I asked her why she should be able to go and this is the response that I got..."Because I only get one of these in this grade" is that a good enough reason?? She is going into 8th grade and I don't know if I should let her go?? Her cousin is the exact same age as her and my sister lets her go to the dances so should I ?? I am just afraid that something is going to happen to her...Help!?!?
2006-07-18 07:52:11 · 37 answers · asked by Caitlyn B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Let her go to the school dance. If she doesn't go, she would not remember her time in 7th grade. If you care for her, just bring a cell just in case something bad will happen. I went to school dances before and nothing was wrong there. She needs this dance so that she could spend her last time with her friends (if one is going to move somewhere). It is so that she can spend her last "fun time" at her 7th grade school life. If she goes to 8th grade and had her dance, she probably would have relationships or talking about memories from her last years dance. She probably wants to express herself to the whole school. Nothing bad would ever happen to her. It only takes about 3 or 2 hours to finish the dance.
2006-07-18 08:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent it is only normal to worry about our kids but there comes a time when you have to have faith that the morals and values that we have given to our kids has to be put to the test. If we don't allow them to grow up then we would have to ask ourselves the Question "what kind of people will they be" because we never allowed them to try. Remember school dances are supervised and if you really don't trust that answer go and be a parent supervisor at the dance, that might help you both break into this adjustment together. If I were you I would allow her to go....you may not see it now but it will bring you closer together in the long run, allow her to gain your trust. You sound like a very good Mother and I have no doubt that you have done a great job teaching her what is right and wrong...she will be fine. And remember in the end what we really learn from is our mistakes and we cannot protect them from everything. Good Luck she will be fine.
2006-07-18 08:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her go , but make sure that you are the one that is taking her and picking her up . If you are too overprotective it will back fire. My parents were that way to and my brother ended up turning to drugs and running away. I have depression all of the time and because of not being able to go away that often I have problems socializing with people. I have panic attacks alot because of not knowing what to say or do. My other two brothers are allowed to go away more and they seem to be doing fine. Every once and a while my brother will go drinking at a friends house ......but this is tons better than having your daughter sneaking around , lying , and getting into drugs .
well...........you can tell that the girl above me is in fact a little girl . Why would she not need her moms permission ? she is only in 8th grade !
2006-07-18 08:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should, you have to remember they are kids for only a short time, let her have fun but also ask her what time it gets over, who is she going with and maybe even take her and pick her up that way u know she is where she is suppose to be. The teachers usually are the chaparones at the dance it is where i live anyways. We have to give them some space and the dance is harmless tell her about the pressures too. Like sex, drugs,smoking, plus tell her that if she can obey the rules for letting her go then maybe u can trust her to go to another dance when they have one or something else she might want to do that is harmless as a reward for following the rules. Just let her be a kid though, they need to find out if they can handle the pressures themselves also instead of coming to you for everything that comes there way they want to see if they can handle it on their own. when she is ready she will come too you but dont make her scared to come to you. But i would let her go. just make sure u give her guidelines or rules. or even make her give u a call while at the dance to make sure she is doing okay.You'll see she will be fine.
2006-07-18 08:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that much can happen at a school dance. If you know that you've raised your daughter well and taught her from right and wrong then you really don't have much to worry about. Be able to trust your daughter. She's growing up before your eyes and of course she wants to have fun. But if you keep her chain up then thats a problem all in itself. She'll go out looking for fun in other matters which you may not approve of. And if you're still worried about something happening to her at the dance, then get information about the dance through her school. Ex. what time it starts, whose going to be there, what time does it end and etc.
2006-07-18 08:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Faye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live in a small town or a large town. What kind of supervision will be at the dance and how will your daughter get to and from the dance. The only way I would let mine go at that age is if it is not a big town and if I dropped her off AND picked her up!!! I would not let her go with someone else! Good luck with that teenager!
2006-07-18 07:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 15 year old son so I know how u feel! We raise them to have opinions and feelings- we teach them right from wrong- now alls we can do is hope they practice everything we did teach them! I say let her go! If you dont she may resent you for it since all her friends are going. You take her and you pick her up. That way you know she has a safe way there and home!!! Talk with her before hand to make sure she knows about teen pressures and so on. Let her know u love her and are there for her! We do have to let them start making their own mistakes otherwise when they get out into the world they wikll really be in trouble! I know its hard- Ive been there but I have learned to trust my son- we r very close- talk about everything- so I trust him and I know he is responsible! Put just a little trust in your daughter and let her go! Good luck to u
2006-07-18 09:16:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her enjoy her youth. If its a school dance i'm sure its well supervised. I know children are doing more at younger ages now anyway, so let your daughter go, hang out with her friends and dance. Be there to pick her up afterwards and let her have some friends over afterwards. Maybe a sleepover or something.
Dont be so worried.
2006-07-18 08:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES YES!!!!!! If you don't let her go she will resent you. Besides, you cant protect her from every thing. If she wants to do something she going to do it; not letting her go to the dance isn't going to make any difference what so ever. It's a school event not an unsupervised party, let her go and enjoy her self she only gets to be a kid once. Let her have some fun as long as it's innocent.
2006-07-18 08:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kry. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let her live, If you don't she may find other ways to get around it... Let her live around her own age you can be scared but it will do her no good to never let her expierence life on her own... School dances are chaperoned and are actually safer than you would think... Its a controlled enviorment where she can be herself with her friends, rather than later on, at a party you don't know about.
2006-07-18 08:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mademoiselle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋