My husband and i were married soon as i graduated.. he rushed our marriage because he wanted us to have a place to live. The military pays more for living costs. I made a huge mistake of marrying him. I know am paying for it. Anyways.i left him two months after we were married.. and we remained Married for two years now.. he was sent to Prison about a year or so ago for Internet Child Pornography/tryin to meet a child over the net.. it was an investigator instead.I am doing my divorce on my own and im 20yrs old.. Its taking some time for me i go to the library and get the papers and now im going to file everything. He sent me a letter the other day stating HE IS NOW A CHRISTIAN.. and DOES NOT BELIEVE IN DIVORCE. he asked me to forgive him and for me to appologize for my unfaithfulness..He wants to stay married.BY NO WAY WILL I STAY MARRIED TO him... heck no.. He threw a BIBLE VERSE FROM THE OLD TEST. TO ME.. MALACHI 2:16... NO ONE LIVES BY THAT ANYMORE..Please help me on what to do..
2006-07-18 07:46:13 · 30 answers · asked by nacchick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Continue on with your plans to divorce him. What he did is SICK! And I have never heard of anyone stopping this type of behavior, so that's what you would be in for. He's in jail, feeling sorry for himself, missing his life the way he once knew it. So he's trying to pull you back in, don't let him! Tell him your happy for him, but you still want a divorce. You can get one without his consent, especially after what he has been charged with. Good luck to you.
2006-07-18 09:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They all turn christian once they are in jail. You are doing the right thing. Divorce him and move on with your life. For A grown man to be interested in a child means that something is very wrong with his brain. You can't fix that over a year and a few bible verses. When he gets out he will still have the same sick
thoughts and for the rest of his life as well. Just thank God you didn't have any children together!
2006-07-18 08:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you in this situation. I must first respond to the comment about no one living by the bible any more. That is untrue. Millions do live by the bible's standards and principals and live very fulfilling and happy lives. I'm one of them. The book was inspired by our Creator, and who else knows what we need better than the one that gave us life? The bible does say in Malachi 2:16 that God hates a divorcing but he also said at Matt. 19:9 that a divorce could be attained if it was stemming from fornication (adultery or sex of any sort outside of marriage) or death. You have biblical and legal grounds to divorce him. Tell him to read Matt. 19:9 for himself. To add a little kick tell him to read Hebrews 13:4. You may want to look into the bible more for yourself not only to improve your life now and that which is to come but to assist you in finding a good husband should you decide to marry again at some point.
2006-07-18 08:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 years of criminal law experience talking here. Jesus lives in prison. Everybody who enters finds him there, and leaves him there when they go.
If he has a decent attorney he's been told two things: 1. Show remorse and conversion... all to prove he's no longer a threat to society.
2. Get back with your wife. Show a happy, loving couple to the judge and jury.
So... without question, he's using you for his own selfish needs. Period.
As for the Bible verse... Malachi? That's not even Old Testament Law. Certainly not Christian. There are a hundred better verses to try to decieve you, and a hundred others to defend yourself with.
2006-07-18 08:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, goodness. Find a divorce lawyer. You have plenty of grounds for a divorce. Your husband may not want it, but a judge could dissolve the marriage anyway.
I'd say get a lawyer. Get rid of this guy. He has "religion" now, but what about when he gets out? Child molesters are never cured. Can you imagine having children with such a monster?
A divorce lawyer can help you. I strongly recommend it. Good luck, sweetie.
2006-07-18 08:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by oh kate! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know that pedophiles have a sexual preference for children and it is as easy for a man who is straight to stop being attracted to women as it is for a pedophile to stop being attracted to children. Personally I have encountered this with a family member and people dont change who they are and their personality because they found god. You are born with your personality and it is very much a part of you. I will not tell you if you should get a divorce, however I would ask you to look into your own heart and mind and see if you could ever have children with this man or if you could ever trust him. I personally will not associate with the person that is in my family that is a pedophile but that is my choice due to my beliefs. good luck to you and I wish you the best whatever you decide.
2006-07-18 08:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by ldaffy723 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE should have thought about the bible while surfing the net for kiddie porn! You are doing the right thing 100%!! Get rid of him quick. You could never have kids with this man, youd always have to worry about the children & God forbid they bring any friends home! If you are in fear of divorce, get an anullment citing the grounds of your divorce, you will get it, given the circumstances. Good luck & stay strong!
2006-07-18 08:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends of what u want to believe. since im catholic then the church would forgive u for what u done but i still think taht i need to pay for what u did. now speakin as a mother or a child. i mean put ur self in that person place as a mother of that child. i would think or u, what if u ever have kids with this person? who would be the next victim? ur own daughter? so i would divorce him. besides think off all the enbarrasement u gonna go thru and have gone thru.
2006-07-18 07:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him immediately. How convenient that he is now a christian when he is in jail for child pornography and knows that youa re going to divorce his sorry ***. He is jsut trying to get you to give up, and not go through with the divorse. You are definitely doing the right thing. Go through with it and don't look back.
2006-07-18 08:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two things that guys in jail believe:
1. They are never guilty.
2. Finding the Lord negates everything that they have done in the past.
Just because he is a Christian now, you do not have to share his believe. I totally belief that a marriage to a want-to-be child lover is totally OK.
2006-07-18 07:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋