2006-07-18 15:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how easy you are to men ... Men will see worthiless of you if u are bing too easy .. so I SAY NO SEX for A LONG TIME to see if men loves you for real or not .. if u have sex in a week of a new relationship , men changes! So protect yourself from hurts in different abusive relationships
2006-07-18 15:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by sunnya4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the first step to recovery is forgiving the person who did you wrong because you don't want them to have a hold on you.
2006-07-18 15:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Legalia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to move on wipe the chalk board clean.Open your heart you never know what you will find.Not all men are the same there are some good ones out there
2006-07-18 15:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋