Unfortunately, women have a tendency to invest so much more of themselves into a romantic situation once sex is involved. Many magazines and books attribute this to the chemistry of a woman and the hormones that make us what we are. With all that being said, sometimes we can't help how we feel for someone, but what we can help is what we do with those feelings. No one has a right to use you and no one can do to you what you don't let them. Stand up for yourself and your self-worth. Ask him what he is expecting of the relationship. Evaluate within yourself if that is the same thing that you're looking for. If they don't match, then you don't need it. It will be hard at first, but the best thing to do is to withdraw completely. No friendship, no contact, no nothing. Make yourself busy with things that make you feel good (e.g. shopping, hanging with the girls, traveling, etc.). Soon you'll find that there are other guys and other things to be involved in and you'll remember the valuable lesson learned from this situation. "Look before you leap." Vow to yourself that next time you decided to give your physical to someone you'll know if they want any of the other things that may come along with it.
2006-07-18 08:13:49
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answered by Anonymous
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Let him go. If you're afraid or too nervous (because of the vibe) to ask him to take you out and do something besides having sex then you need to move on. If you can't tell him to his face or over the phone that this isn't working out for you then just stop contacting him. When and if he does call you just tell him this isn't working out. If he asks why let him know the truth. I would suggest telling him up front because if he is willing to step it up and do things right, you'd want to know before just walking out.
2006-07-18 15:13:35
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answered by Anonymous
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No, you're not nuts. Women are emotional. But actions speak louder than words. You already know the answer to this question. He's using you for sex. Stop confusing sex with love. And just remember that his feelings are NOT evolving to match yours. So....if you want to allow him to keep walking all over your heart then keep sleeping with him. And if you don't then you pull away little by little until you're strong enough to keep going.
2006-07-18 15:05:26
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answered by cami 3
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Honey i've been engaged for 5 yrs now, my fiance & i live together in our house & he still won't commit to marriage, you can read between the lines. in my case i'm looking to get out of this relationship, sell the house & split the proceeds. No woman should have to go through this, i'm sure i could find a man who appreciates me more and so could you.
2006-07-18 15:07:17
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answered by Anonymous
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If you don't have an engagement ring yet, he's not ready to commit to you. My husband insisted we go shopping for rings a month after we met and he proposed 3 months later. If you were the one, he would've already acted on it - men don't wait when they want something.
2006-07-18 15:20:12
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answered by Rachel 7
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I would ask him where do u stand in your relationship, ask are yall a couple or are you guys just sex partners ask him straight up and whatever he says go on that. If he says it's just about sex and you don't want to exept that leave him and move on to someone who would want to be in a relationship with you
2006-07-18 15:06:41
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answered by Anonymous
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As hard as it is, just stop any and all contact with him. Soon you will forget him and move on to someone that will reciprocate your feelings.
2006-07-18 15:03:25
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answered by nonohank 2
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