Why do people want to be victims ?

Answer 1

it's easier than being accountable.
You know, like panhandlers.

Answer 2

Everyone has their own path to lead within their culture
training ( schooling etc., ), family and social culture.

For example the Sufis and even some branches of
Christianity amongst many others have a very spiritual
take on being dependant as a way to speed karma or need
fullfillment - to remove the desire to be a martyr.

Who is to say who a victim really is - perhaps
a slight mistake in an otherwise perfect approach
to life - either inadvertant or delibrate - will lead
to a very expanded new and rich set of perceptions.

Its not just the dependance of the person, but the
surrounding effects on society and the environment
that define the outcome.

Merely judging by ones personal style anothers actions
leads to differentiation and alienation which may
eventually result in the group or crowd involved being
fractured. Perhaps this is the intention.. each case has
to be carefully approached and dignity and respect for
the individuals accorded appropriately.

Follow the yellow brick road :)

Answer 3

I work in a children's home with children who cannot live with their parents for whatever reason. Many of these children have been severely abused and often by the people that are meant to keep them safe.
When in the home, many of them focus on being the victim because they are frightened that the carers in the home will reject them.
Many go out into the community and prostitute themselves or get drugs so that they don't have to get close to anyone or in their eyes get hurt by anyone and also so that if it goes wrong, which it invariably does, they can return to the victim status as this provides them with a sense of security.
However, this sense of security is based on being a victim and is therefore not a true sense of trust with the people involved.
People who perpetuate being the victim have often had something traumatic happen that they haven't got over themselves. Therefore when anything remotely bad occurs in their life, they focus on the negative as a coping mechanism.

Answer 4

There's a payoff!

When you're a victim, you don't have to work as hard to survive, the community cares for you more than if you are 'on your own'.

The question is: "Why is someone a victim?" If you look hard, you will often see that a victim's pain is due more to their own attitudes than the outside events of the world.

Answer 5

Sometimes because they need to feel protected and to know someone is there even if they are the "good" people and the other is the one who has the power to make them victims.

This may sound strange but sometimes they want other´s to feel sorry for them to have more compassion and sympathy with empathy. Sometimes we can be our own victims....

Answer 6

Victims have no strength.
When one is a victim they become taken care of and give up their power and thus their responsibility .
The situation is then easier for them to disavowal and blame others for, Victims always blame another. Blame is another transference of personal responsibility.
Basically, people like to be victims as its easier than working through the said situation.

Answer 7

Because they feel that if they are victimized, they are free from responsibility. This is why so many people actually become aroused by the idea of being sexually victimized. It allows them to partake of an otherwise shameful activity in a way that absolves them of owning up to their involvement in it. This carries over into many realms beyond the sexual.

Answer 8

Some people like the attention that relates to being a victim, it is an actually problem, chemical imbalance in their brain..they crave attention, so there fore loves to be a victim

Answer 9

Some people love getting sympathy from people....it makes them feel cared about.....I think its sad when people always want to play the victim and have people feel sorry for them....its kind of like the boy who cried wolf.....if your always playing the victim to get sympathy out of people, one day when something serious happens people are going to be so sick of feeling sorry for you that you will have nobody.

Answer 10

It is a form of status in our culture. Easy to blame others for our problems. And common. People don't want to take responsiblity for their lives. Check out the karpman drama triangle. There is a payoff in playing the victim. But you can escape from it.

Answer 11

I don't think people 'want' to be victims, I think it is in some peoples nature that they just are. They do not always choose to be this way anymore than a gay person chooses to be gay. They JUST are.